<p>{quote} When you feel ready to burst from holding it in, just come back to cc to vent! {end quote}</p>
<p>testobsessed, thank you for this. I feel exactly like I’m about to burst. How did you know? You must have gone through a similar situation.</p>
<p>“For anyone unclear on what I said about the remedial English. His advisor emailed him today and told him that she cannot see his results online and asked when he took the test. Apparently, something has gone wrong with the system. And for clarification, ds is not likely to need to take remedial English. As I said, he took AP English and made a B. However, how cannot I assume anything without his placement test results. And IF he does have to take an extra English course, it will make a huge difference on his schedule because the school requires that students take ENG100 (not remedial) within the 1st two semesters.”</p>
<p>OP, thanks for the clarification and the update! I STILL wouldn’t be overly concerned. Son could even potentially CLEP out of English I. And if he DOES have to take a remedial English and English I, he could pick up one over the summer, probably even from a CC and be okay. I wouldn’t panic.</p>
<p>And on the topic of backing up to take a 200 level course, I also wouldn’t worry. It looks like they’re paying attention to your son and his requests. I would encourage him to keep in contact with his prof’s and advisers and PRAISE him for being responsible and doing such a great job. </p>
<p>This transition time is hard on everyone. I think it’s actually HARDER on the parents! 
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<p>Don’t “burst” - deep breaths - it will be okay. The sun will rise tomorrow, things will get squared away. Most things can be fixed. BREATHE!</p>
<p>Thanks for letting us know how it worked out! Glad too that your son emailed the advisor. Slow, deep cleansing breaths. It’s always good to know that fellow CC’s have your back.</p>
<p>OP, just a side note. Careful not to be too careful - it might come off as critical to your son.</p>
<p>You said you were worried about his capabilities. But the music department assessed him, and THEY don’t seem to be too worried. </p>
<p>If you let on that you are not completely confident in him: afraid for him to take classes he’s been placed in, worried he’might have to take remedial English (I know you retracted a bit and said this will probably NOT be necessary) - but if that’s the feel he gets from you it could be very disheartening for him.</p>
<p>It’s sort of normal to wonder if your kid is going to be successful, and even to have doubts in some areas…just be sure that’s not the face he sees.</p>
<p>He needs to see you standing in the stands, cheering loudly, waving a banner over your head…you get the picture.</p>
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<p>I HAVE indeed been through something frustratingly similar! It’s called raising a kid to adulthood.
Hang in there. What doesn’t kill them makes them stronger.</p>
<p>OP- I hope they find your sons English placement test results soon.</p>
<p>Did he take the AP English test, and does the college accept the score for English composition course placement?</p>
<p>Ucbalumnus, he didn’t sit for the test.</p>
<p>Another update as of 6/19/13</p>
<p>DS came to me Monday night, put his registration misc. on my desk, and asked, “Mom, can you help me?” Apparently, after all of the emails from his advisor and other music faculty, he needed a second opinion on how to sort things out because what everyone was suggesting left him with 19 credit hours instead of the 17 he started with. </p>
<p>I asked ds what he thought he should do. He had a very reasonable answer, so I allowed him to do it. He contacted his advisor, the composition instructor, the orchestra conductor, and the placement test office to clear things up. He’s heard back from 1 instructor and learned that his English placement test has not been graded yet (“check back in about a week”). In the mean time, he dropped 1 of the 300-level courses because he discovered that it was not the course he intended to sign up for (orchestra & lecture as opposed to just orchestra). DS also sat down with DH and me and looked at all the courses he’ll need to graduate to get an understanding of what he needs to schedule in terms of # of credit hours in each semester.</p>
<p>I am confident that DS will be able to work things out with his schedule and other issues now that he understands that advisors can make mistakes and he has to be responsible for choosing the correct courses, knows where to go/who to go to for clarification, and is comfortable coming to us for help when he’s stuck. DS and I have always had good communication. I guess he just was not ready to discuss his class schedule (or…I approached it in the wrong manner) after two days of orientation and course selection. When I picked him up that day, he did tell me that he was very tired. As a mom, I should have picked up on that and waited to discuss his schedule until he felt ready. I’m so glad that I was able to give him the space he needed to process everything. As Testobsessed mentioned, I did feel like I was going to burst while holding everything in and not mentioning it. But, I held my tongue and allowed him to take the lead on it. I’m not perfect. I’m still working out this parenting thing. I’m sure I’ll be back for more parental advice before the fall semester is over. Thanks everyone!</p>
<p>Ah,awesome, OP!!! glad it worked out !!</p>
<p>MomTeacherNurse - Good for you AND your son! Our daughter refused to let us get involved in her course choices and she paid the price. At her school the Advisor is within their department, so she had Theater Department staff helping her with everything, including GenEd classes. Unfortunately, they didn’t know enough about the requirements to tell her she chose something incorrectly and two separate mistakes resulted in two classes that did nothing to fulfill requirements. As you can imagine, it was painful for a Musical Theatre student to have to take an extra lab science and an extra history class. We could have helped her see her error before she got 2 quarters away from graduation but it was her choice to handle it alone and trust her advisor rather than her parents. Live and learn.</p>
<p>That is so awesome! I believe in being a sounding board for my kids. The thought of ever, even as old folks, pushing them away and saying “No I can’t listen to you it might stunt your growth and reflect badly on both of us” is ludicrous. Kids sound out their friends, their advisors, their coworkers, their bosses, whomever is appropriate at a particular time and no one thinks anything of it, but some people pass ugly judgment when it’s parents who are doing things that anyone else does without comment.</p>
<p>I don’t believe that anyone on this thread suggested not listening to ones children. </p>
<p>I’m so glad it worked out. And glad you didn’t actually burst from the experience, OP!</p>