<p>So my older brother is in my eyes, a complete genius. He takes online classes, JC classes, and tons of enrichment stuff. None of it phases him and he still has free time. He plays competitive volleyball, and for school vball he was a starter on a pretty good varsity team as a sophomore. He is rank 1, took AP Calc BC as a sophomore...blah blah blah. You get the point, he is superhuman. He is good at everything he tries and once I find something I like he tries it and then gets way better than me at it. I'm worried the teachers I'll have next year, who are mostly the same ones (minus the AP calc of course :P), will see my last name and expect the same things from me. I consider myself smart, but I'm not my brother. Is anyone else going through through something similar? Any advice on constantly getting compared to a sibling? I really hope he doesn't see this post for his ego's sake... :P</p>
<p>I’m compared to my 3 older brothers in a different way. None of them finished highschool. Here’s a bump</p>
<p>I know how you feel. I’m compared to my brother all the time. You just kind of have to ignore it and do your own thing.</p>
<p>At least your sister didn’t apply to the same job as you. She’ll probably get it because she is (in my eyes) prettier (and this job is based on looks and personality), more outgoing, and more experienced.</p>
<p>@1Rachel94, I have three brothers too. I get what you are saying though.
@FantasyVesperia, thanks for the advice.
@Niquii77, that would stink so bad. Best of luck.</p>
<p>Eh, I don’t experience that as an older child, but if it makes you feel better my friend has it pretty bad. His brother held two state records for track & field, got a ~2350 SAT first sitting as a sophomore, took all AP classes (except one or two electives for grad requirements) his junior and senior year, never got below a 95 in any class, and is now attending a HYP school while paying next to nothing. My friend is pretty smart, but not at the same caliber as his brother, and his parents are always putting as much pressure on him as his brother,</p>
<p>For me its actually my younger sister. I’m going to be a senior and my sister is going to be a freshman. My sister gets straight A’s and has a perfect life with a ton of friends, a boyfriend, very athletic, etc. Everyone loves my sister and wants to be her. As for me, I have always struggled to get A’s even though I work very hard and I live and breathe school in order to do well (I have ADD which makes things tough). I need extended time on everything because I work so slowly. I have friends but nobody who I hang out with after school and I’m so busy with school I never hang out with anyone at lunch because I’m either studying or doing schoolwork that I didn’t have time to finish beforehand. I have a boyfriend who I’ve been with for a year and a half and he was my first love, but he is going to college this summer in Washington and he left today for Seattle to go live with his parents who have already moved up there (he is not 18 yet so he cannot live on his own, not that he has enough money to do so). I feel like my life is all academics and my sister has everything because she doesn’t need to try hard to get straight A’s. And yet she is very mean and spoiled. Plus I’m afraid that I’ll be very lonely without my boyfriend and my grades might slip when I need them most.</p>
<p>So yeah, same boat, I guess.</p>
<p>It sucks because this is your sibling and you’re close to this person but at the same time you’re always played against each other.</p>
<p>I can be compared to my sibling and am the “worse” one in many regards. But I try to avoid comparison of things like academics etc. because at the end of the day, what I feel matters is that you’re a good person and lead a fulfilling life. Being a super-achiever doesn’t necessarily put you on better footing with regard to accomplishing that.</p>
<p>I’m on the other end of that. People compare my younger sister to me (I’m the “good” one with the good grades, etc.)</p>
<p>Hence the name goodnoodle?</p>
<p>Does he have an account of CC? ;D</p>
<p>And yes, I’m compared to my aunt (got a full ride to NYU), my cousins (SAT 2160. BAM.), and relatives all over the world (Harvard, genius, etc)</p>
<p>So yeah.</p>
<p>Niquii Now you’re catching on haha</p>
<p>Only child represent! ;D</p>
<p>I was the younger brother and was the better of us… it wasn’t that hard to be when your brother was in a gang and died off a drug overdose.</p>
<p>Bemore19, we have a similar situation with our two sons. Oldest son (OS) is a stellar student, varsity athlete (earned state and national championships), and published author, with a long list of awards and accomplishments, who just graduated and will be attending a top 30 university next Fall. Younger son (YS) has told me how inadequate he feels in comparison. YS didn’t make a sports team freshman year and struggled to get decent grades with a tough schedule freshman year. YS says he doesn’t feel talented at anything, except making people laugh and being funny. I told him that being funny IS a gift - everyone loves to be around the person who makes them smile and have fun (YS). You have to be pretty smart to keep coming up with one liners and jokes. YS may actually be smarter than OS, he’s just lazier and more into having fun than applying himself at school or a sport, although I think he’s figured out that needs to change starting this Fall. Ironically, OS is jealous that YS is 6’4" and OS is only 5’8". As I told him, no one gets everything in life.</p>
<p>You need to find your own path in life and excel in your strengths. Stop comparing yourself to your brother. Everyone has their strengths - focus on what yours are in school. Don’t let other people’s comments and comparisons get to you. They can’t hurt you unless you let them. </p>
<p>Above all, in a few years, when high school is done, the competition and comparisons will be over. You and your brother are brothers and family for life - be great friends and forget all the high school garbage, which doesn’t matter in the big scheme of life. At all.</p>
<p>I don’t feel like I compared to my older brother. He’s a genius, but lazy as one can be. He took BC as a sophomore, skipped math junior year, and still got a perfect on the SAT on his first time, etc. But he didn’t work: slept in class, played video games at home, etc.</p>
<p>So while I’m not as naturally smart as him, I’m much more ambitious and hardworking. We’re 2 completely different people and it’s like comparing apples with oranges.</p>
<p>I have the same problem… Except I’m a twin so its worse. Go to a different school, seriously its the only way.</p>