Hi, I’m looking for colleges that are asexual friendly! Especially colleges with asexual groups or a strong ace presence on campus? Are there any other aces on CC that have had really supportive experiences at their college (especially a good dating life)? So far I’ve found:
Carleton College
Case Western Reserve University
Grinnell College
University of Chicago
Washington University in St. Louis
I think most LACs will be. My D (who self identifies as asexual) was very happy at Lewis and Clark in OR.
Check out the Five College Consortium (UMASS Amherst, Mt. Holyoke, Smith, Amherst College, and Hampshire). I’m having trouble finding info on it now, but when I went to UMASS for a conference, I was told that there was a Five Colleges Asexuality Alliance.
Another option might be to figure out what schools you like regardless of their ace scene, and then contacting the GSAs/Queer Alliances/whatever at the school to see if there’s someone you could talk to. Any GSA worth its salt should be able to give you some perspective on what being asexual at that college would be like.
I didn’t realize there were asexual hostile environments.
Yes @gdlt234 there are definitely some asexual hostile environments. A conservative college environment would obviously be hostile, but even some of the LGBTQ community is quite hostile towards asexuals. The queer community sometimes feels as though they stand for sexual freedom and we (aces) stand for the opposite, which is ridiculous. Members of the LGBTQ community have been known to say that asexuals haven’t “experienced discrimination” and therefore shouldn’t be apart of the queer community. This is, of course, discrimination towards asexuals. I’ve heard of and experienced hostility or just disrespect towards aces from people who I thought of as very liberal and open minded.
This is why I’m really looking for schools that have students who are very open-minded and educated about queer issues. I will definitely check out the Five College Consortium! Thank you so much for the advice @SpringAwake15 !
Haverford/Bryn Mawr/Swarthmore are very accepting communities overall. I couldn’t fathom issues at any of those 3 schools.
What a weird discussion. I live just outside of San Francisco, which is the capital of sexual identity politics, and I’ve never even heard the term asexual.
Why would anyone care if someone is asexual?
@simba9 I had to Google it.
[This article](https://www.insidehighered.com/news/2014/11/10/asexual-student-groups-growing-more-common-campuses) mentions Carleton College, UGA, New College, and CU Boulder as schools which have programs for asexuality.
The Asexuality network states that [a number of colleges](Student Groups - AVENwiki) have clubs for asexuals. These include Arizona State, Princeton, UC Davis, and Western Washington University.
Oberlin.
Wouldn’t a conservative college environment be happy that no one is having out of wedlock sex?
Maybe, but since the reason isn’t morals or religion but rather an LGBTQ affiliation…
That’s what I was thinking, GMTplus7. Probably a very conservative or very religious college would be great - no pressure to hookup, more emphasis on intellectual pursuits, etc.
Edit: along these lines, how about one of the Great Books type colleges?
Asexuality is an identity. A conservative or religious college would be exactly the wrong place to look for acceptance and community.
That seems rather narrow minded.
And I find liberals to be the most open-minded, as long as you think like they do.
“That seems rather narrow minded.”
@Scholarme, I agree. But not in the way you probably intend. Conservative and religious colleges do not tend to have good support groups for LGBTQ students and usually do not receive good rankings on the Campus Pride list.
NO. It is not the same as celibacy. OP wants to find a supportive community.
I still think a Great Books college would be a possible option for kids who want to see themselves as part of the Platonic tradition.
But if it’s just socio-political grouping thing, then possibly not.
I’m still struggling with the definition. Does is mean someone androgynous who identifies with neither being male or female (like “Pat” on SNL)? Or does it mean someone who’s not sexually attracted to anyone?