<p>We know that most premeds have a very busy college life and many of them are high achievers (or at least try hard to be high achievers.)</p>
<p>Is it possible a fewer percentage of them have a bf/gf compared to students on other track just because of their "life style" in college (or even in medical school)?</p>
<p>Princess'Dad (who is a doctor) once posted that he thinks the best time to find a spouse is during the undergraduate years. I wonder whether many premeds miss this golden opportunity during the best years of their lives for pursuing a long-term relationship.</p>
<p>I thought of this question when a coworker (who is in his late 20's) said he thinks the best of his life is between 24 and 28. Before that, he had time but no money. But after 24, he had enough money to enjoy his life while still young. Then I thought of my poor kid who may have neither a serious relationship nor money in the next half a decade at least :(</p>
<p>I think a lot of this is dependent on what area of the country you’re in. There are some places where pre-meds will have “missed” this “opportunity” but won’t notice/care because no one else they know is getting married. I randomly made friends with a couple I met during Lollapalooza in Chicago several years ago, who were native Chicagoans that had been dating since their sophomore year of HS, and 10 years later, when I met them, they still weren’t married. Where I grew up and went for college/med school, that would have NEVER happened. Most of the couples I knew like that growing up were married even before college graduation, but this couple just laughed and laughed when I asked them about getting hitched. </p>
<p>From personal experience having lived in 3 states (more rural/conservative) where getting married early is often a goal, and not being married myself, I sometimes think that I have missed it. But I certainly don’t attribute my singlehood to being pre-med/medical student - much more to do with my insanely high standards and getting bored easily. Of course, I seemed to have been much more social in college than most of the pre-meds who post here, so I had my share of girlfriends/flings/one off’s. Medical school was perhaps a little bit different, but it’s not like I wasn’t trying to find a relationship. Same thing as a resident (of note, I refuse, on principle, to date nurses or nursing students). But again, my standards are high, and I even though I love the place I went to med school and where I am doing residency, I acknowledge that I don’t particularly fit in well with the prevailing culture in either city, I’m too liberal, not religious enough, and more metropolitan (eg, I don’t fish or hunt or ride 4 wheelers) than most women seem to expect or are willing to put up with in both places. As I ponder options for fellowship, I’m placing a greater emphasis on location this time around.</p>
<p>At my school, where at least 70 percent of the kids are out of state, most college relationships end with graduation, because kids go back to their home state for jobs, or their home state for grad school, and the long distance **** usually doesn’t work.</p>
<p>I never had a problem maintaining a relationship in college. My biggest problems were that I was a fat premed freshman year and I like to study at night rather than during the day. You have to be flexible is all. You also have to be dating someone with a similar expectation of how much time you spend together. My most successful college relationships were with girls who were also night owls, who were not clingy, and who also needed to study once in a while.</p>
<p>One particular medical school in NYC seems to have a fame of attracting a higher percentage of students who are particularly active in ECs/clubs especially in the art-ish area. Would it possibly provide more “opportunity” for their students?</p>
<p>DS once commented his college is not a good place for seeking a long term relationship and he said many of his friends agree at this. I do not know the reason though as he did not elaborate it (and we do not want to be too nosy, otherwise he might not tell us anything on this.)</p>
<p>At one time, I learned from somewhere (maybe CC?) that if parents send their child to an OOS college, they need to be mentally prepared their child will likely not come back to their state from that point on. It is also said when a person achieves more in his/her life time, he or she tends to travel more (An example: just look at the lives of most CEOs who may even need a chartered plane) and eventually settle down farther away from his/her hometown because the educational and career development opportunities are not always near where he or she grew up. Parents should expect this is the norm for any of their high achieving offsprings.</p>
<p>Sorry I guess thats what I was trying to say. They may go back to their home state or they may go off to a completely different state than where they went to college. Most kids who go to college in-state tend to stay in-state for jobs/grad schools. Kids who are used to living out of state for college, seemed to be more “prepared” to settle in a completely random part of the country after college.</p>
<p>Meat, I have had some smidgen of involvement with the school that you speak of. Having access to a large medical center plus a nearby university with 20k students probably has more to do with dating than the ec opportunities. It is possible that involvement in such opportunities makes students more interesting and a little more fun to date than a medical student who just studies all of the time. However, all schools have access to at least some level of outside interests, so it is more of a personal choice to involve oneself regardless of what school one attends.</p>
<p>LOL…I practically spit up my soda on my keyboard.</p>
<p>As for having a GF or BF…</p>
<p>Hmmmm…my son and his GF have been together for over 2 1/2 years. They were friends for 3 years before that. I can see their relationship lasting because they are well-suited. She’s pre-pharm, but is now thinking of also going to med school.</p>
<p>Relationships are overrated, just go to parties and get laid. Saves a lot of extra work you would have to do in a relationship. Also depends what type of girls your into, if you prefer white/black/latino girls then your more likely to find a relationship amongst them than say Indian girls. Unfortunately they don’t really date, and I prefer to date Indian girls due my cultural upbringing so its harder for me, but like I said, you may not have that issue.</p>
<p>@ somemom: That first part was intended to be sarcastic. Im not really a fan of random hookups at parties. I find it to be much less satisfying than a relationship which brings me to the point that its annoying Indian girls are averse to dating Indian guys. Its hard for men of my culture in this country when the women of our own race refuse to date us. Ah well, maybe time will bring me some luck. Seriously OP, people in med school are in relationships so it shouldn’t be too hard as a pre med.</p>
<p>I have an off topic question but it is kind of relevant, mom2collegekids was talking about his GPA and I was wondering how everyone always seems to know what everyone elses stats are, do you just look through previous posts?</p>