<p>I don't know. Last semester, I was never in my dorm. I was constantly hanging out with this group of people in another hall. I thought it was fun. But then I realized how much I cannot stand being around them anymore. They do absolutely nothing but play boardgames or videogames. They refuse to go out. I feel like I have lost my connection with them. So now I am mostly alone, either chillin in my dorm or wandering around. There are other people that I like to go out with, but they are all gone this weekend. I feel like I don't have a true friend I can just hang out with and talk to. I just want to go home. I have a group of high school friends there that I used to do everything with. I just can't wait to be with them. We love to party and go out. The friends I have here mainly do not. I feel like I am wasting my life here. Sorry for the long rant, I was just wondering if there were any other people here that really didn't like the people they were "friends" with.</p>
<p>Sometimes I feel the same way. I do have people I can just chill and talk to, and have good conversations with. But I don't know, sometimes I just think about how I don't really like them that much (more of my problem, not theirs) maybe just because I tend to compare them with my high school friends. Like I look back on HS and I have a mental picture of my group of friends, and we were a great group. Here, I don't have a "group", and the people I hang out with the most I can't imagine looking back on college and thinking, these were my college friends. Also, there are some people I like better than the people I do hang out with the most but I don't see them very much (different friends, they live in a further dorm, etc).</p>
<p>Awww, thats so sad :(! I wish I could really help you. I am only in high school but recently have been drifting away from my friends as well. I am 100% sure you are not wasting your life, though. When you are out in the real world, you def. will not regret going there.</p>
<p>sounds like you need to either study more or join a frat.</p>
<p>^Joining a frat would probably be a good idea...</p>
<p>I'm in a very similar situation. I'm involved in several clubs and organizations, so I socialize with people during the week, but when the weekend rolls around I spend a lot of time studying/hanging out with a small number of people.<br>
Part of my problem is that A) I'm quieter, and it takes me longer to form close connections with people and B) I spent freshman year (I'm a sophomore now) with two "best friends" who were actually dating each other, and the girl and I had a falling out three weeks before school ended last spring. There wasn't much time at that point to form a solid group, and first semester this year I was so stressed out that I didn't socialize much at all.
I love the school and the orgs I'm in, so wouldn't consider transferring, but I had that fantasy of finding a solid group when I went to college which didn't happen. It's also a small LAC, so know frats/sororities to join, otherwise I'd totally consider it.</p>
<p>Yea, I think I might join a frat next semester. The only thing is I just percieve them as *******s. Not sure why, it just seems they have this holier than thou attitude. Perhaps this is just a few frats, though.</p>
<p>judging from what i've been reading on these boards for a few years, this seems like a common problem</p>
<p>maybe it is just part of the so-called "human condition"</p>
<p>dont worry..this seems like the time of year to have this kind of sentinment</p>
<p>it will all be al right!</p>
<p>I know exactly how u feel, sometimes I just feel that I want that one "friend" whom I can talk to about anything and not have to worry about what I say or how I act. I dont know, sometimes its as if people around me are fake. I dont remember the last time where I was just being myself, most times, Ive noticed that Ive changed the way I am just to fit, and I dont really like that.</p>
<p>I felt fairly lonely during the first semester; I met a good number of people at first but then stopped meeting people after awhile. Now that I've gotten involved in a small club that meets for 2 1/2 hours a week, I've met a whole group of people that I am able to hang out with and get close to.</p>
<p>I haven't really changed at all since I got to college in an attempt to meet new people and fit in. I've become a lot more outgoing, but that's definitely something that I wanted to change about myself for college anyway.</p>