Are they driving you INSANE too?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>The parents...</p>

<p>Two hours do not go by without a lecture on college or a "discussion" regarding my total ineptitude (i.e., guilty of major felonies such as not practicing the instrument for a day, missing a couple days of exercise, and sleeping past 10am). It's really getting just ridiculous. </p>

<p>And it's not like I'm just cruising along, eating their food, spending their money (ok well I'm not saying I don't do those). But actually, I'm also at the top of my class, involved in both clubs and varsity sports, playing more than one instrument, and am not exactly wild or rebellious. At the same time, I'm hardly exagerating when I say it sends my mom into a rage or serious one-month depression at the sight of an A- as opposed to an A or A+ on a test. AHHHHH </p>

<p>So I'm curious: are anyone else's parents like this? Are they this obsessed, or do I need to once again try to set those two nutcases straight? </p>

<p>I mean, the whole thing is really almost comical... key word, "almost"</p>

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<p>Oh, I feel your pain. I'm a rising sophomore taking the PSAT's this fall, and a conversation I had with my mom this afternoon...</p>

<p>Mom: You're prepared for the PSAT's, right?
Me: I hope so....
Mom: You better do well.
Me: But this time it doesn't count towards National Merit!
Mom: You should still get a perfect score.</p>

<p>I gave up on showing my parents homework and tests a long time ago. Thankfully our school does not do A+ or A- on report cards. My parents flip over a B, and when I do get straight A's, I barely get any thanks. It's just ridiculous. It's part of the reason I want to go far far FAR away for college.</p>

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<p>Oh I understand just where you're coming from. lol yanners, my mom and I had the <em>exact</em> same conversation today. She has a whole list of punishments lined up for me if I don't do well on the <em>sophomore</em> psats and if i get anything less than an 800 on the math level2 this fall. I never show my parents my tests unless I get 100; otherwise, they might blow a fuse...
O well...I guess it's good that my parents care about my future... :/</p>

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I gave up on showing my parents homework and tests a long time ago.

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Me too! Oh!</p>

<p>My parents don't really push super high grades. They used to, but I was really tired of it. I got a C on purpose. A lot of yelling, but now their standards have lowered to more REALISTIC goals. I'm happy. :)</p>

<p>They don't talk to me about college or SATs or anything. But whenever I sleep past 10 am, oh no. </p>

<p>And I get beaten when my room's unclean. I still have bruises from last week. My beautiful 16 year old body... v_v" I mean, how crazy. I get beaten for having an untidy room, but nothing for catching dinner on fire.</p>

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<p>haha, my parents don't care at all about academics. I took the PSAT as a sophomore last year, and when I went to show my parents my scores, they had no clue what the PSAT was or that I had even taken it. And then when I went to show my mom my AP Score, she was like, "um... what the heck is this!?" I've asked them if they really cared where I went to college, and all they say do whatever you want, but the community college in town is quite nice. <<<< drives me insane</p>

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<p>cornerstones:</p>

<p>I feel for you, my parents are kinda like yours. The only reason I'm applying to Princeton is because my dad feels that it's the best school for me. Period. I kinda don't wanna go there, but the thing is, if I'm accepted to Princeton and let's say for the sake of argument every other school I apply to (other great schools like JHU, William and Mary, Washington and Lee University, Carnegie Mellon, my state university, UVA, etc.) my dad will refuse to pay tuition unless I go to Princeton. He's only in it for the prestige.</p>

<p>Also, if I tell my dad I got a 95% on a test, he'll ask me, "where did the other 5% go?"</p>

<p>HOWEVER, I do appreciate all that my parents have done for me, because if I had a different set of parents, chances are I wouldn't be where I am now. LOVE YOUR PARENTS!!!</p>

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<p>My mom knows nothing about colleges and college related stuff. I've explained to her a good two or three times what the PSATs are and what my scores mean.</p>

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<p>I wish my parents cared that much. Or, you know, at all. I'm the only one who ever brings it up. Once, they tried to convince me to take a gap year.</p>

