Asking an NYU parent to give some advice to recently accepted student's family

<p>I have some specific questions and would like someone who has some experience with the school.</p>

<li><p>What has been your experience with the dorms with your son/daughter?
-positives, negatives, food, social scene - </p></li>
<li><p>What dorm did they stay in? Hayden, Goddard, Weinstein, etc.?</p></li>
<li><p>Do extra long twin sheets fit? Reading the message boards, I see that some parents have purchased egg crates, etc. and some fit, others don’t. Anyone know info about this?</p></li>
<li><p>After seeing a special on Dateline about bedbugs in colleges in NY (and other places in the US), what have you heard about mice, bugs in NYU dorms this past year?</p></li>
<li><p>What’s the bank that most NYU students use in the area? Citibank? We would need to set up an account for our child.</p></li>
<li><p>On move in day in August, how is that done, if you have a car and drive up to the dorm? Are there places to park? The car has to be close so that one can remove and carry heavy items upstairs. I don’t think people park a mile away and carry refrigerators that far, do they?</p></li>
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<p>Thank you so much in advance for your help.</p>

<p>Hi, I am a parent of a freshman at NYU. She goes to Tisch. I can give your questions a shot. </p>

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<li>What has been your experience with the dorms with your son/daughter?
-positives, negatives, food, social scene - </li>
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<p>My daughter resides in her first choice dorm and likes it. Her life does not revolve around dorm life too much, however. She is not home much to be honest given her rigorous schedule. However, I am aware of various dorm building activities even if she does not opt to participate. Her social life is with friends she has made through her program and not really via the dorm, though she has friends who live in that dorm. There is a dining hall and snack bar in her dorm but she also has access to all the other dining halls. She lives in an apt. style dorm and so eats breakfast in her apt. The dorm is huge but again, there are activities for the floor and for the dorm if you wish to partake. Her dorm has an outdoor courtyard though that is a moot point in winter. There is an RA for the floor. She likes the location of her dorm as it is near Union Square and hopes to live in that area next year. She has to go to her program up on 18th three days per week and then everything else down in Washington Square Park area the rest of the time so her location works well. She has never complained about the food. She prefers a meal plan that has some "dollars" on it that can be used to make purchases at their convenience shops and also at places near campus like Starbucks. </p>

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<li>What dorm did they stay in? Hayden, Goddard, Weinstein, etc.?</li>
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<p>My D and her roomie, whom she knew before she got to college, preferred an apartment style dorm. They got their first choice, Third North Residence, which is one of the two apt. style options for freshmen, the other being University Hall. There are two kids in her bedroom and two in another bedroom and they have a common room that comes with a sofa, table, chairs, low shelving unit for TV and other stuff, a full kitchen, and a private bathroom that has two sinks that closes off from the tub/shower and toilet part. My D applied to and got in RD but the kids who get in ED get first dibs on housing and so my D rode on coattails of her roomie who had gotten in ED. The other two girls in the unit, they did not know ahead of time. </p>

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<li>Do extra long twin sheets fit? Reading the message boards, I see that some parents have purchased egg crates, etc. and some fit, others don't. Anyone know info about this?</li>
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<p>Ah, the good 'ole bedding and egg crate discussion :D! The regular old time posters on CC will know what I mean as this is a big discussion each year on CC and is indicative of the turning point from parent of applicant to parent of kid about to enroll in college! Yes, you must get extra long sheets and yes, they fit. We did buy an egg crate to put under the mattress pad. The egg crate and mattress pad were also Extra Long. All these items are sold in the summer at places like Bed Bath and Beyond or Linens and Things, where there are major supplies for back to college shopping. </p>

