I’ve been at school for about a week 4 hours from my home town. I’m a college freshman and I’m so incredibly homesick that every time my roomate leave I start bawling and think about how much I want to go home. I also cry every single time I’m in the shower since no one else can hear me. My roomate and I get along great and do a lot of things together but I just miss my home more than I ever imagined. I’ve had one day of college classes and I was so excited thinking I would finally make friends and I made none. I honestly looked up the university withdrawal papers because I’m so homesick. I’m not going to withdrawal I just feel so sad evSIRRY time I talk to anyone from home. I am NOT depressed or anxious just simply homesick and I can’t help but wish that I went to community college. If you feel this way or have felt this way or just have advice it would be greatly appreciated.
No one makes a friend in one day, one week or one month. It takes time. The friends you left behind you likely knew since elementary school. Many of them are also away at other colleges or working full time. The life you had back home is changed. Meet as many people as possible. Some acquaintances will evolve into friends over time. Others will drift away.
Most colleges have a student counseling center that is used to dealing with freshman homesickness. Visit the office. You are not alone in feeling this way.
This is really very common and I promise you aren’t alone. With my D and her friends, I saw a lot of it kick in right about this time. Give yourself some time - it really will get much better.
Oh hello, me from five years ago. I probably spent the first two weeks of college crying hysterically. I cried all the time, I missed home so much, I told my parents that I know they can’t come get me but I really want them to come get me. Then, guess what! Suddenly I had a routine and friends and a boyfriend and I liked college and I liked my classes. I don’t know how it happened, honestly. There’s not a formula. Join some clubs, keep your door open, say hi to people in your classes- like, just sit down next to someone and say “hey! So where are you from?” You’re in that golden period of the first month of college where you can ask the same formulaic questions to everyone and it’s not even weird. Where are you from? What are you majoring in? What dorm are you living in? What classes are you taking? Go to everything. Go to clubs, welcome events, your religious center if there is one, anything. I promise you’ll eventually meet people.
For what it’s worth, I miss college SO MUCH. I don’t think I was stupid for crying those first two weeks. I genuinely felt so alone and far from home and like everyone else knew something I didn’t. But I had the most amazing time. I actually feel so homesick for college now. I tried everything to take a trip back up there after I graduated last year, but it never worked out. I don’t know how it’ll happen for you - maybe you’ll join a club next week and that’ll be your core group. Maybe you’ll strike up a conversation with someone in class and they’ll introduce you to all their friends. Maybe someone will sit down next to you at dinner or during a fire drill. Whichever way, it WILL happen. Just keep putting yourself out there and good things will come.
You need to get out and look around your dorm, the cafeteria and look for other lonely people. Help each other.
Discover what all there is to do on campus. Work out, join a club, do community service. Keep busy.