<p>Life has taken an interesting turn for my family in a happy/sad way. I've been offered, and accepted, a position at my D's college. This involves a move, of course, but it is a move to a city where spouse grew up, and nearer to my own family (not to mention D).</p>
<p>The curious thing was my D's reaction, which my spouse feared. When I said we might move to the same town, she said "great, I can come by for dinner once in a while". When I said I might work at her U, she said "good, we can have lunch." </p>
<p>She just had her last visit to the house she spent her formative years in, and she could care less. By the time the term finishes for her, we will probably be moved. But she has already told us she likes her new city better.</p>
<p>The sad part? We like where we are, we like our current jobs (but mine would undergo a huge change in a month or so) and don't really want to move. But life goes on.</p>
<p>Oh yeah, the new job comes with half off tuition.</p>
<p>So if I vanish from this scene in a month or so, it's due to moving.</p>
<p>Congratulations! My D started grad school at the U where my H teaches, and it is delightful to have her in the same city again. She often drops in around lunchtime and he takes her out. Then I get jealous because he sees her more than I do. The tuition break is nice too!</p>
<p>For all you faculty folks/spouses out there, you may know about a program called Semester At Sea. They hire faculty for a term who teach classes aboard a cruise ship. I went to a meeting with H - boy, did it sound good! You get to travel, they do the cooking AND laundry, and faculty kids get a tuition break. But I am sure S would never go for it.... wouldn't want us that close during his college years. But even without the tuition break, it still seems like a great deal, esp. for the spouse if she/he can go along!</p>
<p>What an interesting and exciting turn of events! Our kids really surprise us sometimes with their reactions, don't they? I congratulate you on your new position and I wish you all the best in your upcoming move. And anyway, you've given me some ideas...now, if I can just find something that I can do at Duke......<em>lol</em></p>
<p>Berurah, Rachel Toor is not coming back in the admission office -thank God for applicants. So, the Blue Devils may have an opening in the office. :)</p>
<p>Congratulations on the Duke acceptance -with my apologies to NMD for hijacking his thread.</p>
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They do surprise us. For several years, H was itching to move out of our large house, but I resisted not wanting to uproot S from neighborhood friends, etc. When we finally did move, after he got his driver's license, he was the one champing at the bit to get in to the new house (we did some remodeling before we could actually move and he couldn't stand the wait). Never looked back.</p>
<p>My parents did a similar thing and moved about 25 miles away from the college I attended a month before I started there. My father eventually got a job with that school as well. I saw a bit more of them than I otherwise might have in my first year, but after that I was so involved at school that it did not make much of a difference.</p>
<p>One negative was that my father had a position as head of Safety and Security, so I was under orders big-time not to get into any trouble. He made it very clear that he would not be able to cut me an inch of slack, just to prove that he was not showing favoritism.</p>
<p>The other negative was that I had to paint the new house over my first spring break, which prevented me from accepting an offer to go on tour with the Women's Chorus as a stage hand and part-time soloist. Eight days, seven states, one bus, 45 young ladies looking for something to do between concerts and two guys, the other one driving most of the time. Sigh.</p>
<p>Massdad, congrats, dude! :) Start packing boxes and throwing out all of the **** you've accumulated over the years. See, here's how I look at things...your D's reaction could have been something quite different. Upon delivering the good news that you'll be moving to the same town, she could have screamed and dropped the phone while running out of her apartment pleading to God in Heaven that no matter how hard she tries, she can't get away from her PARENTS!!! That would have been a different reaction altogether. </p>
<p>But, instead you got something quite lovely, even if it was inviting herself to dinner. :) Can't complain about that. Good luck with the move! We'll keep your spot on the bench warm while you're away.</p>
<p>Sluggbugg--you're describing the reaction I imagine my S would have if we told him we were moving to Chicago, LOL. I agree that Newmassdad's situation sounds lovely, as you say. Wonder if my S and Newmassdad will cross paths at some point? Newmassdad--he's the skinny one in a baggy sweatshirt with the uncombed hair that doesn't talk--unless you get him started on computers or Feynman or some such. . .</p>
<p>Massdad-congrats! It's obvious your D is happy at UC and will be thrilled having you nearby. Good luck on the move and keep us posted on the Chicago roadwork this summer!</p>
<p>Slugg, the reaction you described is what my spouse feared, especially because she wanted to get out of the northeast for college. Instead we got enthusiasm.</p>
<p>Sounds like congrats are in order newmassdad! I know what it's like ot really like where you live and not wants to change - but remember what we all tell the kids when they have to pack up and leave for school.......you'll mature ;) Ooops, I think that only sounds good for the kids!</p>
<p>Massdad, a great article! I'm forwarding it to my D at UCSC. She's thinking of changing her major to Physics (from Bio). An enjoyable read. ~s.bugg</p>
<p>Well from someone who moved halfway across the country, sans spouse, to take a university job....Ah, actually I don't know what to say. Good luck especially if you're taking a high level administrative job.</p>