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<li>After seeing a special on Dateline about bedbugs in colleges in NY (and other places in the US), what have you heard about mice, bugs in NYU dorms this past year?</li>
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<p>Well, I can speak to this. I have never heard of "bedbugs". However, recently, my D started complaining of mice and cockroaches. She didn't first semester and so perhaps the problem arose more as the year went on. She lives on the second floor of a 14 story dorm and she mentioned that fact as part of the problem (not sure, but that came up in context). She said they have had maintenance guys in to try to help. First, let me say we live in the country and we have mice here too but we also have cats, LOL, who get the mice. My D should be used to seeing a mouse but alas, she has no cats at college and no Daddy to take care of the mice. As far as cockroaches, this is an unpleasant facet of city living. I lived for four years while attending college and graduate school, in Cambridge, MA and we had roaches, big time. I hated it but it was VERY common. After graduate school, when we moved to Vermont, we loaded a moving truck and we sprayed every carton with roach spray before packing it and then when the truck was loaded, we used some kind of "bombs" in the truck for the move to Vermont and I am happy to say that I have never seen a cockroach since then! Back to NYU, I was only there in August for move in and in Oct. for Parent Weekend and saw none then but I guess the problem got worse now. It may not be in all dorms or on all floors but it is a facet of city living. </p>

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<li>What's the bank that most NYU students use in the area? Citibank? We would need to set up an account for our child.</li>
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<p>I do not know which bank that MOST NYU students use. There is a brochure and webpages for parents of students that lists the banks in the area. I'm a bad one to ask on this issue because setting up banking for our daughter at college was a major issue. None of the banks in our state have branches in NYC. We had to open a new account for her at a NYC bank. I spoke to a rep at NYU who was very nice and helpful as they have a parent hotline to help with questions. Move in day was a Sunday and we needed to go WITH our D to open a joint account because she is a minor. She was ONLY 16 when she arrived at NYU as she is an early graduate. She is now 17, but still a minor. Only one of the banks in the area was open on a Sunday and it was Commerce Bank. I went to open the account and ran into difficulties. My D has always had an acct. at a bank in our community since she was young and has earned money since she was young. Her acct. at home has my name on it too. The NYC banks, even WITH me opening a joint account with my minor, would not allow it to be a checking account (thus, no check writing) and would NOT allow her to have a debit card either. She can ONLY withdraw from a savings account and use an ATM card. It was a hassle. She now uses that acct. for ATM and we got a Debit card on her VT account and so she is managing two account (let's hope). Be aware that move in day is a Sunday and if you need or want to go with your child to open the account, not all banks are open that day but Commerce Bank is.</p>

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<li>On move in day in August, how is that done, if you have a car and drive up to the dorm? Are there places to park? The car has to be close so that one can remove and carry heavy items upstairs. I don't think people park a mile away and carry refrigerators that far, do they?</li>
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<p>I am really smiling reading this question! Move in day at NYU for freshmen was a SCENE TO BEHOLD!!! I had done move in day at Brown with my other freshman the year before and that wasn't anything compared to the scene in NYC. For one thing, we are talking WAY more kids and also each dorm is WAY bigger. ADD to that we are talking city streets without parking lots adjacent to the dorms! OK, so arriving by car, get there EARLY. Ok, EVERYONE else does too. We drove up to the dorm very early and the line to sign in was around the block and a couple hours long to move through. Obviously not every parent can just park by the building and stay. So, they have some spots by the building and cops letting a car pull in and unload everything on the sidewalk and then move the car. I got in line with my D and even ran into her roomie and her mom in the line (they are from our state). The husbands drove the cars round and round the block for a VERY long time while we were in line. Eventually, they got a turn to pull along the curb for unloading. Everything had to be unloaded at once, not in dribs and drabs like at another college. Then he had to go find a place to park the car the rest of the day and found a metered spot not too far away (but too far for the unloading itself). So, what the scene was....all along the sidewalk and in front of the building were enormous piles or gatherings of entire belongings per student. Then I waited with her life on the sidewalk and she stayed in the line. Once she got the keys on her turn, you could get in line to get these wheeled carts (like HUGE laundry carts) and load them up to make trips up to the room in the elevators (also a line). You could rent the cart for like 20 min. or so. That meant move everything from sidewalk to room in a few trips on elevators using carts. She is on second floor and we ran a few things up stairs. As well, back home we had rented a two wheeler and brought that and my husband also used that to load and wheel things in. (having two adults helps on this day with the car and all this schlepping but there are older helping students there as well) THEN, there was the unpacking and setting up. But yes, there were fridges, TVs, and everything else in piles on the sidewalk for each kid. It was a sight to behold. Thankfully, it did not rain. </p>

