<p>When they bring home their significant-other, and we can't stand that person with every fiber of our being, how are we going to react?</p>
<p>I like most of her friends- but if I found she was serious about someone that I had a major problem with- I wouldn't hold back- I would speak up ( possibly talking to her other friends first to see if they had same impression)- but I know kids who when very young( early- early 20s) became involved with people who were drug/alcohol abusers- violent- prone to rages, and the parents didn't say or do anything that indicated they had a concern- then you start to have kids with these people, and you look back wondering why no one said anything-
remember silence can indicate assumed approval-
Now if they are just irritating as hell- that I would hold back on- but anytime I think one of my friends or family is getting into a situation that could be dangerous, I would never forgive myself if I didn't butt in.</p>
<p>( I did find out in retrospect that she had , had a relationship with someone I found irritating as hell- snobby- pretentious- the whole nine yards- thank goodness it didn't get to the point where she brought her home ;) - it was hard enough to stand her when I just thought they were friends- I did bite my tonque though- yea for me! )</p>