<p>I was really worried about the same thing you are now freshmen year, with my friend going so far away to Massachusetts and me stayin in our home state. I think it all worked out though. Heres my advice on it...</p>
<p>First of all, evaluate your relationship with the person right now. Is he/she REALLY your best friend? If you don't get really sad from the thought of you guys not maintaining your friendship and just have a "that would be too bad feeling", then I don't want to be the bearer of bad news but I highly doubt you two will remain friends. Realize that most people just stop talking to their high school friends. I had about 6 people I would really call "close" friends in high school. I only talk to my best friend regularly and 2 others about once a month. The others I don't talk to at all, though we still hang out during break. This may happen to you, just so you know, but..</p>
<p>If you find that you really do want to maintain your friendship realize that it won't be easy. Realize first of all realize that most people do lose their best friends from high school not only because of lack of contact but due to each person changing and going in different directions. You might feel later in the year that you don't get along with your best friend like you used to and you don't really have that much to talk about anymore.</p>
<p>BUT, I feel that can only happen if you guys don't stay as close as you used to.</p>
<p>Do what's necessary to stay in touch. My best friend is still my high school best friend and I attribute that to our massive efforts to stay in touch. On average we talk about 3 days a week, though sometimes 5, and every once in a while we talk everyday of the week. Length ranges from 2-5 mins to 2 hours. I send her random small gifts to show that I'm thinking about her, and open up to her a lot more than I used to. And I email her alot. In fact I'm pretty sure I'm closer to her now than when I was in high school.</p>
<p>You know your friend the best, and how you interact, and all that may be overdose for you, so do what works for you. Thats whats worked for me and I'm closer to my friend than ever before. </p>
<p>And know the little things matter. If your friend says that she has a huge test tomorrow, give her a quick call the next day to see how she did on it. If your friend has a problem with stressing or something like that (like mine does) give her a quick call to make sure their not stressin out, and is about to have a breakdown.</p>
<p>But this is only possible if you're "alert" to their feelings. Before when there was a problem you could easily tell just by the look on their face. Its not that easy anymore. Make sure to really ask how they're doing. People think that college is a time full of infinite highs and not that many lows to speak of. But know this, yes there are MANY highs, but what goes up must come down, and theres times where there are really low lows. Because of this people are not usually that forthcoming about how they're feeling cuz it will look like they're the only ones not havin fun, while everyone else is. Due to this you're friend might not be as forthcoming with you about how they're really feeling. If you sense something is wrong, pry a little more than you usually would to see whats wrong. And don't do the same thing yourself.</p>
<p>And finally keep everything in perspective. At the beginning of the year I felt really jealous cuz I thought I was getting replaced by my best friends new friends. That just wasn't the case. And though I didn't say anything about it to her, I feel kinda stupid now for even feeling that way. Things may change, but if you really make the effort, you'll still be best friends forever, and I was relieved when she finally told me this and I finally realized it. </p>
<p>People in college are meeting new friends and are in a new setting so of course they're gonna get close really fast, and they're gonna have new "best friends". But remember you were there first, so you'll always be special to them. And college is only 4 years, so realize you'll be there for them after college and a great deal after that too. :)</p>