<p>Why is that high school guys don't like to ask girls out? Well, THIS girl anyway! Seriously! I've had it! </p>
<p>I'm a senior, fairly attractive (or so I've been told...it's not for me to say, although I was selected to compete in my state's teen division of the preliminary for Miss Teen USA, so I guess I'm okay looking), and one of those that I guess would be called a "high achiever"...I've got a 4.0 gpa unweighted, ranked #1 in my class of 565 (along with 3 other kids), and spend most of my time outside of school studying. I'm really starting to resent not having a social life! I think part of the problem is that I'm fairly new to my HS...this is the only the 2nd year I've been there. And, it's not easy to make "friends" in HS, especially for someone who is introverted and a science geek, like I am. Guys stare at me, but they WILL NOT talk to me. And it's hard to see other girls getting asked out, going to parties, having dates to homecoming, etc. and I end up hanging out with friends instead. </p>
<p>I hope things go better next year in college, but maybe that's just a pipe dream!</p>
<p>You said it yourself: you have no social life. </p>
<p>But try asking rather than being asked. Showing interest is a big plus for guys. If you don’t want to or are to embarrassed/nervous/unsure to do it, then now you know why guys won’t ask you.</p>
<p>Just be open. Smile when you catch a guy’s eye, don’t cross your arms and don’t look busy on your phone (otherwise you will come off as bored and unapproachable).</p>
<p>Soooooo much helpful advice here, lol. Well, I’d post a pic if I could (or knew how, lol). And no, the pageant stuff wasn’t snail mail spam. Had to send in an application and photo, and they called me, and followed up with all the legal contracts (which were ridiculous!).</p>
<p>It’s just hard to talk to guys I don’t know, and I’m fairly new to my HS, and know very few people. It sucks to be introverted.</p>
<p>Be extroverted. I was one of the most introverted, shy kids I ever knew in middle school, yet I decided to change all of that and high school has been infinitely better than middle school. Then you start knowing more people, and get invited to parties, where you can meet even more people. It’s like the gift that keeps giving.</p>
<p>Personally if I’m interested in a girl, I’m going to make a move. I’ve been burned too many times by waiting for the girl to do that and I’ve learned better. Besides, its what real men do ;)</p>
<p>Well the tide has turned…I think I figured out the problem, lol. I’m in HS but I shouldn’t be dating guys in HS. lol I have dates tonight and tomorrow night with college guys. That was easy! lol</p>
<p>Bear this in mind: while it may be super cool and “mature” for high school girls to date college guys, there are fews things more pathetic than a college guy who dates high school girls (especially if they weren’t already dating before he went off to college).</p>
<p>I’m not making this up, it comes straight from the bro handbook.</p>
<p>Hmmmm…well, the “bro” handbook is extremely narrow-minded. I’m a senior, they are sophomores…2 year age difference is definitely not a big deal, especially when EVERYONE knows girls are far more mature than guys anyway! ;)</p>
<p>I’ve never found age difference to create a disconnect; instead, life experience is what creates that divide. Life experience is clearly very correlated with age, but I’d say it’s much more directly connected to grade/period of time in your life. People are just in a different section of their lives in college than in high school.</p>
<p>Regardless of what I just said, I think there’s little harm in going on these dates and trying to get them to work; you should just be aware of the possibilities and be wary: Why are these college guys dating a high school student when I’m sure there’s no lack of hot, smart, cool college girls.</p>