Are Guys Threatened By Smart, Intelligent Girls?

<p>Okay, I know we live in the twenty-first century and all and I shouldn't be asking this, but I've doing a lot of thinking and I would have to say that most guys are. I'll start by saying my thoughts were sparked by a Sex And The City episode where one of the girls (Miranda) posed as a stewardess and got more guys that way than as being her true self, a harvard-educated lawyer. I'm honestly wondering if this is true? I know a lot of girls dumb themselves down to appear more attractive and I've always despised this tactic, but now I'm second-guessing myself...</p>

<p>hmmm, my psychology teacher told me that i would have a hard time getting married because i'm an intelligent girl.</p>

<p>Why would I feel threatened by a smart girl? Hell I'd welcome a smart girl. If it's one thing that's hard for me it's talking to dumb people. People that just blabber about a bunch of nothing and have no idea what they're talking about. I usually don't even speak much when I'm talking to dumb people. I just sit there and listen until the person is done talking and agree with whatever they've said just to stop them from talking again.</p>

<p>Intelligence plays a factor in a lot of things. It's hard for me to associate with people that are just plain dumb. I mean you don't have to be smart at all, but at least display some kind of intelligence.</p>

<p>" I just sit there and listen until the person is done talking and agree with whatever they've said just to stop them from talking again."</p>

<p>Hahaha...I know exactly what you mean.</p>

<p>i find intelligence in a girl to be a huge turn on...</p>

<p>really, eh? well that's refreshing</p>

<p>The three guys who replied, where have you been all my life? Hahaha. I find that guys are less interested in smart girls. For me, the number of interested guys drops after they find out what classes I'm in and how I do in them. Sigh.</p>

<p>I find intelligent girls to be a turn on, but only if they aren't the "I'm smarter than you and love to argue all stupid facts I can to prove it to you." type. I am attracted to the smart and poised, not smart and superior.</p>

<p>I think it really depends on the circles you run in...
it's true, most guys don't like girls that are smart (or smarter than them)
but that doesn't mean that there are a lot of nice guys who do like smart girls! Generally, (i think) that group consists of intelligent guys also, because then they are not insecure with their intelligence...
I think that made no sense... maybe it is time for me to go to bed...</p>

<p>A lot of guys are just threatened by the fact that somone might be smarter than them...so they like less-intellegent girls.</p>

<p>"For me, the number of interested guys drops after they find out what classes I'm in and how I do in them."</p>

<p>meli- this is so true!!!</p>

<p>Well that would make sense. The more intelligent you are the less insecure you are about a girl that is intelligent as well.</p>

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but that doesn't mean that there are a lot of nice guys who do like smart girls! Generally, (i think) that group consists of intelligent guys also, because then they are not insecure with their intelligence...

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<p>correct! :)</p>

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I am attracted to the smart and poised, not smart and superior.

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<p>Agreed... girls with brains/confidence...and girls who have their stuff together and want to make something of themselves...that's a lethal combination in my book...</p>

<p>I don't know, I've met many a smart boy who are still plenty insecure about smart chicks. Has less to do with intelligence itself and more to do with overall self-confidence. </p>

<p>I've also found that the cocky guys that no one wants anything to do with arent bothered by smart girls because obviously they're God's gift and no womantype could match their superior and impressive intellect. Not surprisingly, these ones are usually fairly braindead. </p>

<p>I keep hearing that hot, smart chicks are intimidating (from well-meaning friendboys whom i may or may not turn to for consolation) and I cling onto that notion very, very tightly. Because otherwise I might hate my life. Maybe.</p>

<p>I like intelligent girls who can hold their own (but not necessarily argue opinions to make a point, but can make a valid point that I am brought to agree with or acknowledge as valid)... the most attractive thing a girl can do is make an assertion about a particular topic/subject and then when asked to explain... CAN! It raises their attractiveness bar 10 fold in my book.</p>

<p>However, when a girl just makes a point about something, and then when asked to expand the thought, and can't? Well, then I just assume she is simply re-stating something somebody else (probably a guy she likes or a professor) said.</p>

<p>LOL, Allie. Don't hate your life. It will get better - it just takes too damn long to get better. </p>

<p>My life through high school was hell because I was incredibly nerdy. </p>

<p>College: still nerdy, but things got a bit better. Fair amount of guys who were downright intimidated up through the 20, 21 age range. </p>

<p>Law school - some men who are intimidated, but law school fosters a lot of weird, weird stuff. Lot of insecure people - 'tis the nature of the system. Still suffer for being independent and tough and ambitious. Eh. Never met a man who is worth sacrificing any of it for. ;) Did, in some respects, get better, although I see a lot of men who prefer the cupcake girls.</p>

<p>Working in DC this summer -um, I need male Off. I think that the guys who are pushing 30 are finally growing up enough to not be intimidated and to actually be tired of flakiness and clinginess. For the first time in my life, I've met men who want brilliant women. Not "smart but not as smart" women, not "intelligent but would be a lovely housewife" women, but the intellectuals who are going to be running things.</p>

<p>Lulz, no worries. The hate was mostly for dramatic effect. I actually haven't been this content with my life in...ever. I'm just getting impatient with the guy thing (apparently UCLA forgot to admit the small group of attractive, noncrazy, AND smart guys that I know must exist...somewhere). </p>

<p>That said, I always tend to attract the 28+ crowd, myself. I'd honestly be thrilled with ~26 (I'm 20). But that's about where I draw the line. Everything older than that seems...too old. And the ones even around my age or younger are just..incompatible. Blah. </p>

<p>It will happen. Someday. </p>

<p>Probably.</p>

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"I'm smarter than you and love to argue all stupid facts I can to prove it to you." type. I am attracted to the smart and poised, not smart and superior.

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<p>Oh so you can't handle a girl who likes to engage in civil debate? Right right, I forgot: girls are supposed to be congenial. Sure they can be smart -- but DON'T THEY DARE have an opinion and feel the obligation to voice the heck out of it. Exhibition is uncouth. Damn.</p>

<p>I don't think most guys are intimidated. Too much too explain :p But as far as straight intimidation...Guys will go for girls irrespective of intelligence as long as they're good looking.</p>

<p>True.</p>

<p>And that's annoying.</p>