<p>Situation 1:
Random guy meets attractive girl 1, freshmen on campus. Attractive girl 1 does what any person would do, she greets him nicely and continues on her business. Then attractive girl 1 meets attractive guy 1, attractive girl brings up something random like "what kind of plant is that," and they strike up a conversation as if they knew each other for ages, with plenty of eye contact. Then they introduce their names and walk away. I've seen this happen on two separate occasions.</p>
<p>Situation 2:
Group of friends meet and talk, some strangers, some not. Attractive guy automatically has an entourage surrounding him of both guys and girls, others are trying to catch up to be able to talk.</p>
<p>Situation 3:
Attractive girl 2 acts very friendly to average guy 2 because they knew each other for quite a while. Then attractive guy 2 follows attractive girl 2 around everywhere. You know where this story goes.</p>
<p>Situation 4:
A group of people meet and introduce for orientation. Unattractive guy gets his hands shook last.</p>
<p>Situation 5:
A bunch of above average looking girls follow attractive guy 3.</p>
<p>I understand that hormones are raging during this time period, but why can't people just judge other people based on how good/unique/interesting of a person they are? At my college, I've met some very interesting people who wouldn't seem like anything to superficial people. I get along with most people in my dorm, but many seem bent on improving their social image or their good looks (one kid was afraid of being made fun of for simple things like not going out much). These are friends I can hang out with, but not friends I can seek comfort from when something bad happens to me. This is the reason why I chose to go to an elite private school over an socially average state school, but it seems like it's the same everywhere.</p>
<p>Well since you've just started school, people don't know how unique/interesting/good people are, they've got only their first impressions, and a BIG part of first impressions are looks. Beauty is something that's always been treasured in humans, and yes, your life will be easier if you're attractive. But that doesn't necessitate that it'll be hard if you're not.</p>
<p>Yeah, well my parents think I'm an anti-social loser so they pushed me to be a social go-getter etc. I get along with people well, but this forced me to hang out with the wrong crowd. I hope that once classes start I can have something else to focus on so I don't have to deal with people.</p>
<p>Yeah, I'm usually not so negative, but some people **** me off sometimes. It's just how I am, I need to deal with my cynicism. I need to find that group of people that I can always trust. It will take some time, but I believe those people exist.</p>
<p>lollybo, have you realized that when you first meet somebody, you obviously don't know ANYTHING about them? so what do you do then? obviously you base them off first impressions which are looks... when you see somebody who dresses as a goth, you immediately think about whatever is preconceived in your mind about what a goth is/will be like. this is human nature, it is how ALL of us act and is programmed in our brains. </p>
<p>but yes, attractive people do SEEM to have better lives because they were gifted with better looks. but take a closer look at the world around us, why is it that there are so many celebrity couples where only one of them is attractive and the other is not? how did Seal snag Heidi Klum, once considered one of the most beautiful women in the world and still considered that (no offense to Seal, but i'm sure most people did not expect to see them married). and besides, do you really want to be with somebody who is THAT superficial, who is THAT materialistic?</p>
<p>steevee took the words right out of my mouth.</p>
<p>Someone who is attractive is usually genetically healthier than someone who is not. Therefore, it makes sense to look for this in a potential mate.</p>
<p>There's nothing wrong with liking people who are attractive; it's human nature. Especially nowadays, it's not like unattractive people can't do something about the way they look.</p>
<p>This is the worst doing your freshmen orientation. People don't have any other way to judge others so it's by superficial first impressions. As the years go by this will lessen. Of course, in life attractive people do better, because it's human nature. But you can succeed without looks, I know many unattractive young leaders who are popular because of their strong or funny personalities. Half of being attractive is your personality.</p>
<p>If your a guy, being tall/handosme/athletic is much more important than your grades even in the corporate world. Sad but true. (This has been documented time and time again, but I assume all the nerds here will try to argue...)</p>
<p>This is why that nerdy engineering kid will never be a CEO unless he invents something.</p>
<p>It all depends on the type of person. There are some of us that attach ourselves to the freakiest looking individual around because we hope they'll be more interesting than the stereotypically "attractive" student.</p>
<p>At orientation we had to introduce ourselves to someone and talk about our major. The only person not pared up was an "attractive" male (the kind girls always talk to). Upon finding out that I was a humanities type and he was majoring in sports medicine, we both quickly rolled our eyes and ended the conversation. He may have been the most typically attractive guy there (big, muscular, etc), but I would have rather talked to ANYONE there.</p>
<p>So don't go assuming that everyone out there cares about looks alone, or more importantly, that what is attractive to someone is the same across the board...there are plenty of girls out there that like all different sorts.</p>
<p>^Translation: he didn't think you were hot, so you decided he wasn't "interesting" anyways...</p>
<p>If he had shown interest in you, you would have decided he was awesome, simply because it would have flattered your ego.</p>
<p>BTW, I'm not saying all this because I'm bitter. I'm actually pretty good looking. I go out to exclusive nightclubs with hot girls. But I'm aware of how stupid, shallow, and narcissistic most people are..</p>
<p>Nobody cares about what I have to say or who I am in a normal crowd situation-how could they?. I was gaming this girl last night, and this metro sexual d-bag butts in and starts talking about all his material possesions, how cool he is, how he dated a model blah blah blah...And the girl falls for it.</p>
<p>Read "Walden" by Thoreau and you'll see being a hermit ain't so bad.</p>
<p>The other thing I'd point out-unless you're in the top 5% of looks, maybe even the top 1%, your social life will be nothing like you see on TV. The narcissism that has swept our whole generation is making us depressed...myself included.</p>
<p>Cute concept wutang, but totally off the mark. That would be the same as saying every man would fall over for a skinny blonde, which is just not the case. Since I'm not exactly college age and am involved in a long term relationship, I don't think I would be so easily swayed by positive attention, but I'm not dead and I can tell what is attractive. For me, it would be skinny artistic sorts with curly hair....the type of guys most girls ignore. Having been in "the game" for nearly 20 years now I can tell you that I've had friends with all sorts of tastes and sometimes we can't figure out what the heck the other is thinking when they decide someone is "gorgeous".</p>
<p>If someone started talking to me about their cars, etc I'd tune out immediately, so not all girls "fall for it". I'd much rather a good philosophical debate or a discussion about politics, literature, or just about anything that actually takes some brain power.</p>
<p>I don't know, maybe it's that I'm not in "our generation" as you put it, but I've gotten completely past the "narcissism" that you seem to imply has emotionally dwarfed everyone else into seeing beauty in only the typical muscle men and skinny blonde center folds.</p>
<p>For someone that is interested in an author like Thoreau I would expect a more open attitude. He was an absolutely brilliant man and I would think someone with the mental capacity to grasp it completely would be able to raise above the status quo of what is acceptable and what is not (both in appearances and in other areas).</p>