@LifeLong: Call me a sap, then. 
I was surprised by how much I liked it/it made me think about the concept of the “other”…especially for tween/YA book. BTW, in the first long paragraph of my post #5 I was agreeing with you…that private day schools can be more integrated that an LPS, in an out of metro areas. My second long para is an attempt to push back on heartburner’s post #1…I believe that diversity programs can have an impact.