<p>My dormmate and I have had at least one class together since spring quarter of freshman year. (Currently, in our 3rd year). So that's 5 quarters where we've had at least one class together (including this year). The most disappointing part is that she's BEATEN IN EVERY TEST. </p>
<p>She <em>ALWAYS</em> asks what I get on my exams, then she tells me her scores. Its frustrating to be beaten every single time. There was only twice where I out scored her, and only once (i think) where I got a higher score in the class....</p>
<p>Even if I just say I got a B or "I did ok", she'll tell me her score. I think I'm most annoyed that no matter how I try preparing she's just better...</p>
<p>The thing is her GPA is between ~3.6 to 3.7, better than mine.</p>
<p>I got pwned by the Management midterm, so I'm dropping, (she beat me again, by ~10%) the class to focus on my upper div's. </p>
<p>I think she just "grinds" through her work non-stop, like a work horse, which allows her to edge me out....BOooooo. On the other hand, I try to study as efficiently as possible, while limiting the raw number of hours. </p>
<p>But, man, it just so discouraging to not only get beat, but to be beat by the SAME PERSON! </p>
<p>Luckily, we won't be having anymore classes together after this quarter! =D</p>
<p>Why are you obsessively comparing yourself to other people? Are you very insecure with yourself?</p>
<p>College isn’t about beating people, it’s about learning! If you really enjoy learning, what do you care if someone gets a slightly better score than you? </p>
<p>Stop comparing yourself to your roommate…if you really must, I bet there’s at least a few things you’re better at than she is! :)</p>
<p>you have to work harder. in order to ‘learn’, you MUST compare. youre on the right path by letting the comparison get to your head (it shows you care). keep pushing! youll get there.</p>
<p>just get an A. If you get an A, there’s no need to compare anything. Focus on the exams the most. Direct your efforts toward the more important things.</p>
<p>don’t compare test scores with other people. You’re not in high school anymore. Comparing is what high school noobs do. “what’d you get on your SAT man?” “ohhh I’m better than you because I scored higher on a worthless test! ooohhhh”</p>
<p>You have good points federernadal. I just want to beat her. HAHAHA </p>
<p>No, I’m not insecure, I actually used her as motivation to get my self to focus more on my studies. I am content with myself and my successes so far, I just want to try to see if I can be the kid that sets the curve–you know, refine your study techniques to be the ‘best’. Its more of a personal challenge–I really wanna set the curve, eventually! </p>
<p>ISU,
Its weird, at least 3/4 of our conversations revolve around academics, and its always her that bringing up, “what did you get?”. I’m just tired of her asking me, one time, I just tried to ignore it, “…yeah–I did alright.” Then she pulls out her test, to show me… </p>
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<p>Its like her happiness and well being are dictated by her test scores, which I thought wouldn’t occur in college anymore. I guess I was wrong. Its <em>weird</em> to have someone work harder than you! hahah, gotta up my game, then!</p>
<p>This thread made me laugh. I took two classes with my roommate/best friend last semester and am currently in three with him, so I know exactly where the OP is coming from. In my case, when he does better than me, I’m motivated to do better myself because that implies that there is room for personal improvement. </p>
<p>Sometimes I do better, sometimes he does better, but we don’t generally find ourselves comparing grades. There are a lot of outside factors that come into play as well. For example, I take a difficult language class that absorbs a lot of my study time, while he has taken easier classes. I may have a slightly lower gpa but I’ll have learned Chinese. etc.</p>
<p>So use this as an opportunity to strive for self-improvement, but at the same time, I recommend following mathsciencedude’s advice.</p>
<p>Well sometimes I admit I get curious how other people in class are doing, if nothing else it gives me a chance to talk to folks and get a feel for how the class is doing. But I’m not gonna be compulsive about it like OP, you gotta relax dude so she’s getting better grades than you. It doesn’t really matter if you’re doing well, like others have said.</p>
<p>Have you actually seen her tests? She could be making up her score to inflate her ego.</p>
<p>Even if she is getting a higher score, it does not really matter. You can still get the same letter grade even if she is scoring higher.</p>
<p>If you don’t put as much time into studying, there’s no shame that she scored higher than you. She may pour over her books, but you have free time to enjoy school. Your GPA is fine. </p>
<p>It’s good to be competitive, it serves as motivation. If you really want to beat her, put in the same effort she does, and see what happens.</p>
<p>tiff actually brings up a valid point. The next time she asks you for your score, say that you set the curve for the class, or that you got the third highest (just to make it more believable). When she asks to look at your test, idk… modify your exam according to the answers, mark it with red ink to make it seem real.</p>
<p>If she’s as wound up as you are, she’ll probably go insane. If she asks you what you do to prepare for the tests, tell her you secretly masturbate to your notes to help with memorization, or something ridiculous.</p>