<p>So pretty much my confidence is in the dumps at the moment and I just feel like crying/fallingintoholes.
The SAT scores came out, as most of you are aware, and I took the SAT2 Bio-M and was expecting a high score (like 800; I scored a 790 on the official practice) BUT NOPE. 760. I don't suppose it's horrible, but that in conjunction with my 92 on my English final my mother's stare REEKS of disappointment. Not that I feel much better. (Although every other final I took had grades over a 98).
I don't really think that my hopes for Columbia U are dashed but my mother keeps reminding me that 760 is on the brink of failure. Not even average state universities would want me. And if I don't get into the 2370+ on the SAT1, I will be going nowhere. I try to think rationally but I don't know anymore.
I'll just go cry, take a hot shower, and drink butterbeer (gosh I found a recipe and it foams up nicely~)</p>
<p>Trust me, you aren’t alone except that my GPA is actually really poor… lol but that isn’t the point. You can’t let these negative thoughts get in the way of your success because you seem as if you’re an amazing student who will get into amazing schools! Just try to do your best because I’m sure you’ll succeed. It’s difficult to have to live with a parent who’s constantly trying to put you down but in comparison to many students, you’re doing very well. You’re on track so keep doing your best (:</p>
<p>Just try your best to ignore it. Insults and ultimatums are just the asian parent way of motivating you lol. If anyone genuinely believes you need a 2370+ on SAT or you’re destined for failure, then they’re beyond delusional. Also, 760 is a fine score for biology-M.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, I’m not being a ■■■■■ (nor writing satire). At least having that accusation makes me feel a bit better. I just can’t take my mother. And she says that I go to extremes.
I guess it’s because I have a weak-ish personality. I know my mother’s trying to motivate me and I know delusions won’t do me much good, but I take things to heart too often.
(also another factor is the COMPARISONS ugh. I have this one friend who scores constantly [except for one class] higher than I do. “Oh look at x, she got a 790.” “She got a 97.” “etcetcetc.”)</p>
<p>Good to hear. But in all seriousness, ignore your mother. I know how Asian parents can be (one of my best friends is Asian and when I get rides from his mother she castigates him right in front of me for getting an 80 on a Physics C test). You don’t need to suffer so much over such trivialities. Your score is in >90 percentile, and that’s all that matters to colleges.</p>
<p>Is that the norm junior year, when classes are mostly composed of APs and whatnot? I’ve always floated around the mid to high nineties (I’m a rising Junior).
What’s the equivalent (for your school at least; I know they vary!) of, let’s say a 92 on a GPA scale (out of four; I think that’s the name…)?</p>
<p>In the state of Florida, a 92 in considered an A (no difference between A and A- on our transcripts I think). I believe that would be around a 3.67 UW.</p>
<p>“I don’t really think that my hopes for Columbia U are dashed but my mother keeps reminding me that 760 is on the brink of failure. Not even average state universities would want me. And if I don’t get into the 2370+ on the SAT1, I will be going nowhere.”</p>
<p>If you don’t want people to think that you’re joking then don’t write this. I don’t know how anybody scoring in this range could possibly think like this.</p>
<p>I’m a first generation Korean-American and my parents are surprisingly lax. They know what I can handle and what I can’t, and they can tell whether I’ve truly tried my best or not. They know I put a lot of pressure on myself about school and try not to add on to that pressure. I see how a lot of other Asian parents treat their children and I feel really grateful for mine. </p>
<p>With regards to your situation, I don’t think that it’s healthy that your mom dwells on your less than perfect (but still amazing) scores. I understand that it’s a cultural thing and that ultimately, your mom only has your best interest at heart. However, your mother should still keep in mind that quantitative and superficial things like test scores have nothing to do with personal character and while they do heavily influence college admissions, do not ensure what kind of future you’ll lead. </p>
<p>One of my friend’s mom is like this and it’s really sad to watch her be chastised by her mom when she really did try hard. I think that her mom’s constant criticism also caused her inferiority complex. One frustrating thing about my friend is that she stops herself short, fearing that she’ll fail or disappoint her mom. I find that out of my friends, the ones who have authoritative and supportive parents are the ones who do the best - not those who have tiger parents.</p>
<p>my parents are very lax for asian parents. all the pressure comes from myself i’m trying to change myself so that I’m not constantly under so much pressure! My parents just want me to be happy !!</p>
<p>Good news-Your SAT is just fine. The bad news is that your mom will likely always find something to make you feel guilty about. BTW scoring an 800 in math is matter of luck. You could take it half dozen times and not score an 800. Take the 760 and move on.</p>
i’m trying to change myself so that I’m not constantly under so much pressure! My parents just want me to be happy !!</p>