<p>I'm gonna rant for a while, and maybe this doesn't really belong in HSL, but, oh, well.</p>
<p>When do girls start looking for more than just "cool guys" to date? I'm not really great-looking, but I think I could be a good boyfriend, and it really irks me that any girl I happen to like is only interested in guys that have a cool car, or lots of friends. Girls/women I know that are past this stage are happy in real relationships, where they can be friends, instead of just having a boyfriend for social purposes, or whatever. Also, all the guys that the girls I like date usually end up being jerks.</p>
<p>Sorry for rambling, but this really ticks me off. If I were to talk to these girls about this, I'd probably seem like I was meddling or something.</p>
<p>Is it just a phase, or am I just interested in the wrong kind of people?</p>
<p>Well that “Grr.” sounded pretty bad to me. maybe you have an inner bad-boy in you yet. </p>
<p>it looks you’ve just pasted a stereotypish scenario over your whole situation, and wrung your hands in frustration. Sorry you’re not getting what you want in life :(. but I always think moments like these are important in people’s lives, and natural, and that one has to go through them (as long as its not clinical depression, but a transitional phase).</p>
<p>The major characteristic that girls are looking for is confidence. The reason that so-called “bad boys” are generally selected is because cockiness is often a corollary to confidence, and cocky guys can be jerks. Girls aren’t looking for a broken heart. They are looking for guys who can be themselves, and who seem confident. Sometimes, they fall for someone whose confidence is a symptom of a less desirable condition.</p>
<p>Stand tall, with good posture. Never slouch. Relax around people. Look them in the eyes when you speak to them, but don’t stare and don’t force conversation. Fill the room with your presence: be open to talking with everyone, but when you talk to people you like, make sure they know it. Approach women assertively, and let them know you like them (if you do) right off the bat. Listen to what they say, and respond with your opinions. Bring up subjects you’re interested in-- don’t settle for any topic that comes up. Don’t be afraid to laugh. Deal honestly with people, but also be sensitive to their feelings. </p>
<p>You will have all the characteristics that women generally look for in a guy’s personality, and none of the drawbacks that they settle for in jerks.</p>
<p>If you already follow all of that preachy advice, and the girl you like still doesn’t like you, remember that there are more than enough fish in the sea to guarantee that some aren’t masochists-- although some, of course, will be. I’d stay away from that type anyway.</p>
<p>I think Jimbo Steve said a lot of good stuff, though I think confidence is more of a must have than a fix-all problem. As in, you need confidence, but confidence isn’t all that you need.</p>
<p>bad boys r the ones who make the first move or the ones who tell u that they like you, want to date u,etc. i like this guy, he is rlly nice and sweet, but he is kinda shy and i don’t think he’ll ever make the first move. while there’s this other guy, kind of a bad boy, he told me he liked me, it makes it easier for me to go with the bad boy.</p>
<p>I am a mom with a relevant tale . In my 20ies I married a "bad boy " against my parent’s wishes . He was good looking but there were a lot of bad tendencies I overlooked . He started running around with other women and became physically abusive . I left him and eventually married an average looking guy who was kind and dependable . We recently celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary , and have 4 kids . Be patient !</p>
<p>Like the others said, confidence is key. I can sort of understand your frustration because I’ve had some of my guy friends rant to me about the same thing…but from a girl’s perspective, I guess we go for the “bad boys” because those are the only guys that have the guts to ask us out. </p>
<p>Its one thing if you’re really anti-social and one of those geeky gamer guys (no offense to anyone). But if you’re truly just a plain old nice guy, I don’t see why any girl would turn you down. Girls aren’t attracted to “bad boys” but rather the confidence and initiative they emanate. Just try smiling and talking to a girl one on one. Sooner or later I’m sure she’ll see your great qualities. Best of luck! =)</p>