“I know you’re disappointed and I’m disappointed for you, too. You have every right to feel like that. But sometimes, we just don’t understand why things happen, and you will eventually learn to accept it and you’ll move past it.” I"ll give some other examples and say some more thing. I don’t dismiss the feelings, but try to keep my comments positive and realistic and supportive…but try not to “baby” too much. I feel they need to have their feelings acknowledged, but they need our strenght and positive outlook towards the future. I just had this talk with DS last week.
Then at the end I brought up our faith, which I never really do. I told him that at times when things just aren’t going my way and I’m very upset about something, I just turn my problems over to the creator, talk to him about it and it always helps. He should try it.