<p>Quick and condensed version: Roommate and I had a major fight three weeks ago. She wouldnt talk to me, and I didnt feel comfortable in my own room, so after two weeks and trying to speak with her, I talked to the RA. The three of us talk. Put simply, we're still not even on speaking terms, and shes not willing, at all, to make our relationship any better, yet Ive said it cant hurt to try. Im miserable, I cant talk to, well what used to be, my friends because shes blabbed everything to them while Ive remained silent to them about it, and theyve (pretty much) taken her side. These were like, the only friends Ive really had this year as well.</p>
<p>I am leaving a lot of details out, but I feel the important stuff is there. Bottom line, I cant even be on my floor let alone in my room without feeling miserable, and while I hate saying this, this is affecting my school work because I get upset and distracted by it, especially when surrounded by her and these people. Is it worth it to try and transfer this year? Theres a month and a half of school left. I dont want to, but its affecting my work because I do get upset about it. And next year Im living on the same floor with these same people. Should I try and change my room for next year? The deadline for that already passed, but I think I might be able to do something. </p>
<p>Oh god, the drama. :( Any advice would be appreciated. The only other option I really have, I think, is to go to the library, a building, anywhere else as long as I can for the next month and a half to avoid being there, because this problem won't be fixed.
(And just for the record, I'm not pretending to be innocent. I know my wrong doing, but I can't go back into the past and change it.)</p>
<p>What the hell did you do? Have you apologized yet? Why have you been silent to your friends (worst decision ever)? Is it because you know you're in the wrong or something? If they are your friends too why haven't you tried to get them on your side?</p>
<p>I wouldn't transfer, either make ammends with your friends or make new friends.</p>
<p>Jesus Christ man. D: It's something we both did, and of course I apologized. That was the first thing I did once I found out what it was. She never did, though, which honestly, that didn't bother me until she started acting this way. </p>
<p>And I've only not talked to about this. That's it. Otherwise I've been acting normal towards them. I'm not going to make people choose sides, because I hate that petty behavior, and I hate putting people in the middle of something in which they're not involved. I guess I've always hated the make friends choose thing. Yeah, some of my friends have ignored it, but others haven't. I'm not going to go cry to them to "Pick me! pick me!" Maybe that's my own fault then, and I should be more aggressive on that front. I don't know.</p>
<p>I should add that every day her behavior towards me gets worse. And I can't take it. This is not an environment I feel at all comfortable living in.</p>
<p>And it's not as easy, with her at least, as "making amends". She's already said she won't try. She won't try and be nice or anything. Guess it doesn't hurt to talk to other friends, though.</p>
<p>Now I just feel more than ever I should move out.</p>
<p>I can't really gauge how to help you without knowing what the problem was. We can't pass judgment or give advice without knowing the whole story from both sides. talk to your friends about it.</p>
<p>I'd stick it out and see if things get better...many times people move on, the whole story gets old and there's always some new drama to replace it. Work on getting out and meeting new folks. It's not good to rely on just the kids on your floor for friends anyway. Join some new activities on campus to get yourself out there so you won't be focused on this group of people so much.</p>
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I’m miserable, I can’t talk to, well what used to be, my friends because she’s blabbed everything to them while I’ve remained silent to them about it, and they’ve (pretty much) taken “her side”. These were like, the only friends I’ve really had this year as well.</p>
<p>(later post) I'm not going to make people choose sides, because I hate that petty behavior, and I hate putting people in the middle of something in which they're not involved. I guess I've always hated the make friends choose thing.
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Well, there's the world the way we'd like it to be, and the real one. You've got to choose which one you're going to live in. Your roomate has no qualms about giving her side of things. You can either take steps to keep your friends, or let her pry them all away. I'm a guy, and like someone wrote before with 2 guys it would be over and past by now, but girls will spend days if not weeks scheming to destroy their rival. It's clear that's what this girl is doing to you, so are you just going to passively take it?</p>
<p>It really comes down to deciding: are you a victim or a person in charge of her own life? There is a time for "nice", and a time for assertiveness in your own interests.</p>
<p>I second the lesbian make out session but all your problems won’t be solved until you actually record the session and put it up on the internet…</p>
<p>…oh and post the link on here.
p.s. it works best if this process takes place in the shower preferably if you and the other person involved are wearing white clothes.</p>
<p>Only need to move if she’s stinky or icky. And if she threatens you in any way, you get to tell on her.</p>
<p>Stay. Place a paper clip, piece of toilet paper, or juice box on her bed some days a week. Harmless annoyances will eventually drive HER to talk to YOU about settling things --you’ve seen it on CC. Always say “oops! I have NO idea how that got there!” followed by a smile. Besides that, be a strong, independent woman who could care less that she exists. You need to establish yourself to her as the HBIC (Head B**** In Charge), atleast until some respect is given. She’ll give in eventually, they always do… Your studies will improve as you become more comfortable living with someone below your greatness.</p>
<p>Yanno, I have suggested a lesbian makeout session to her multiple times, but she just walks out of the room. :[ She’s such a prude. I think it would solve all problems.</p>
<p>I’ve noticed that everyone who knows her, they say transfer. Everyone who doesn’t, says stay. Does that mean anything? :\ I don’t know. I don’t think I’ll do it. There’s only a few weeks left.</p>