<p>Actually, U of Chicago is not a bad suggestion, but a rather good one. The undergraduate college is around 5,000 students which really is not that big. The residential college system allows much more personal contact as well. My D sounds a lot like your daughter. She was shy in high school and has blossomed in an extraordinary way at Chicago. The undergraduate college is really more like a LAC and the opportunities to grow and socialize with people that your daughter would enjoy are enormous. Definitely take a look.</p>