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A waiver is only made when no one knows where the noncustodial parent is, right?
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But Flutemom said that the child support people refuse to disclose the ncc parent whereabouts to her for privacy reasons -- and I told her to document that by getting a statement in writing. </p>
<p>Obviously it will not be an automatic waiver -she will have to contact the financial aid departments at her daughter's prospective colleges and provide the documentation. But the lack of ability to learn the address coupled with lifelong history of no contact makes a strong case for waiver.</p>
<p>I don't see how that helps her. She passes a message via the child support office to father: "You have to fill out a form for FA." And he refuses. So how is this different than any NCP refusing to comply? One extra step in the comm link, that's all.</p>
<p>Well, for one thing, if there is not any back support owing, the child support obligation will stop when the kid turns 18 -- and there won't be any child support office to work with. And I don't know that the child support office would deliver those sorts of messages in any case -- though if they won't, that might be something she would want to document as well.</p>
<p>Thanks to everyone for the great discussion. You have all given me a lot to think about. I am going to get ahold of my chiild support officer this week and try to get the nitty gritty from her and report back what I find out. I would have to think that this issue has come up with someone before.</p>
<p>Some very good points have come up. I am not sure how I would come up with documentation from a professional. The school district does not know that her father has never seen her (except that he is not listed in school records anywhere) , we do not attend a church on a regular basis and the one that we do attend on occasion knows nothing of our personal situation other than that I am a single parent. I don't really have anyone other than close friends and family that knows he has never seen her or had any contact with her.</p>
<p>I guess it will all come down to having to contact each individual college financial aid offices to tell me their requirements in this situation.</p>
<p>Thanks for all of the ideas and input it has all beeen very helpful.</p>
<p>Flutemom, get a person who has known her all her life or most of her life to sign a notarized affidavit saying that there has been no contact. It should be a person with some community or professional status that wouldn't lie, ideally. And records showing that the only way you get child support is through garnishment are also proof that this person is never ever going to pay voluntarily. In many cases, it can appear like it is just a matter of making Dad change his mind which is not your situation.</p>