Better to succeed at a lesser known college than suffer at an Ivy?

I am really open to all that you guys have to say, as I am truly curious about other perspectives. I think that most of the time, kids that feel like they ABSOLUTELY have to go to an Ivy are just regurgitating what their parents tell them. I think if a school becomes so time consuming to the point where you don’t have a life outside of homework whatsoever then you shouldn’t go there.