<p>why is it that teachers are all pressuring you to balance your social and academic life?
I have always been very academic, nerdy, antisocial and until recently, I've made a few friends. They're all average kids, and I've been invited to their birthday parties. I've turned all of them down, because I want to study for my final exams, which are 4 weeks away. I also don't go shopping with them, because I think its a waste of time. I'm a sophomore in high school.
Maybe its because of the long time that I've been a hermit, and never socially involved, I'm not used to going out...
Can anyone tell me why we need to balance social and academic life? Shouldn't we be focusing on academics?</p>
<p>I know it may seem like common sense to you guys, but I just need a little help understanding this..since my parents are unwilling to help</p>
<p>Because there's more to life than how smart you are or how successful you are. And in 20 years you won't remember your GPA or the number of APs you took. You could remember good times you had with friends and you might still be good friends with some of those people. And also if you are a complete hermit now, when are you going to change?</p>
<p>it really depends on the person. Some people are fine with being antisocial. Others have an emotional need to have friends. Just be yourself...It's nothing wrong with wanting to study rather than go to the mall if that's really what you want....</p>
<p>because a lot of really nerdy academic people are just doing it because their parents want them to and not because that's what they actually enjoy. and then they get to college or law school or med school and realize they've been cheated out of a happy childhood. your teachers are afraid you're one of those people.</p>
<p>wow. this is kind of a sad thread.</p>
<p>Um...for most peope, partying is fun and studying is not. You said: "I'm not used to going out." So, your saying that studying is more important than socializing when you haven't even tried socializing. Give it a try. Maybe you'll like it, maybe you won't, but you should at least try to get out and have some fun before saying it's not worth it. Your teachers are right; a balance is the key. You don't want to have so much fun that your grades start to suffer, but hanging out with friends from time to time is a good thing.</p>
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<p>95% rule says that this isn't the best thing to tell the OP.</p>
<p>without that, you will barely get anywhere come interview times for jobs, colleges, grad schools. You have to be well-rounded and its a good thing that ur very passionate about studies but there is more to life than that. You sometimes get a lot smarter just by talking to people and not studying. Other times, its vice versa. </p>
<p>Dont worry this was my situation too but now that i learned to handle it, i am happier emotionally, better physically, and smarter academically. </p>
<p>I say do what you think is more important but remember you need to socialize. Try to balance it out, it may take a while, but it will be worth it.</p>
<p>You need to have PEOPLE skills in order to get ANYWHERE in life. </p>
<p>Take my aunt for example. She is one of the top gastroenterologists in the country but she can't hold down a job because she can't get along with anybody. She graduated top of her class in high school and college but was never involved in anything social and therefore doesn't really have people skills.</p>
<p>um...well, you will be screwed if you need to study that much for finals a month before. honestly, you can take off tops? 12 hours (assuming each party = 3 hours)...</p>
<p>you need to balance it b/c social skills are more important than intelligence after a certain point... even if you're the best at what you do, if you can't get along or seem overly awkward, people will notice. also, networking is important.</p>
<p>Also, brilliance of mind is just as important, if not more, as consistent hard work.</p>
<p>Hi NewUser. The fact that your parents disagree with your point of view, actually means they are looking out for your best interest and are trying to help. Now, go out there and start enjoying life.</p>
<p>As bts correctly pointed out, for most people, partying is fun and studying is not. Note - "most", not "all". So most of the population assumes that we nerds who actually <em>like</em> academics are working ourselves to the bone and never enjoy life. They don't understand that relativity is more interesting to us than Brittany Spears' latest haircut. I personally have never seen the thrill in "hanging out" and I don't think pretending to be interested in pop culture would make my life better.</p>
<p>So if you're happy with your life now, don't feel pressured to develop a social life. On the other hand, if you think socializing might be fun or you want to try something new, go for it. You might like it.</p>
<p>There's a big difference between partying and having a moderate and healthy social life. The most unhappy people I know are those that have few people to turn to, because they've always trusted that they are the only ones competent enough to handle situations maturely. I used to be like that. And don't get me wrong--I've never been to a huge party and still hate working in groups in class. BUT socializing is nonetheless an important part of my day. You can be a CC-worthy nerd and still have a typical high school experience. Seriously. </p>
<p>Your teachers are probably worried because they see something's wrong. They want to help because they fear you don't have anyone else to talk to. And don't worry about those finals so much! They won't take care of themselves, but they don't need you to study for them incessently, either. Chill. You know the material. So make some flashcards, and then get your most confidence-inducing outfit on and go to those birthday parties! </p>
<p>PS The val at my school is always someone who has a core, steady group of friends. The ones who don't really have friends are the ones next in line, who beat themselves up because they don't quite measure up.</p>
<p>First of all, there is absolutely no need to study for finals a month in advance. If you've been doing your work this semester, finals shouldn't be that bad. Turning doing a few birthday parties to study that far in advance is a little absurd, too. Would you really be SO busy that you can't take 3 hrs off one day to have some fun? There's more to going out than shopping as well: play a game of bball, go to the park, watch a movie, or go to a restaurant. You do want to keep academics your #1 priority, but that doesn't mean you can't relax once in a while.</p>
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<p>I like your style.</p>
<p>Agree with what some other people have been saying - try it.</p>
<p>You can mix the two, though. Are there, for example, science clubs and math tests and literary magazines and student newspapers in your school? Join things you're interested in, and if some of them are academic that's fine, too. The people in those clubs will understand you and your preferences, and you'll still be interacting with people and might make some good friends.</p>
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<p>Also, have you seen 21? You want to be a person that "dazzles." (Although you might not want to start playing blackjack or anything...)</p>
<p>it all depends on you. If you like to spend your weekends hitting the books, then you should not pressure yourself to make friends. If you feel miserable about not having friends then go up to a group of people with similar interests as you and open up to them. There is no right way to going through life. It's all about what you enjoy. Just do finish HS regretting the choices you made.</p>