<p>Our D still hasn't made a decision. We've talked and talked and talked, weighed the pros/cons of all four schools, visited all of them at least once, etc., etc. None of her choices are bad ones (although two are slightly more expensive in terms of cost to us). I think the problem is none of the them really excite her. And she's suffering the weariness of a very, very challenging last semester of school with AP's looming on the horizon and an end of year project due in a few weeks. In fact, I think it's fair to say that all of us are just TIRED...this whole process has been such a long slog.</p>
<p>oldladymom,
Let me invite you to the parents of 2010 thread. There is currently an SS Indecision Cruiseship at sea, with a few on deck. Please join and enjoy </p>
<p>A method someone once suggested goes like this: write the deposit check to today’s favorite U, put it in an addressed envelope and leave it on the hall table for a day. See what happens with your student. Regrets? Panic? A sense of relief…you can hope!</p>
<p>I do feel for what you and your student are going through. You get a gold medal in patience.</p>
<p>I’ve told DS that he has to decide Friday (although I think technically the deposits can be in Saturday, May 1). </p>
<p>I think the problem is that he’s waitlisted at CMU and really wants to go there. The other two realistic choices are Stony Brook (full ride) or Rensselaer (good financial package).</p>
<p>DH and I thing Rensselaer would be the best bet for our computer geek child, but if we push he’ll do the opposite.</p>
<p>CMU promises to let people on their priority waitlist know by May 6th, so that’s really when the decision gets made (or made for us). Still, a deposit has to be made at one of the other two on Friday.</p>
<p>Oldlady, another suggestion that’s often been made on this forum, when there’s no decision and the choices appear to be “equal”…</p>
<p>Do the old-fashioned coin toss. Heads/tails. Based on your D’s response, you may be able to tell which one she’d be most disappointed to pass up.</p>
<p>S’s big dilemma, in a nutshell: hands-on IR vs. political theory. Loves both methodologies. After four years of an intense IB program, he would like to have a bit more of a life in college, but the heavy-duty life of the mind piece is very hard to resist.</p>
<p>It’s less about choosing at this point than about saying goodbye to one of the two schools he has focused his hopes and efforts on for the past two years. He knows how lucky he is to have these choices and has been giving it all a lot of serious consideration.</p>
<p>Our son was down to 2 choices and couldn’t decide. He talked to us/families/friends/teachers/counselors, did all the pros/cons, visited both multiple times including overnight stay at both, did sample 4 year course plans based on requirements/majors, etc …</p>
<p>Finally we asked him if he thinks there is any more info that can help him. He said no. We told him he needs to decide, move on and don’t look back so we gave him a deadline. He submitted his SIR yesterday.</p>
<p>I’m stuck between four. No idea where I’m leaning. Yup. (and on three waitlists). I am utterly confused and stressed.</p>
<p>For about a week I thought I was set - nearly sent in my deposit. But now I’m second guessing my choice, wondering if the campus is safe or not mostly. I felt like it was totally safe when I visited, but then I found out that wasnt quite the case - off campus is really sketchy and there was a pretty scary incident a few days ago. Could happen anywhere, I’m sure, and I’m probably just scaring myself unproductively, but I keep worrying about that factor.
But none of my other three choices are particularly safer, either (my waitlists are). I’m worried about feeling comfortable on campus. And I’m worried about name recognition. And I’m worried about the vibe of the student body and competitiveness of the classes. I want to go somewhere I will be happy, but I have no idea where that is right now.
I don’t have any sense of direction for my decision right now, I can’t organize my thoughts or understand what I want. I’m so confused! I can’t even start to think about prom or AP tests because I’m so stressed about making this decision!</p>
<p>My parents refuse to give me their opinion, because they want it to be my choice. I appreciate that, but I could really use help at this point, I’m making myself sick, lol…ugh I want this whole process to be over!</p>
<p>We’ve got the amazing-scholarship-at-a-school-that-would-be-fine-but-never-was-the-first-choice in one corner and the paltry-financial-aid-at-a-more-prestigious-school-that-could-also-be-a-good-fit-in-the-other. Both are warming up, but kid keeps looking at the 800-pound-gorilla-waitlist-school in the background.</p>
<p>Four weeks since April 1st and no decision yet in my house. Since Friday of last week S. has declined 3 of 5 acceptances, now down to two and I’m hoping it will be over May 1. But he keeps mentioning the school that wait listed him and I’m worried this could drag on for weeks! </p>
<p>I wish he could be excited about the two choices he has (both wonderful–though very different— schools with good financial aid packages) and just remove himself from the waitlist. I believe he’ll choose well (eventually)–just waiting for May 1st.</p>
<p>(I have not been a poster, just a “lurker” and a learner and really appreciate the chance to vent a little.)</p>
<p>My daughter is in college and I happened to hop back on the forum just to “see” how things are.<br>
Just thought I’d chime in.<br>
She waited until May 1st- Yep- MAY 1st to send that envelope out. It was awful. Talk about the deadline. I guess the plus side is- you are most definitely not alone. The admission offices are braced for it :)</p>
<p>If you can- I would suggest to send a deposit to more than one school. It sure is worth the relief of some the anxiety at this point in the game if your son/daughter is on a waiting list and is still holding out.</p>
<p>My daughter finally made her decision yesterday. I just want to say that I suggested to her she send in the “yes” to the two schools she was undecided about, as kgrmom suggests. But my daughter told me that it is ethically wrong as there is some poor kid on waiting list and that she was told if the two schools find out, she will be removed from both of them. So, I would not recommend that tactic.</p>
<p>We just finished a torturous process. DS has a great choice that he fine with, but the hard thing I guess has been turning down other great opportunities that will never come his way again. Even though we knew that his other offers probably weren’t as good for him, he could not commit. Maybe partly because his choice if the farthest from home. Even after he deposited the envelope in the mailbox he still felt conflicted. I am just hoping that these negative feelings don’t mean anything other than that its a hard process. Did anyone else’s kid feel this way?</p>
<p>As for double depositing, our school states that any offer is rescinded if two deposits are placed.</p>
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