<p>Hope this helps.</p>

<p>How kind of you to answer our questions with your details and candid advice. It is so thoughtful of you to make the time to assist us and we are very grateful for all your help. I sent a special thank you with private email to you, thanking you for all your help. </p>

<p>If anyone else has any info, please post - I'd love to read all answers. Thank you once again.</p>

<p>Soozievt - I've got some questions, too. First of all
1. Is it true that if a student gets an invitation to the "University Day" reception that means they have been accepted? (We are thinking yes, but I'd like to know before making the plane reservation).</p>

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<li><p>Are mail and packages delivered to the dorm buildings? As west coasters, if my d. goes to NYU, I'm thinking that it may be most efficient for us to ship things out to my d. after she arrives on campus -- but when my son was at his LAC, he had to walk to the post office on campus, then carry things up a big hill to his dorm. So I'd want to know how far my d. would have to schlep whatever we sent.</p></li>
<li><p>Here's the great one: does NYU allow co-ed roommies? (I had read somewhere that they did). D. has a gay male friend hoping to attend Tisch, and was wondering if they could room together.</p></li>
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<p>Calmom</p>

<p>Answers to questions, as best as I can:</p>

<p>1) University Day...that is not Sunday in Square, is it? She got into Gallatin was it? or CAS? Sunday in the Square is CAS and maybe Stern I think. Saturday in the Square is Tisch I know. I know for those invitations that read "for outstanding students in the entering class of 2007", it is an indication that the acceptance will be arriving later this week but this goes out sooner so these accepted students can make travel plans to attend the event which is to encourage them to enroll. Think about it, who invites you to an event for accepted students that takes place AFTER the admissions decisions letters come out, right? Besides that, when others have called NYU, as well as on their own forums, as to what these invitations mean, the answer is always to expect good news on April 1 (hint hint). I'm more familiar with Saturday in the Square and Sunday in the square but remind me which school at NYU she got into? University Day must be the equivalent for other schools at NYU. What does the inviation say? Same as the Saturday in Square one? If so, that's the real deal....make arrangements! </p>

<p>2) Yes, mail and packages come directly to the dorm, not a campus post office like at some other schools. The student's address will be the dorm and street address. They pick it up downstairs in their own dorm. </p>

<p>3) I don't want to give you the wrong information on this question and would have to look up official policy but I am unaware of coed rooming being allowed. I really did not think so. Suites maybe? But again, not sure. All freshmen roomies that I know are with same sex roomies. But you'd have to look up housing policies or call. I have not heard of coed rooming at NYU but if AlwaysAMom read this, she is in her child's third year at NYU (Tisch) and is very knowledgeable about the university, more so than me, just a frosh mom. </p>

<p>Susan</p>

<p>On NYU's own official message board, when a student asked what University Day was for and if it is an orientation, the response from an official was:</p>

<p>"University Day is an on-campus event held in April for students who have been admitted, but who have not decided where they would like to go to college. It is not an orientation event for enrolled students."</p>

<p>So, there you have it.....she's in!</p>

<p>Susan, the invitation is from Gallatin, and says something about the opportunity to meet with faculty. (Sorry I don't have the exact wording) -- but it did seem like an admitted-student type event. It's set for April 9th (one week after the Saturday/Sunday in the Square thing). </p>

<p>I'm going to call tomorrow just to try to confirm - but d. has already made arrangements to spend her entire spring break in NY. I'd love to go, too, but she prefers to go alone; she's already arranged a place to stay for free. Given the added cost that would be entailed if I went and had to pay for a hotel, I can't really argue with the logic. </p>

<p>She told me she wants to make an appointment during the week to talk to the financial aid office, acting on the assumption that whatever they offer will probably not be as much as we would like. We had an extremely productive discussion about summer job prospects -- my little girl who was dead set on traveling to Europe with her boyfriend this summer is suddenly very amenable to sticking around and doing her best to maximize earnings over the summer. (Big sigh of relief from mom, who already made clear long ago that I would not contribute one dime to the Europe-with-boyfriend adventure). </p>

