Are you a snob? Am I? What are you snobby about?

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Well said!! That is 100% true. It is not possible for us to know everything and we all have our strong points.

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I’m supposedly a good Mexican cook? Mexican-American since birth. People like my “comidas”. I have been making tortillas since the age of 14.
Can’t stand mole (it can be made with a variety of flavors); never liked it as a child and my kids don’t like it either. Hubbie can take it or leave it.

I say that if you are willing to put effort and time into making homemade food at home, then good for you! I used to hate being on my feet for 4 hours making and prepping a meal. One meal!! Masa flour works! Canned Chipotle chilis work! Secret to good mexican food= seasonings.

I am a snob about products from China. The quality is just not there. I put back items that say “made in China” because I already know that I will be disappointed. When I order from Amazon, I’m trying to support American-made products and green companies.

I do love the clothing coming out of Vietnam. Good quality products; the seams and styles are well-made. Nordy’s carries a lot of their products.

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Exactly. Being a know-it-all is different from being a snob. I think things that one could be snobbish about are more subjective in nature. Superimposing, “I know better than you because I have better taste,” would be snobby. Or bossy. “You should do it my way because I have better taste than you do.”

The one-up-man-ship could be a snobby thing depending on context, I think.

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Webster’s New World Dictionary defines “snob” as:

one who thinks that money and rank are very important, and has contempt for those he considers inferior

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I’m a snob about manners. If someone is slobby at the table, I’m very judgmental and disapproving. That extends to being judgmental about correct English. I cringe and judge when someone starts a sentence with "Me and my mother were . . . . "

But there’s a difference between being judgmental about other people and having high standards for oneself. I am very hard on myself when it comes to entertaining – it has to be done right, and I think I have it down to a science – but I don’t judge others for not being as organized.

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The quality and styles are mainly determined by the buyers and what profit margin they are willing to take. You get what you pay for. Vietnamese wages are much lower than China so we will see more of their products.
On the other hand, I do support Made in USA products and I hope our greedy corporations will bring manufacturing back to US.

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I remember feeling snobby when I judged someone I knew for reading romance novels. Then I hated myself for it!

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I’m thinking I might be an occasional spelling and grammar snob. I will totally judge a business for a misused apostrophe, but I permit myself the inappropriate insertion of “totally” earlier in this sentence.

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I am not. If people like things that aren’t for me, well, bully for them. I don’t give it a thought.

I am, however, picky about lots of things.

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I’m a shoe snob
 while I do not judge people by the footwear they wear, I like my shoes to fit perfectly, look good, be somewhat stylish, and last a long time. I would rather buy a gently worn pair of Ferragamos than settle for a trendy new pair by cheaper brands that looks like it would fall apart after one season. :high_heel: :athletic_shoe: :mans_shoe:

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I like the concept of “knowledge snob”, as I am probably one. Not to brag, but I feel that I know lots of “stuff”, and those who act like they know it all really bother those of us who actually do know it all!!!

For example, we posted pictures from a recent short trip on Facebook. I labeled a photo and a relative corrected my spelling. Things is, I had the place name spelled correctly and he did not!!! Annoys the hell out of me.

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@PetraMC @BunsenBurner

I think this is where I am struggling. Is being picky or having personal preferences the same thing as snobby?

I do think there is some insecurity with my friend about how much money she spends on things. In a recent FB post she made some comment about how husbands really just don’t need to know how much some things cost. And, I know she buys her handbags off RealReal and Poshmark, so she isn’t paying full price. It’s clear she still doesn’t want her dh to know. She poo-poos retirement (“Ive never aspired to be retired”), but I’m not so sure she can really afford to. She is 70. But, maybe she just likes working!

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Is this because she and her husband have the kind of money disagreement where expensive items that one values are seen as a frivolous expensive waste of money by the other? I.e. he may see her $X0,000 handbag as a frivolous expensive waste of money, while she may see his $X0,000 watch similarly (if they know how much these items cost).

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I have no idea what kind of money disagreements they have. I do know that they are buying a new home which she wants to remodel update, and he told her she has to work another year to do what she wants. She’s a university professor.

She just spends money on things I would not choose to spend my money on. And she has lots more of everything than I would choose to have. I don’t think I judge her act snobby about that difference, but maybe I do. I tend to say, “You should have what you want!” And, I mean that. She should.

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This is how I would define it too, so no, I don’t consider myself one.

This also describes me. I scratch my head and wonder why people want pet rocks or expensive handbags/cars/shoes/clothes, but then I just shrug it off and note it takes all of us to keep the world running smoothly - while spending more to get organic foods and humanely raised meats or travel or something I consider worthy of paying for.

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I don’t really care what people spend their money on as long as they can afford to spend it. eg My mom spent a lot at casinos - good for her. She enjoyed it and could afford it. My dad spent a lot gambling in other ways - and went into a bit of debt to do it. Not good in my eyes.

One can switch out gambling for pretty much anything else. If you have it, feel free to spend it. If not, uh


I make exception for things that are illegal or really immoral or whatever. (No, even if you have enough money it’s not ok to subscribe Epstein’s “issues” or buy pets to abuse or similar.)

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I agree. But that’s ethics, not snobbery.

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I know what you mean! I’m a total water snob. It’s all about Fiji or Voss for me. Don’t even think about offering me Dasani or Evian!!!

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Well, you wouldn’t get those at my place. :sunglasses: But I’m guessing you wouldn’t be fond of tap water either. What if we call it “Farm Fresh?” :wink:

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What is special about Fiji or Voss water, versus the tap water (or distilled water if you do not trust the tap water)?

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