Asked a girl to prom? What does this mean?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>I asked this girl to prom today at the beginning of lunch. She seemed really surprised and smiled widely (in a happy way) and she whispered "oh my god..." under her breath. She told me that she'd have to get back to me. I told her to text me and we went separate ways.</p>

<p>She'd couldn't have said yes I don't think because she's in grade 11 and I don't think she was planning to go to prom at all because she couldn't have unless a senior (me) asked her.</p>

<p>I'm thinking that she has to ask her parents and if she can get a dress and all that but I'm afraid it might just be me trying to convince myself that she wants to go????</p>

<p>Obviously I'd like to hear a yes but I want frank answers from a third party!</p>

<p>also, her friends have started teasing me again...I'm a head taller than them and a grade higher yet they keep saying my name in mocking tone and waving hi to me...</p>

<p>This has happened before, last year when this girl and I were volunteering, I bought her a rose from school and student council went around giving people roses...they made fun of me then until I snapped one time and smashed one of the guys into the locker they haven't bothered me since until now...</p>

<p>Here are my questions:</p>

<p>1) Was she a yes, no or was it truly a maybe (i need to check with my parents) sort of thing???</p>

<p>2) If she doesn't text me, although unlikely, should I follow up? and if so when?</p>

<p>3) What should I do about her friends, I don't want to smash his face into a locker again because that's just wrong...I'm not a violent person lol but these kids starting shoving me and picking on me...despite the fact that I'm a head taller than them so that was a one time release...</p>

<p>Thank you! </p>

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<p>What’s her personality and how well do you know her? I think she was just shocked and may need time to answer the way she feels is best. That’s no guarantee it’ll be a yes, but judging from her reaction she may want to.</p>

<p>I’d wait a while and perhaps she’ll bring it up, so if you see her just smile and wave so she won’t feel pressured to answer just yet. However, if it’s like a month and she doesn’t respond, I’d follow up.</p>

<p>If you come off as an easy target, that could make them inclined to pick on you. As long as you exude confidence and look extra intimidating, I’d hope they wouldn’t want to bother you. I hope that helps!</p>

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<p>@JanAnna</p>

<p>She’s really nice and the type of girl that doesn’t go to parties, as a close group of friends and is alot of clubs and some sports. I volunteered with her 5 hours a week, all week last year so we know each other quite well!</p>

<p>are you sure a month? it sounds a bit too long…don’t you think?</p>

<p>ya I hate it, I’m not too popular but I’m not a loner…I have quite alot friends but it’s just that as if fate is making it happen, I only see them every time I’m walking alone in the halls LOL </p>

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<p>She sounds like this boy I liked & I told him I liked him & he finally stopped ignoring me three months after I told him lol. It depends on when prom is, but atleast two weeks. Some people take a while to decide and just contemplate certain things, so that’s why I said a month, but two weeks is fine. I’d be a little cautious of the fact that HER friends pick on you, though. </p>

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<p>well I gave her a rose last year and she did the same thing. one of her friends whom I’m an old friend with actually told me it’s because the girl keeps telling them it…ya but that was months ago…Prom is june 6th…still two weeks?</p>

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<p>Yeah two weeks is good. I find it interesting how early you asked though. People at my school usually ask about a month in advance, is there any particular reason why you did it so early? </p>

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<p>Like the OP, people at my school have been getting dresses and asking people since, like, a month ago :stuck_out_tongue: Some schools like the early planning, I guess?</p>

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<p>lol this is my fourth ask!</p>

<p>My friends have asked the weekend after valentines!</p>

<p>I’ve heard some of the more popular guys have asked BEFORE winter break!!!</p>

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<p>Heres my prom story so far: </p>

<p>1) Valentines day: I ask my co worker, KATE (we also go to the same school) to prom with half a dozen roses and a rice krispie with the words “Prom?” written on it. I asked at work in the changeroom. She cried and said no because someone else had asked her hours before in school THAT DAY. (I had bought the roses two days before and wanted to wait till valentines…) She later asked me out but for personal reasons at the time, I declined. I asked her out later but then personal issues came into play and I could not follow up. Then last week, I found out that she actually likes me and doesn’t want to go to prom with the other guy because she only likes him as a friend…</p>

<p>2) Korean girl. known her for two years, flirted quite a bit over text, even more in person. I asked her with a stuffed animal. Took her forty minutes (that’s right!) forty minutes and couldn’t make a decision. She held my hand, hugged me on and off for that span of time. We stopped after the vice principal came by TWICE (after asking what we were doing, imagine how awkward that was) and the VP kicked us out of the halls (it was after school)</p>

<p>3) Brunette athlete: really nice girl. I talked to her a bit in grade 9 then we started talking alot over the last few days! Asked her to prom with a stuffed animal (same one as 2) ) and she did not hesitate to say yes! she was so excited, hugged me and said “Now I have to get you a corsage!” </p>