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<p>My parents used to be like that. Freshman and sophomore year they'd hound me every night, I had to have homework done, everything packed for school the next night, etc. etc. On Saturdays and Sundays they'd force me to go to tutors and sunday classes, and they would constantly check my test and quiz grades.</p>

<p>But now, they're amazingly chill, especially for asian parents(I know it is a stereotype). I haven't touched a textbook in 2 months and my parents don't seem to mind at all. </p>

<p>I thought when I got my license they'd have all these restrictions and curfews, but basically I get free reign to go where ever I want, whenever I want(as long as I don't total the car).</p>

<p>And the funny thing is that my grades have improved dramatically since my parents have stopped taking such a hands on approach. Freshman year I had a 4.2/5, junior year my parents didn't even bother asking me about the report card until I told them and I had one of the highest GPAs in my class, 4.9/5.</p>

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<p>yo wanna switch parents? a typical conversation with my mom:</p>

<p>Mom: Patrick.. whats your mark? (overall)
Patrick: Like a 78 or something...
Mom: TINA (sis) got a 98%!!!!
Patrick: Do I look like Tina?
Mom: If you dont get a 95% next year Im not sending you back to the best school in Canada!
Patrick: cool.</p>

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<p>My parents are ridiculous as well. I'm the oldest, which means I've been stuck with their crazy really strict freaking-out-over-a-B selves my whole life. They've kinda been more cool lately, because I'm actually a good kid and don't do anything bad, but the grades are still paramount. My little sister went from our crappy, tiny private K-8 grammar school to the 7th and 8th grade program at the top magnet high school in chi town. they have them doing freshman year algebra in 7th grade. anyway, she failed a couple of quizes and my dad went crazy. </p>

<p>Oh, and I hate the we're-joking-but-not-really "omg, why did you get a 92%??? or 94%???</p>

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<p>I totally agree with all of the above posters. But my parents have always been annoying me. Even when I was 7, I always thought, when I grow up, I'm going to go to college/move to California. </p>

<p>I'm also a rising sophmore and my parents are here, making me to PSAT work all the time, even though they don't count. They're also saying things like "If you don't study during the summer, you'll be stupid when you get back to school." Please, I seriously doubt that. </p>

<p>And I'm not a bad student. I near the top of my grade and do other ECs. But my parents also dissaprove of my ECs. They push me to do things like Model UN, when I don't like Social Studies. It's the plague of the stereotypical asian parents. They are just sooooo controlling. </p>

<p>I don't even want to imagine what they will be like when it's time to apply and choose colleges.</p>

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<p>Yes They Are Driving Me Insane!
They Talk About It Every Single Day!</p>

<p>Corner stones, you have asian parents right?</p>

<p>some of mine:</p>

<p>(when i was a sophomore)
dad: did you take SATs yet?
me: no. i'm taking it next year
dad: YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO TAKE IT ALREADY! everyone took it already!</p>

<p>me: I want to go to berkeley.
dad: NO! you have to go to stanford. (or you have to go to harvard)</p>

<p>collegehereicome,
Also, if I tell my dad I got a 95% on a test, he'll ask me, "where did the other 5% go?"</p>

<p>LOL</p>

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<p>my mom came into the room where i was reading this morning and asked, "why haven't you started making lunch yet?" i said, "i didn't know i was supposed to; it would've helped if you had told me". she verbally abused me (telling me i was lazy, worthless, selfish, etc, and that i needed a good beating) while i chopped the onions, then threw me out for listening to my ipod when i couldn't take the insults anymore. now i'm back, i finally got some food, and she's been raging at me for the past hour.</p>

<p>yeah, i'd say she's pretty crazy.</p>

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<p>well....I think one way or the other parents always get us insane(not that we wouldn't do the same with them :p ).if they care about it too much they're stressful, if they don't it's another way of being stressful.my parents do care about it despite not knowing much of the process(I'm an intl) and because of this I was denied some fun trips with my friends....by the motive that...."you should really study more"....it's stressful for me because I (almost) know how to organize my time and I hate when someone keeps telling me what to do.... so far I've proved I can manage organizing myself(though none of the things I did was similar to the admission process :o )....anyway I believe it's a major matter of concern for them too....if you go to college...and especially where you go to college....they decided to support me in this whole thing(it was I think the most important decision of my live when I realized I wanna come to th US) and consequently they expect me to do the best I can to succeed....seems fair enough...at least to me...</p>