<p>When does NYU ask freshman to arrive on campus? (I see that classes begin Sept. 5th but I didn't know if there was an earlier orientation session or week). California schools get out late -but I'm hoping she can work throughout July & August and at least earn what she needs for spending money & incidentals next year.</p>

<p>calmom, Susan's right. University Day is one of the many events that NYU has for admitted students. Congrats to your D! I don't know definitively about the co-ed roommate issue. I do know that last year it was discussed and a 'pilot' program was going to be instituted. However, it was not going to be available for freshmen, only upper year students. I'll try to get hold of my D and ask her but that isn't always easy! :)</p>

<p>Move in day is always the Sunday prior to Labor Day, so that would be August 27 this year. Just to add to what Susan said about move in day, it's crazy! What we did the year my D moved in was to arrive in the city prior to that day (if I remember correctly we arrived on the Friday, but Saturday would be fine) and stayed in a hotel. We all got up early Sunday morning, and she and her boyfriend went down by cab and got her key. This was at about 8 a.m. The rest of us arrived at about 8:30. As Susan said, police will let you stop and unload but that's it. NO parking there! They will direct you to parking lots in the area. My H actually found a metered space just a couple of blocks away. My D was in Weinstein, by the way. Same process of waiting for a rolling bin if you want one but we didn't do that. We just lugged all of her stuff upstairs ourselves. Mind you, we had my H and two strong boyfriends with us, in addition to me, and two Ds. :)</p>

<p>The lines for the elevator were about a ten minute wait at that time but it increased dramatically later in the morning. It's a day of waiting in long lines if you arrive too late! We set up her room, got her bed made up (same as Susan's D with the sheets and egg crate and mattress pad), got her computer and tv set up, she and her b/f hung her posters and set up her desk. I went off to K-Mart to pick up a few things and everything went very smoothly the rest of the day. </p>

<p>One last thing. Yes, mail is delivered to the dorm and picked up by the student downstairs. Just be sure that if you're shipping things at the beginning of the year for her that you arrange to have them arrive AFTER she moves in. They won't accept things prior to move in day.</p>

<p>anne, a few comments to add to Susan's wonderful answers to you. My D lived in Weinstein first year and never saw any bugs or mice. However, she had friends in many other dorms, as most NYU kids do, and I do know that during that year, Hayden had a very bad problem with pests of the rodent variety. I think that was taken care of, to a large extent, the following summer when they did a big renovation there. Goddard is known for having mice, too. I know that a lot of the dorms have instances of bugs and mice, which always seems to be more of a problem on lower floors than on higher.</p>

<p>General observations about my D's NYU experience so far. It was her first choice school (she got in E.D.) and it's been the best possible place for her. She's in Tisch and has had opportunities and made contacts that would never happen anywhere else. The training and education she continues to receive is topnotch. She's double majoring so is a very busy girl but she loves what she's doing. The academic classes she's taken at NYU have, for the most part, been challenging with excellent professors. Not all, but most. I don't think she could imagine having gone anywhere else to study drama and been happier. It was the right place for her. Not everyone loves it at NYU, though, and I always mention this when telling my D's story because too often kids are wrapped up with living in the big city and don't fully understand just what that's like on a day to day basis. It isn't for everyone! I always recommend that kids be sure to visit a college they hope to attend, before accepting, but that is especially true for NYU. I think it's a big mistake not to, and I am amazed at the number of kids who plan on attending who have never even been to New York City.</p>

<p>Best of luck to all the kids who will be getting good news from NYU this week and next. :)</p>

<p>Calmom, AlwaysAMom came through with great information. </p>

<p>I tried looking up the housing question but could find nothing about coed housing. I know that the floors are coed but believe the rooms are single sex, if not for all students, then at least for freshmen. A call to housing office would yield that answer. Perhaps there was an experiment to allow coed for upper class but I don't know for sure.</p>

<p>After I posted last night, I did read that shipping stuff out for your kid's room like you were talking about, must arrive AFTER the student has arrived on campus, not before. </p>

