<p>I'm a Freshman in dorms and I really like this place. It's nice, it's a far distance away from home, but not such that if I needed something, I couldn't go home and come back in the same day. It's been about 2 months in and I am not really liking the people too much. I have gotten fairly close to one kid and we even talked about housing together next year, but other than that, there aren't too many people here that I can really chill with. My roommate hangs out with all h/s friends and do a lot of drugs, which is fine, but I'm not really into it. I would love going out and partying but I kinda want the immediate people around me to be people I can trust. Quite frankly, I don't really have any friends, and to say that the people here are not my type is ridiculous. There are like 20k kids here, and you mean to tell me I can't find one kid that I could totally chill with? And it sucks because all my friends went off to different schools and seem to be having an enjoyable time, but I can't make a single friend! Aside from all of this, I would not even think of transferring. This would be the ONLY reason why I would transfer...I am joining two clubs next semester, but I'm not quite sure where that'll get me. Are people a good reason to transfer?</p>
<p>In your case I'd stay stick with it. You could have trouble making friends ANYWHERE, especially since you're new and a freshman. If you like the classes, academics, etc then stay and be yourself and friends will come naturally. I know it sucks because I know the feeling of not feeling connected and feeling like you'll never meet friends, but don't worry, you will.</p>
<p>I agree with dramakitty - you are only at your school a short while and are expecting great friendships in a short time period...it doesn't usually work like that. Solid friendships take time to find and foster. It is good that you are joining things...you need to expose yourself to more people so you can find those that click with you. Keep trying....it sounds like with some time and effort you will find those college buddies you are seeking.</p>
<p>It's probably not going to be better anywhere else.</p>
<p>You're still in the transition period. It takes time to make friends. Most people don't find real friends until the end of their freshman year or beginning of their sophomore year. Right now, freshmen are interested in taking advantage of their independence and freedom by going out and exploring without being tied down to "home" (their dorms, rooms).</p>
<p>Just stick it out.</p>
<p>I had the same problem my first year and it got so much better the second year. Just try to get more involved in school activities.</p>
<p>Will do but I have just always had good friends wherever I've gone. I guess it's good that I go through this, but some of the other kids have already made their friends and here I am playing guitar all the time when I am not doing homework//eating alone. I don't care about eating alone, but it just sucks that I am doing everything alone...</p>
<p>You're not going to make friends unless you join some activities. Through activities related to your interest is typically how one makes friends in college.</p>
<p>If you like music, join some clubs related to music. </p>
<p>Since there are 20,000 students at your school, surely there are some activities that interest you.</p>
<p>Community service activities are excellent to join because you get to do things with other people, which gives you something immediately to talk about. Helping others also will help you feel better and get you out of feeling self pity.</p>
<p>You also can reach out to other people in the caf by asking if you can sit with others who are sitting alone. Then get into a conversation with them. </p>
<p>Transferring won't help you because you'll still not know how to make friends in new situations -- a skill that you'll need to learn in order to have a happy life.</p>
<p>Transferring won't make it any easier to make friends - transferring because you're having trouble meeting people is probably a very bad idea, because odds are you'll have the same problems meeting people at a different school.</p>
<p>I wouldn't consider that a valid reason.
You don't go to college specifically to make friends and then write on your resume that you made twenty-two new BFFs at x-University.</p>
<p>A lot of it may be the dorm you live in. I found myself only hanging out with my hallmates my first year, and looking back there is only one I actually liked. There are a lot of people at my school I click with, they just weren't living where I was.</p>