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<p>My parents are so friggin random. Basically, they show no interest in my schoolwork unless it's to **** me off. My senior schedule's on the fridge and I'm taking 5 APs senior year. My dad says I can't do it because I'm a slacker and due to "past behavior." I mean, my GPA is good but yes, I do slack. I have this mentality of "Why do work that isn't needed?" even though 2 of my teachers have praised me on my "wonderful work ethic." Seriously, lmao. By past behavior, he's referring to me missing 20 days of school (much cutting) on BLOCK scheduling. I guess he has a point but he never cared before. It's like, eff off please. So he sits me down to talk to me for, like, a freaking half hour. No explanation satisfies him. I promised to have perfect to near perfect attendance. He just blahdiddydiddyblahs and refuses to S T F U for the sake of my sanity. He likes to beat dead horses. :p</p>

<p>My mom doesn't bug me as much. She just wishes I'd stick to a schedule. Meaning now. It doesn't really matter that I'll have a ginormo planner come September. I go out with friends and do stuff during summer vacay. I volunteer and babysit. No definite day-by-day schedules for this girl (yet). ;)</p>

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<p>omg IM NOT ALONE haha </p>

<p>To College<em>Here</em>I_Come, yanners, Canadian, and evanescenteuphoria:</p>

<p>typical convo:
Dad: Did you get that science test back today
Me: Yeah I'm really pleased; I got a 98
Dad: Why didn't you get a 100?
Me: Uhh... I missed a multiple choice question
Dad: There wasn't any extra credit?</p>

<p>To Morgaine:</p>

<p>I too hate the "we're joking but actually no we're totally serious you pathetic failure" tone... like, it's definitely NOT totally hilarious when you work your a** off, do well, and then get the same ***** about not getting a PREFECT score (the profanity really kicks in thinkin' about this nonsense!).</p>

<p>To evanescenteuphoria:</p>

<p>Actually, my parents are not asian. They're caucasian! They're actually incredibly bright, but fail to realize that the academic world is so completely different now than it was 30 years ago. UGH!</p>

<p>To thisyearsgirl:</p>

<p>Yes! It's like I'm suppsoed to have some sort of built-in list of allll these things I'm supposed to do! Isn't it enough that I do all my work, do SAT prep, play instruments and sports, and stay out of any trouble?! Ahh! And for the record, I do vacuum and dishwash from time to time!</p>

<p>To xhohosntwinkiesx:</p>

<p>I kind of slacked off this year in my AP class. My parents were super p-oed and told me I was going to fail and everything. They were asking me questions the day before and the day of, and I didn't know any of them! They seriosuly had a melt-down and started cursing at me and totally bi<em>ch-slapping me left an right. I even had to hear about "how badly" I did for months after the exam (Mom: "Oh, speaking of college choices, that 2 is going to sink you). Welll, turns out I got a 5... But even so, I get cr</em>p for not having gone nuts in that course. I mean, I did do SOME work... I did work! I really did! I just didn't kill myself. And even though I got the damned 5, they are suggesting that I drop one of the APs I'm signed up for this year because I, apparently, can't "handle" it! </p>

<p>must turn 18 ....</p>

<p>lol</p>

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<p>cornerstones, I feel your pain. My dad suggested I drop 2 APs. I'm also taking senior project in summer school. I missed like 4 days but I'm still gonna get a stellar mark. My teacher loved my paper. My dad goes, "Because you cut those days, I'm disappointed in you, even if you get that A. If you got a B and put your all into it, I'd be happier." W T F?</p>

<p>Then he *****es about the money he paid for it. BUT I'M PASSING...so who should give a rat's ass????</p>

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<p>"Because you cut those days, I'm disappointed in you, even if you get that A. If you got a B and put your all into it, I'd be happier." W T F?</p>

<p>WOW. wicked logic lol.</p>

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<p>I know, right? Can't he be happy I don't bust my ass and get stressed as a result?</p>

<p>Guess not. :(</p>