Being Made Fun Of In College. Reality or Bust?

<p>My self esteem has dwindled past the years. I have been called a nerd, geek, dork, and typical Asian freak, throughout all of high school, and I go to a Catholic school, so bullying really is not suppose to happen that much. I'm in 12th Grade and I thought people would be more mature, but they're not. I have a 94 average, a 35 ACT, and good EC's and sure I worked hard in order to go to college. But if I am going to be this pained, I am afraid I might not make in to college graduation.</p>

<p>Lift weights.</p>

<p>No one will bully you in college. Just go in there with a positive attitude. College is a clean slate to start over on.</p>

<p>Bust. There are loads of different groups of friends in college…for the most part no one cares enough to make fun of others. College is a different environment…there are more people who care about grades here, and most people have been called a nerd, geek, or dork at least once in their life. Find people with similar interests and hang out with people who value most of the same things you do and you should be fine.</p>

<p>Well just go to a college where people of your intellectual caliber are the norm. Then, when you make more money than your high school colleagues, you can rub it in their faces at your 20 year reunion. Not really. Don’t let the people in High School bother you. Half of them won’t ever make it out of the city you live in.</p>

<p>i’d wager much more than half of them myself</p>

<p>There’s no need to make it “us vs. them.” You can be smart, do well in school, AND still have a good social life.</p>

<p>There is still gonna be one or two ****<strong><em>s…but by and large bullying is not really possible because college is usually such a big, open environment. It is not like you’re passing the same person in the hallway every day. The *</em></strong>***s will stick together and you will be able to find your own group of friends.</p>

<p>In a lot of ways college is still like HS, in that there seems to still be cliques, and of course, there are jerks in ALL walks of life. But bullying becomes less open and more subtle. Ex. you may not “fit in” with a certain group and it may be obvious…but they are not gonna sit there and call you a geek or something (they might just not invite you to hang out with them). This is not really better or worse than HS in my opinion…but it is the real world. And luckily college/the real world is a very big place (unlike HS) so there will be plenty of people who have the same values and focus as you. It is hard to be an outsider.</p>

<p>I mean, somebody is always gonna have a problem with who you are. Football players might get called “dumb” a lot…you know? You just have to learn that those people aren’t worth it, and you have to surround yourself with positive influences who care about you. If you have a core group of friends, the other people don’t matter so much.</p>

<p>But I agree that working out can help increase your confidence. Getting some exercise will probably help you focus more, actually - healthy body, healthy mind, etc. etc. It’s just a bonus that you will look less like a “typical Asian nerd” after a couple months :).</p>

<p>People aren’t like this at college (or at least decent colleges). </p>

<p>I was made fun of in HS quite a bit. At first for my weight, and when I lost the weight people then made fun of me for losing weight. The people making fun of you are usually stupid/immature and won’t even make it to a decent 4 year college.</p>

<p>People don’t care about things HS people do. Campuses are typically bigger than HS and more spread out. Many times in classes people won’t know one or another and their best friend won’t be with them. They won’t have the gonads to make fun of you.</p>

<p>Highly unlikely. Most people have either matured or are too wrapped in their own lives to care about what anyone else is doing.</p>

<p>Of course, that’s not in stone. You might run into one or two jerks, but it’s unlikely.</p>

<p>Yeah I wouldn’t worry about it, where ever you attend college its likely to be bigger than your high school and tons of other students to meet, in all… I just would go to college and not worry about something like this.</p>

<p>yeah, it’s doubtful that you’ll get made fun of.</p>

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It depends on the caliber of the school. Some schools that are highly academic may send more people away, whereas local ubran schools may retain more people in the area - that’s why I said 50/50.</p>

<p>I think going to a public school that has a lot of sports and jocks and fraternity life may lend itself to more bullying, but that’s just a thought of mine - I’ve never attended a D1 school so I could be totally wrong.</p>

<p>The good thing about college, if someone picks on you, just don’t talk to them anymore and avoid them. </p>

<p>Simple.</p>

<p>College is a whole new world. You may have a few awkward experiences, but compared to high school it’ll be a walk in the park.</p>

<p>Poor you. You deserve better. Wait.</p>

<p>If you want to stop being bullied then make it stop. Don’t expect other people to provide you this service for you.</p>

<p>i mean, people will always talk **** about other people. but i’ve personally never seen anyone being name-called or made fun of (unless the people knew the person and it was a joke…or after a party when everyone is drunk) because they were smart or for any other reason.</p>

<p>trust me. the goal in college is to become smarter/intelligent/get a degree (ultimately anyways). you’re going to meet people who have the same interests as you and you’ll be fine! even though i loved high school it was probably the most twisted experience for me just because people were so mean to others! people are really nice in college, even if their being fake about it! lol, at least they take the time to be fake! :P</p>

<p>People won’t bully you in college. They might make fun of you behind your back, but not to your face. :)</p>

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<p>Wow … sneaky.</p>

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<p>I don’t think it’ll be that easy at a smaller school like an LAC.</p>

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<p>I’ve been made fun of and called a nerd in HS … I’m socially awkward and I’m fine with that. I don’t care anymore, because I’m no longer in HS and I know college will be better. If it isn’t, it’s what you make of it because it’s a whole new start … everyone around you will be different because they’re … new! It’ll be a whole new world. </p>

<p>Did I mention “new”? I’m so excited for college…</p>

<p>LOL no… some people might avoid you but you won’t see them enough to be made fun of if you don’t like them. Infact, I haven’t seen some people that I hung out with in freshman year after that even around campus!</p>

<p>And now you are of age that if people have issues with you and it gets to a ridiculous level (physical harrassment), you just alert the authorities. Simple.</p>