OK, so I have a question, but first, some background. My son graduated last year. We are stationed overseas, and upon graduation and being accepted at a college back home, my son flew home during summer vacation with a job interview lined up and plans for his college life. He went to stay in our home there, where my daughter and her family are also staying. He got the job, which in return, would pay for college so long as he maintained a certain grade level. He was all excited.
Then college started. He physically didn’t feel he could keep up with the job (UPS) while attempting to attend college. He was working like 10pm-4 or 5am, and then going to his classes. He enjoyed his classes, but called me stating he just couldn’t do it. It was the last day he could drop out of college and not have to pay. He didn’t want to, but he wanted to quit UPS and since he had already turned down his financial aid, he dropped both the job and college.
He has since been floundering and, of course, I’m across an ocean so not much I can do here. He’s been pretty much goofing off, he’s had jobs here and there but hasn’t stuck with any of them and, I’m sure, has been spending his time and money on gaming (damn video games are my nemesis).
So, I spoke with him last week and offered my suggestion that he should move back out here. I could help guide him, maybe prepare him more for real life since we apparently failed on that front, and if he wanted to try to take a couple of college classes here on base, I could help him with that also. He has been talking of late of joining the military, and as a former military person myself, I’m all for it. He seems to have researched already, along with the money available for college, etc., however he needs to drop about 20 lbs., too (shoot, he’s probably eating junk stateside, so by the time he gets here, it may be more, LOL).
He stated he had thought about that (coming back out here) and thinks it would be a good idea. Yippee! I also told him this would be a good time to do a bit of traveling (we’re stationed in Europe) while he has the opportunity.
Here’s where I need your help/suggestions: What things should I work on with him once he gets here to get him ready for life? He has AWFUL money management skills, so that’s something he definitely needs to work on. He’s one of those people that just uses his debit card until he can’t any more. No tracking his finances whatsoever. UGH! If you know of anything, be it a website, app, anything, that you’d recommend, let me know.
His diet, he actually knows what he SHOULD eat, but I’m sure, being stateside and having too many fast food choices hasn’t been helping. He loves good food, but will settle for junk if it’s available. He actually loves to cook.
I need to get him to do things other than play video games, just not sure what I should try to get him interested in. He is interested in traveling to some places while were here, but just not sure what else to try to get him involved in.
I would love to listen to any and all suggestions you may have!!