<p>“Son pulls me aside and pleads with me not to “mess things up and embarrass his date”. I comply after getting agreement that he will control himself and call me in the morning and they all go off in their limo”</p>
<p>I empathize with you and the position you were in, but one way of handling it would have been to tell your son that he couldn’t go to the party, and if he did go to the party, you’d turn those parents in. Hard as it is to be the lone holdout in this kind of situation, we can’t expect our kids to stand up to peer pressure if we’re not willing to do that ourselves.</p>