are these relationships worth it?

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<p>Junior year seems to be the year of relationships in my group of friends. They all have girlfriends. The thing is though they are all dating seniors. So, my question is are these relationships worth it? They are all starting to think about what they are going to do next year. In fact, one of my friends who is dating a senior is going abroad next semester, so this may be the last semester he spends with his girlfriend, unless she continues onto grad school here. </p>

<p>One of my friends already went through the whole dating a senior last year and ended up having a painful breakup. They are still friends though. However, he is back at it again this year and going out with another senior.</p>

<p>I guess I'll just have to see what happens...</p>

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<p>In reply to the titular question - no.</p>

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<p>^agree with no</p>

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<p>In general, no.
However, I have seen it actually work out. I know several couples still dating, and one pair that just got engaged.</p>

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<p>Yes, although you won’t figure out why for a while and nobody could ever explain it to you.</p>

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<p>Yes, if you like/love them enough. I was a sophomore and had a relationship with a senior. We are still together 2 years later (and we dated for one before that). I was transferring schools and he was applying to grad schools. We looked in similar areas. He didn’t get in anywhere so got a job where I am going to school. I will be going to school for at least one more year after this some place new (hopefully). He will follow me again. Then, he gets the pick and I plan on following him.</p>

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<p>what are people opinions about dating an international student?</p>

<p>I’m not an international student, but all the girls i’ve ever been interested in have turned out to be international students.</p>

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<p>You guys are thinking way too hard. If you love and care for someone (genuinely), no matter the circumstances or obstacles, you guys will find a way to make it work. </p>

<p>If the distance is too much and somebody ends up cheating, then the problem is solved. You guys weren’t met for each other, because if you were – your probably wouldn’t hurt you like that.</p>

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<p>onhcetum - First, love is a trick plays upon us so that we reproduce. Second, distance relationships seldom if ever work in real life. Perhaps in the parallel universe of romantic comedies they do, but here, not so much.</p>

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<p>If there is one thing I have learned from college it is this:</p>

<p>People are selfish.</p>

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<p>How about this- it’s not your relationship so it’s really none of your business. If they love each other and want to make it work, then they will. If not, then they won’t. That simple.</p>

<p>I feel bad for a lot of the people in this thread. People are so pessimistic.</p>

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<p>Pessimism often softens the blow of failure.</p>

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<p>Romanigypsyeyes, I used to agree with reasoning like that but I think it’s different now. Unless actual commitment is formed (getting engaged or married) I think true long term distance relationships are VERY difficult in college, even when you love someone. The true question becomes, “Where is this going? Am I just wasting my time?” IMO</p>

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<p>^ They are difficult. Most will not last. I don’t doubt that. But it’s really not up to any of us to say whether or not they are “worth it”.</p>

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<p>If your love is that strong, it will last. I know a fair amount of people–including myself–that are in long distance relationships in college and it works fine (not saying that it is easy, but it is doable if you are very compatible, committed, and dedicated). I know people older than me too that have lasted in long distance relationships for a long time. It just has to be very strong love and something you have to very different to making it through…and if you love that person enough it is more than worth it.</p>

<p>But LDR’s are not for everyone or every relationship.</p>