<p>crazyformints, I completely understand your concerns. To be honest, I was VERY reluctant to apply to Harvard (or to go, once I was admitted) because I had the exact same impression of Harvard students as you did - insanely competitive nerds who don't know, or don't want, to have fun. THIS IS COMPLETELY OFF THE MARK. (Nearly) everyone I've met here is so nice and really excited about getting to know other people. I've participated in really efficient, effective, and useful study groups for midterms where everyone shares their notes to amass a huge amount of information you could never have processed yourself. People are not nearly as competitive as I expected. Having said that, I am in all-humanitites classes this semester, so the experience could be different for a math or science major. From what I've heard from frieds, though, I highly doubt it.</p>
<p>Also, everyone at Harvard is deeply involved in a few activities that keep them busier than classes do! I know that's definitely true in my case. People care passionately about their extra curriculars (and they are amazing here -- there is something for EVERYTHING you could imagine, and they're all very active and well-run) and put a lot of time into them. I'm really happy here, and though I don't like to generalize, I think I can say the same for almost everyone I know.</p>
<p>Yes, there are many people here who don't drink, but still like to have a good time. I do drink, but there are weekends where I don't want to go out and feel like just hanging out with good people, and that's perfectly fine too. There's no pressure to drink, from what I can tell. 40% of Harvard student arrive as freshmen <em>NEVER</em> having had a drink in their lives. You will have plenty of great company, even if you don't want to drink.</p>
<p>I can't compare prof-student relations here with any other school because Harvard is all I know, but I definitely don't feel starved for attention or anything. I went to a very small high school where I had close relationships with all my teachers, and that's obviously not possible here. However, if you make the effort to approach professors after class or go to their office hours, you can develop great relationships with them. All of my professors encourage their students to talk with them or come by office hours. They genuinely want to get to know their students -- learn their names, answer their questions, hear their stories. Even in large lectures, many take the effort to learn students' names.</p>
<p>However, it's true that you'll likely be closer with your TF (teaching fellow). The professors teach every single lecture themselves, but you will meet once a week in section with your TF to discuss material, clarify things, etc. Sections are usually capped at 15-20 students, and so your TF will know your name. They stay in frequent communication with the professor, and the professor will sometimes drop by section to listen in, so participating in section is really important. I can say for sure that all of my professors know that I am a student in their class, and 3 of 4 know my name. (The last not knowing my name is really my fault -- i haven't bothered going to office hours or introduced myself). Overall, I would say the professors are very willing to talk with students and get to know them, and potentially develop great friendships with them as well.</p>
<p>Hope this helped. I'm obviously biased, as I love Harvard. If you want me to be more critical, or answer more questions, let me know and I'll do my best :)</p>