<p>Lets say your best friends stay in-state and you leave for OOS. Are you guys still good friends or not so much anymore. Also, do friendships dwindle as you proceed through college??(any big difference in relationships between fresh and senior years).</p>
<p>oh yeah, i will still be coming home for breaks and stuff</p>
<p>For the most part yeah, all of my friends go around the country and I am still really good friends with my close HS friends. I don't see them as often as I would like because my school is on a completely different schedule than they have, but when we are home for major breaks we still hang out a lot.</p>
<p>I am going to have to say that AIM and social networking sites like Facebook really attribute to this in the modern age, but I think it still all matters how close you were with them in HS. If they are someone you just knew and possibly partied with, than you probably won't be as good of a friend as someone that you started in Kindegarten with and graduated as each others best man.</p>
<p>I dumped alot of my old high school friends because they were just too <em>close</em> to home- they weren't growing up with me.</p>
<p>But I've reconnected with some people from high school on different level- usually networking for something.</p>
<p>I think a lot of it has to do with maturity level of both people.</p>
<p>I'm just a freshman so I can't attest to the freshman to senior year thing, but I'm pretty sure I will continue to be good friends with most of my good friends in high school (note: good friends, not just people I knew). During breaks when I come home there's not much else to do except hang out with my high school friends. Most of my friends go to good schools so I can talk to them about majors and careers, stuff like that, so it's all good. </p>
<p>I think it's good to keep in touch and stay relatively close, who knows what'll happen down the road?</p>
<p>oh, i wasnt saying you had to be a senior to reply. if anyone of any age has input, i'd be glad to hear it.</p>
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<p>most of my hs friends are in the same state as me and majority live less than an hour away, and I rarely see any of them. Most of us have different lives now; the majority of the ones who stays around town are married, and/or having babies. That's no where near my life or what I want it to be. The only person I am still really good friends with is my best friend from hs, Jess, and she is sort of like me in that she doesn't want to be married and having babies at 18-22. I was still pretty close to my friend Amy until she got married and I don't think I've seen her once since her wedding 10 months ago and have only talked to her online 3-4 times. Marriage and babies is just not part of my life, and won't be for a very long time if ever, so I don't really connect with any of them anymore. I connect better with my college friends because we're all more on the same track: focused on school and what we want to do with the rest of our lives, not stuck in the same hometown with 5 kids by the time we're 28 and living craphole lives.</p>
<p>I spend a lot of time with friends from highschool. There's probably 6 or 7 students from my class and the classes above and below me that I see at least twice a month. They all go to college with me. We throw parties together, eat out a lot and whatnot. It can make other friends we made at college feel alienated though.</p>
<p>Other friends from highschool I kind of abandoned. I only hang out with the nerds from highschool now, because I don't want to spend the rest of my life binge drinking in a garage like they do.</p>
<p>Nope, not so much anymore. Plenty of friends to be had in college.</p>
<p>never really had much friends in high school, most of the people i went to higb school with stayed in state, and all the party people keep in touch when their on break to party more</p>
<p>by my sophomore year, I lost contact with a good 90% of my old HS friends.
There are certainly a few that, even in my senior year of college, I have remained connected or reconnected with, but for the most part college friendships have replaced the HS ones. I am out of state, btw...1100 miles from home, so I only go home for Thanksgiving (usually), Christmas, spring break (some years), and summer (usually).</p>
<p>AUlostchick, is getting married and having kids young common in the South/Alabama???</p>
<p>Yes, especially if you're from a really small town. If anyone has seen Sweet Home Alabama it's basically like that girl Reese Witherspoon's character sees at the bar with the baby, and she says she has 3 more at home?</p>
<p>Most of my friends satyed in Costa Rica ( except for some of my closeste friends which ended up going to school in the US too...one of them actually goes to the same school as I do. I have to say I'm still really close with my HS friends, way closer than I am to my college friends. Everytime I come back to my country I always visit them and party with them.</p>
<p>Obviously depends.</p>
<p>What I found is that I (went OOS) remained closer with my friends than many of them remained to each other even though they went to the same college. When I came to visit, or was home for break, it was an event, and people were happy to hang out with me. People you see all the time, you have the drama and gradual growing apart that is just a natural progression, and you end up 4 years later not even really wanting to talk to that person. I saw with guys in my fraternity who were in-state too. They were often much more interested in hanging out with their new college friends, even at home, than they were about seeing their old friends.</p>
<p>It's pretty normal to grow apart from a lot of HS friends as you grow older. Looking back on my freshman year, there were a small number of people that disappeared right away, and some that gradually left over time. Now, I'm coming up on the 7th anniversary of my HS graduation this spring, and there are really only two friends that I'm in frequent, frequent contact with. One friend, we've known each other since we were three, the other I'm going to be Best Man in his wedding this May. The rest just faded away.</p>
<p>One thing though to point out, I'm so old that facebook wasn't around until my senior year of college - and facebook has made a tremendous change in the way I communicate and keep track of my friends that I don't see so often. Through it I've reestablished contacts with easily 150+ people that I wouldn't have had a clue about otherwise. It's not like I'm checking their profiles daily or anything, but it's a nice thing to have.</p>
<p>It's senior year, and I'm still close with two of my best friends from high school--we don't talk as often as we did at the beginning of college, since we're all busy with job hunting and serious relationships and spending time with our college friends before graduation, but we catch up on the phone every month or so and hang out when we can visit or when we're at our parents' houses. </p>
<p>Freshman and sophomore years, we still talked every week or two and hung out constantly over breaks. Then phone call frequency decreased because we got busier, went abroad, had a new girlfriend/boyfriend, etc. Then we stopped coming home for most of the summer and winter breaks (jobs, research, year round leases...), so that meant seeing one another a lot less.</p>
<p>Still, we make the time when we can and definitely care about one another as much as we ever did, even though we're not as involved in eachother's every-day lives. And that might change again--I and one of them are both planning on moving to the same neighborhood (not somewhere either of us grew up or went to school, so it's a funny coincidence) after graduation!</p>
<p>bump. any others with first hand experience??</p>
<p>Try watching Dawson's Creek for a good example of what happens to a group of friends after leaving high school :P</p>
<p>why should we? high school friends are crap</p>
<p>I had a large group of friends in high school (around 50-60), after I graduated I realized that most of these weren't actually close friends. I am still very close to my friends that I still want to be friends with. Don't worry about after you graduate, because you will continue to see the people you want to see, and distance yourself from the people you don't want to see. Trust me it is much much better.</p>