<p>I don't know that mice or bugs are prevalent everywhere and doubt that is the case. I think they exist either in certain dorms periodically or on certain floors. As mentioned, my D said nothing of this until this semester and she tied it into the fact that she was on the second floor which led me to believe that it wasn't an issue for friends on higher floors. </p>

<p>Freshmen have like an 8 day Orientation BEFORE classes begin and so as AlwaysAMom mentions, it starts on the Sunday before Labor Day weekend at the end of August. Last year move in for Freshmen was August 28. Orientation events began that night. Some events during the week are for all of NYU and some are school specific (in your case, Gallatin). </p>

<p>I also agree that NYU is not for everyone, though is exactly what my D wanted and she could not be more happy with her choice. In her program at Tisch, however, it is very very intense in terms of the time commitments. This program would not be for everyone. It is not like regular college. Lately she has had some 15 hour days at school and this is without homework figured in. Just this past weekend she had 28 hours of crew assigned. I believe her hours this week are of the 12-15 hour sort without homework.</p>

<p>She truly loves her program, her university and the total experience she is having, including being in NYC. I think it will be hard to pull her away in May. She hasn't even been home this semester at all and in fact her break was scheduled up by NYU things as well. I'm glad your D will go to University Day and even spend some more time at NYU and talk to current students, faculty, and maybe sit in on some classes as she is staying the week. Also exploring NYC will be a blast. It is a huge experience as it is not JUST going off to college but also moving to a city and while it was just what my D wanted, it is a huge transition from her life on a dirt road in the mountains in a town that has no traffic lights and has a population not much bigger than her dorm's population. She has had no problems with that transition but I'm simply saying it really is growing into another life beyond just being a college student but also being independent in a city and all that entails. That part is kinda harder on me as a mom than on her as she is thriving on it. </p>

<p>Susan</p>

<p>Thanks for all the answers. I'm sure my daughter and her friend can settle for living in the same building, I was just curious. ;) My d's friend hasn't been admitted yet, in any case, though apparently he has been notified by Tisch that he passed the audition there. I guess there must be some sort of academic review on top of that before a final decision is made. </p>

<p>My d. is a dancer and NYU wasn't even on her list, because she wants an academic major but doesn't want to give up dance, and her main focus is choreography. The Tisch dance program doesn't really leave time for much else, and courses aren't open to outside students. She went to NY last September to interview at Barnard, but she was alone & needed a place to stay, so she stayed with a friend in his dorm room at NYU.... and fell in love with the school. She also had a wonderful interview at Barnard, and of course is waiting on an answer from them. She also has applied to Fordham, but never visited -- she just added Fordham at the last minute as a safety. She wants the Lincoln Center campus. So if she goes to NY, she'll stay the week and spend time visiting whatever colleges have admitted her. However, NYU is definitely her top choice. (Though a Barnard admit would make it a tough call!) </p>

<p>She will be staying at the home of a NYU faculty member (this is a friend-of-a-friend situation, not something offered by the school) --so she certainly will have a good opporunity to explore and make her final decision.</p>

<p>Of course it all depends on finances working out. And a $600 trip to the east coast right now doesn't exactly help. (Its already too late for a discount fare).</p>

<p>OK, quick update - I did the airline fare thing for $385 (thanks to Jet Blue) - ... sorry about the gripe about the $600 fare. DD can go east for a week without my becoming a ramen-eater. </p>

<p>And to Susan: the lady that answered the phone at NYU said (1) they are not authorized to release information about admissions before the official letters go out; (2) we are expected to "read between the lines" on the University Day invitation; and (3) we should expect "good news" at the end of the week. Kinda what I thought, anyway. (Note: she was also very patient, friendly and polite - and I was calling toward the end of the day - so NYU gets extra points for that, as I am sure I must have been at least the thousandth caller that day with the exact same question). </p>

<p>So it looks like it all hinges on the financial aid award.... where I have one other question: </p>