<p>I get a message on facebook. Long long message about how she only said yes to “protect the friendship” and that we just started being friends. I pushed a bit and she admitted that after I asked her, the guy she wanted to go with had asked her! She took the stuffed animal too!</p>

<p>4) Girl i used to volunteer with: sarah. No gifts, just asked her, she gave off a pretty positive vibe but I’m still waiting for a reply. She’s in grade 11 so she has to ask her parents if she can go right?</p>

<p>So you see from the Kate, I liked her and decided to ask in feburary (so many ppl who knew laughed, saying it was wayy too early) I end up asking too LATE. Kate liked me yet stayed with the first guy.</p>

<p>I asked girl 3 first! but she broke things off because she liked the second guy who i asked her.</p>

<p>I ask first, or second, i still end up with the short end of the stick…lifes a b*tch :P</p>

<p>I’m 0 for 4 right now, and I’m asking another girl once I get back to school from break cause it’s just prom and hell I’m going to ask Kate out in April!</p>

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<p>A little background story for you peeps!</p>

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<p>Why don’t you just ask for straight answers from these people? </p>

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<p>If I were those girls, I’d be really annoyed if I knew you made a gazillion threads asking, “What does this mean?”</p>

<p>You read too much into everything. We aren’t them, so we don’t know.</p>

<p>Capice?</p>

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<p>well I did from the all three girls lol, I just asked the fourth today and I’m a bit nervous waiting for her reply!</p>

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<p>If I may ask, are you desperate for a date or do you really like these girls? It seems like you are seen as more of a guy friend than a potential romantic interest. But yeah, you should just ask if this is happening with multiple people.</p>

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<p>@Mandophon, your prom posts are like a bright light among the “I got a B-, will I get my Asian status revoked?” “Chance a 7th grader for HYPSM!” and “Compare UC Berkeley and Cal Poly SLO” posts on CC. </p>

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<p>@JanAnna truthfully? both but more to the fact that I like the girls at one point in time. The first girl I actually like alot because we been through stuff that I haven’t been through with any other of the girls but she got asked already and I see no point in asking her again ( I was seriously considering doing that again but I thought better) unless it’s not a bad idea to ask again? I was thinking just causually rasiing prom up and seeing if she was still planning to go with the guy. </p>

<p>I didn’t really think of doing this until two people told me she doesn’t want to go with the current guy and wants to go with me…</p>

<p>@AmaranthineD</p>

<p>haha LOL!</p>

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<p>I mean, if she doesn’t want to go with him, you should find out so she does you AND him a favor. No one wants to go with someone who doesn’t really like them. I can’t understand why people just let things happen because they’re being nice or passive or I don’t know. I’d rather you tell me no, than yes, but really mean no.</p>

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<p>Ya I’d follow up, but would it be weird if I asked like idk. “You get your prom dress yet?” then something like jezz umm “you still going with that other guy?”</p>

<p>how would you feel if your crush asked you to prom(or some outing)…again but you had a prior commitment with another guy who is only a friend?</p>

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<p>I think you need to take a step back and ask yourself if you even really like her. And I bet “Korean Girl” and “Brunette Athlete” wouldn’t appreciate being objectified like that. Finally, if she hangs out with bullies, what does that say about her? I don’t know. Just a girl’s perspective. Good luck.</p>

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<p>Just be casual & ask something like "Hey, are you still going to the prom with so-and-so? ". And if my crush did that, I’d be surprised since the only female he talks to is probably his mom lol. But seriously, I wouldn’t have went with the friend if I knew I would want to go with someone more. Otherwise, I wouldn’t ditch them because I’d already feel committed. However, since they are just friends they should be going as friends so he shouldn’t be bothered by her wanting to go with you. He could be her escort, but you can be her date. A little old-fashioned lol, but I wouldn’t know how else to do it. Or he could just find a date he likes romantically and not just as a friend. </p>

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<p>@Marvilles </p>

<p>lol I don’t objectify woman at all! I’ve been told this four times on different forums, point is, I’m trying not to name them purposely but describing them to the point where a third party can visualize whom I have asked!
sorry for the misunderstanding!</p>

<p>And yes, I know I like Kate, I know I like her; I’m not liking the idea of liking her!</p>

<p>@JanAnna</p>

<p>thanks, simple seems to be best! The guy likes my crush, Kate, that’s why he asked her to prom, SHE likes him as a friend, so I feel better lol but thank you! I will tell you how it goes tomorrow!</p>

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<p>Asking a girl out with the same stuffed animal you used to ask another girl out for the same event at the same school is ASKING to have the acceptance revoked. </p>

<p>Just saying.</p>

<p>Good luck! </p>

<p>I think the last girl wants to say yes, from your description, but what do I know?</p>