Are you close to the people on your floor?

<p>I'm a freshman and I live in the freshmen dorms (obviously). It seems like some floors are so close and others aren't, like mine. From day one, everybody starting forming little cliques. All the "cool kids" sat at the same table in the dining hall during Welcome Week. A bunch of the girls are "BFFs" after a week and a half. I feel like I spend more time on my friends' floors because I can't stand anybody on mine. They all act like immature high-schoolers. So what's your floor like? Is everybody close or just friendly?</p>

<p>im really good friends with my roommate and next door neighbor but other than that, dont really connect with the forty something people on my floor.</p>

<p>I never formed a connection with my floormates. For the first few days of orientation, my floormates pretty much kept their door close. For the few that kept their door open, they didn’t seem interested in hanging out or getting to know each other. I tried being extra-outgoing by introducing myself and striking up small talk. I also had issues with my roommate. In turn, nothing really formulated in terms of friendship, and cliques started to form almost immediately. I even posted a thread about having a hard time getting to know people before classes started.</p>

<p>I ended up switching dorms today for some roommate-related issues. I have to say, my new floor is so nice! People were walking in while I was unpacking to introduce themselves and said I could grab dinner with them. Big change from my last hall. I’d say it really does vary from floor to floor.</p>

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<p>I’m a freshman and I live in upper-class dorms (obviously).</p>

<p>I don’t know what your definition of ‘close’ is…</p>

<p>I know all of them (and talk with them from time to time), but don’t hang out with any of them</p>

<p>I think the smaller the dorm is the more close you are to people. Halfway through last semester I did a dorm switch after a roommate problem. I was placed in a living learning community where there were about 50 of us in the entire dorm, and about 20 of us on one floor. </p>

<p>When I moved in, I was a bit fearful and nervous that I would have to go around and introduce myself to these people who have been living together for a semester and a half. Most of them ended up coming in and saying hi to me instead! My roommate was sooo pleasant it was a bit scary, hehe, especially when I compared her to the other roommate I ran away from. </p>

<p>Everyone trusted each other even to the point that we left our doors unlocked when we heading across the hallway to talk to someone. I wouldn’t suggest that, haha, but yeah, we trusted each other like that. We would borrow stuff from one another, have dinners once in a while. It was pretty cool. It’s a shame I only got to live there for two months, but I was glad to experience it.</p>

<p>Yeah, I agree with you MushaboomBlue. There’s 58 people on my floor, and 9 other floors. I’m sure if it was smaller, people would be closer. I know the kids in the honors dorm are pretty close because it’s dramatically smaller. I guess it doesn’t really matter because I already have a few friends and I’ll make more once clubs start up, but the immaturity on my floor is irritating.</p>

<p>And tobacco…lucky you. I think I’d rather live in upperclassmen dorms. Freshmen have zero say about where they’re housed, they’re all put in the same two buildings.</p>

<p>My floor, no. There are only like five people on my floor, all the rooms are singles and nobody but me keeps their doors open. I guess the other floors are more social.</p>

<p>I didn’t get close to the people on my floor last yr cuz I was never in my rm, and couldn’t make the dorm dinners. I went to the beach with them once… but yeah, randomly saying hi is as close as I got. Not knowing everyone on a personal level made playing floor games like marker death tag(forgot the name) really awkward haha.</p>

<p>Oh, and last year, everyone on my floor were little blonde freshmen girls who were rushing sororities, and if you weren’t a little blonde freshman girl rushing a sorority you weren’t worth talking to, and they wrote *****y semi-anonymous things about each other on the custodian’s dry erase board in the hall bathroom. That was a pretty ridiculous situation.</p>

<p>I’m good friends with my roommate and she’s good friends with other people on my floor, so I go out with them and stuff, but I don’t know too many of the other people on my floor besides just being friendly and saying hi. Maybe I’ll get closer to them, maybe I’ll find more friends elsewhere, but either way it’s okay with me.</p>

<p>Even though there’s approx. 70 people on my floor, I know some names and faces b/c we have an air-conditioned lounge on an unair-conditioned floor. No one expects anyone to remember peoples’ names or to become this huge, tight-knit group-- too many of us. </p>

<p>Find people you have stuff in common with. If you can’t find your friends in the dorm, go to clubs and stuff. I know it may seem frustrating not being included in the cliques but find a way to do your own thing, with people you meet outside of the dorms. But if I were you, I wouldn’t write off your floor-mates so quickly.</p>

<p>my floor is kinda close. there are 8 suites, and girls are on one wing and boys on the other. the wings are pretty seperated. my suite hangs out with one suite a lot, and another one i hang out with a decent amount. one of the suites i barely talk to though. it has a couple football players and they dont seem interested in making friends with none football players, and the other guys are just quite. also all the chinese students just hang out with each other mostly. half the girls are not very social generally. some of them i see around a lot but the others ive only seen a handful of times.</p>

<p>Nope. Not even to my own roommates. I have 3 other roommates, 2 of them are like BFFs and 1 does his own thing. Plus, since our roomis the biggest in the whole building, everyone comes here to party. And before people say “That’s a perfect way to meet new people, introduce yourself!” I do do that but they would say hi and then focus on how much they’re going to drink; I don’t drink. </p>

<p>Everyone already established their cliques and really aren’t interested in meeting new people; and I’m sick of trying to be mr. outgoing. I’m really looking into transferring. Maybe as weeks go by things’ll get better, but we’ll see.</p>

<p>No. I literally do not know anyone on my floor. My room is strange, it’s on the first floor, but it’s off the lobby, not in the hallway. So there are lots of people on my floor, but I’m not anywhere near any of them.
I have friends in other buildings though :)</p>

<p>Twitter, your room sounds like the quad on my floor. It’s in the elevator lobby because it’s a converted lounge, so they have to go out two sets of doors to the lobby and through another set of doors into the hallway where the rest of the dorms are. They seem pretty isolated.</p>

<p>No extra doors here. You walk into the lobby and my room door is on the left. It’s a really strange set up. But my room is twice as big as most people’s, has a private bathroom and AC. So I’m happy with the odd spot it’s in :)</p>

<p>Really? I’d probably take an odd location for all that, haha. Especially the AC. I don’t spend much time in my dorm in general because it’s an oven.</p>

<p>Yeah, I’m disabled and heat makes it much worse, and so they gave me a room with AC. This was the only one open. When I got in here it looked like no one had been in here for a long time, like an inch of dust on everything and cobwebs everywhere. I’m guessing no one was in it because it’s oddly located.</p>