<p>does anyone know anyone who their teacher/counselor/etc told them they wouldn't recommend them because they thought that basically they didn't deserve it? or what about teachers agreeing to recommend you but then you find you that they wrote a really scathing letter to the college.</p>
<p>Teachers will sometimes gently suggest that the student might want to choose someone else to write a recommendation letter. No big deal. I would consider that a good thing and definitely preferable than a scathing letter.<br>
Generally speaking, the student should have enough of an idea of their relationship with a teacher to know not to ask someone who would write a scathing letter…</p>