<p>We know that NYU has a poor repution for financial aid and does not meet full need of most of its student. However -- if there are any parents (or kids) with experience -- does NYU at least remain consistent in the level of aid through the years? That is, if we get an award that meets 75% need, or gaps us by $10,000 for next year -- can we reasonably expect that level to be maintained through all 4 years? Or could we be roped into a bait-and-switch -- a $10k gap year 1, morphing into a $25K gap by year 4? (I would dearly love to hear from someone who actually works in the NYU financial aid office and has knowledge of its inner workings, but I expect that is too much to expect).</p>

<p>I am sorry I did not see your most recent posts until now. I looked this thread up because I just came across something related to an earlier question you had and came here to tell you what I learned. So, first that, then your new questions...</p>

<p>You had asked about coed roommates. I was reading a housing forum and some kid asked about that. An upperclassmen gave this answer about if coed roommate housing exists:</p>

<p>"Yeah (two boys, two girls, two bedrooms all in one apartment), but only in Water Street, and you had to apply already."</p>

<p>So, that is just ONE dorm and it is NOT a freshman dorm. It requires some special application in advance (some other kid said an essay was required?!). So, there you have that.</p>

<p>It so happens that dorm assignments from the lottery just became known this AM and so I was looking around about it. My D is pretty happy about hers as it is in the location she wanted and was her second choice dorm. Specific room assignment is on Monday.</p>

<p>Glad you got a better airfare...that is very reasonable. </p>

<p>About the friend who applied to Tisch....that story does not sound right....you cannot be accepted artistically first to Tisch at ALL. They weigh both academics and artistic review in two offices and come to a decision together and the student is either admitted to NYU/Tisch or not, but a student doesn't "pass" one half of that admissions decision, let alone be informed of such a distinction. </p>

<p>I wish I could tell you more about financial aid but I'm just a parent of a freshman. But I would think it only varies year to year if your FAFSA or circumstances are changed. Don't quote me, however! Call THEM. I know even at Brown, my older D got alot more in terms of grants in her FA this year than last because we now have two kids in college so are more "needy" :D. One thing I do know but this is a bit different in a way....but when my D won a Trustee Scholarship from NYU, and it is for $20,000, I did call and ask if she will get that each year and they said yes, as long as she maintained some sort of GPA (was not hard to do) and enrolled in X number of credits, stuff like that. That scholarship was first based on merit (you can win it without being a financial aid applicant.....as well as there is no application for scholarships in the first place). But if you win this merit award, the amount can be increased if also applying for financial aid. So, her package had that award and then of course, loans and work study (turned down work study which is impossible for someone in her program to do). That is is not your exact question but I would certainly pose that question to their office if you need to. </p>

<p>Happy for your D about NYU and look forward to hearing her final decisions/impressions, etc.</p>

<p>Susan
(and YES, she is IN....believe it!)</p>

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Susan, the friend is a dancer. There was another dancer on one of the NYU threads who described something very similar. I don't know about the word "passed", but dancers seem to know that they had done well at their auditions but had not yet heard about admissions. I know your daughter is in musical theater, so I am thinking that the dance audition process might be different. Dance auditions in general are very different than theatrical audition.</p>

<p>CalMom, I don't know about NYU in particular but I've heard that in general one gets the best financial aid the first year. After that, it's just how fast the tide ebbs, from minimal to Ummph.</p>

<p>Hello,
You mentioned some were there early. What constitutes early? If we wanted to make it easy on ourselves, what would be the best time to arrive.</p>

<p>Also, did you eventually find a bank that you preferred? My son will be in Tisch, around Washington Square, it would be nice to find some ATMs and a bank that was convenient to the area.</p>

<p>Thanks!</p>

<p>I"ll bite, this thread ia 6 years old. My D just graduated from NYU. The best bank in my experience is Chase, they are all over the city. We unfortunately have Wachovia/Wells Fargo And it cost us a lot in ATM fees, even though daughter would get cash back at Duane Reade or some other places, it was not convenient.
Early? Are you referring to Move inDay? You can probably be ok getting in at 7:00 am.</p>

<p>An update to the original post, son stayed in Hayden, great dorm, good food, proximity to Tisch. He was in a low cost triple and he’s still alive. Regarding bank, NYU FCU works out well, there are ATMs at most of the NYU buildings that don’t charge fees. To get spending money to him, I paypal him once a month and it works out well.</p>