I’d see if there was a reasonable way to come up with the extra $ for UVM. If your D is willing to work a 10 or so hour per week job, that would help. I think that an on-campus or nearby job would be much easier to come by at UVM than at Wheaton.
Wheaton has never struck me as an invigorating place, academically or otherwise. But my personal knowledge of it is decades old, and predates coeducation.