<p>Well I had a blast and made many friends my freshman year and I'll start my second year soon. I've heard a lot of people who you were good friends with the first year will no longer be close friends or friends at all after that first year. (i.e. "move on")</p>
<p>Has any soph/jr/sr/grad students experienced this?</p>
<p>I lost a friendship or two from freshmen year, but it just kind of faded. It wasn’t as if I don’t like those people, we just got involved in different things and grew apart. One reason was because one of my friends got rid of texting, and I only text plans for my weekends so I kind of just never talked. I’m still friends with the people I was friends with freshmen year, I’m not as close to some but I’m still cool with them. So yea, I grew apart from friends, a lot of it being because I went greek and got close with a new group of people. Also, people transfer, my best friend transferred, as did a couple of others.</p>
<p>I know exactly what you meant. I was really excited to see most of my friends but when I tried to reach out to several others who I had met through having classes together last year and were pretty close last year gave me the “meh, I barely know you anymore.” attitude</p>
<p>It’s annoying and I wish it weren’t so but we’ve all got to move on.</p>
<p>it happens. if you don’t keep in touch with the guys, you’ll inevitably drift apart. So instead of making a lot of friends, I prefer to make fewer friends and focusing on those friendships. It’s much easier than being Mr. popular.</p>
<p>P.S. imo, just because you’re no longer close with someone, doesn’t mean you can’t catch up.</p>
<p>I’ve seen this to be especially true if you became friends through your dorm or through a class. Friendships based on proximity tend to dissolve when you no longer live down the hall from each other or see each other in class all the time, unless both people make a concerted effort to stay in contact – and sometimes even then. A lot of freshmen make friends with their neighbors in the dorms because it’s convenient, but don’t actually have a lot in common with those people. Once everyone’s moved out, everyone also has a tendency to move on.</p>
<p>That said, you almost definitely will stay in touch with at least some of your friends from freshman year. You’ll probably lose a few friends, too, but will make new ones as well, so it all kind of balances out. I wouldn’t worry too much about it.</p>
<p>First semester freshman (last) year, my roommate and I, plus a few girls from our hall, were best friends. About halfway through, I became friends with this girl in my calc class, and she and I hung out a few times. I liked her and my roommate equally, but by second semester I would start to get annoyed with my roommate&co. when I went out with them, so I just chose the second group instead. Now that sophomore year has started, the new-er group is my group of closest friends, whereas running into my roommate last night was a little stiff, if not outright awkward. I really enjoyed being her roommate and would do it again–we don’t clash enough to be a problem–but I think it really was a proximity thing and that since I made friends with my current group on my own, they more closely align with my interests.</p>
<p>It happens. I wasn’t friends senior year of high school with most of the people I was freshman year, and I’m sure college will be similar.</p>
<p>Yes. I think a lot of it was that we were friends of convenience (we lived in the same dorm), and when we didn’t live in the same area the next year, we just didn’t talk anymore.</p>
<p>It just kind of happens. We aren’t on bad terms, we’ve just lost contact. I wouldn’t call them to hang out on a Friday night anymore. It happens. Friends come and go; nothing new there.</p>
<p>ISUClub: Well said… I guess it’s always nice to know a lot of people and become “friends” but it’s better to keep a close-knit small group of friends who you know you’ll be close with </p>
<p>Anyone had friends who were NOT roommates but became roommates the following year and started getting sick of each other? or started hating each other? (because they find out how lazy, uncaring, messy he/she is?</p>
<p>Oh yeah…and what about athletes who were roommates? Any thoughts on that?</p>
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<p>With stories like these, only confirms that I should indeed continue to be an introvert…anywho,</p>
<p>My advice, would be to just develop the true bonds you have. People (in general), as I like to call it, are ‘there for the moment’; they’re your friend because you happen to be in the same location but when you want to dwelve past that it’s all of a sudden “I don’t know you…who are you?”</p>
<p>It happens, but usually so gradually you don’t even notice it. Think about friends you had as a little kid, kids who you played with every day on the playground. Not every one of those lasted the whole way through school (if any?). It’s pretty much the same in college. Some friends, even ones you were extremely close to, will fall away as you each grow and mature, some will not. It can be hard to predict which is which in advance, so it’s really not worth worrying about it.</p>
<p>Yeah, this happens to everyone. As someone said, time flies so quickly that you don’t even realize it, and probably neither do your “faded” freshman-year friends. No need to feel bad about it.</p>
<p>Depends on the size of your college. Small colleges it seems like friendships can last a long time. However my experience has been at one of the largest universities in the country.</p>
<p>I’m currently starting senior year and of the 11 people I was friends with in my dorm freshman year.</p>
<p>3 are now in the military or work force, 4 transferred, 2 flunked/got kicked out and only 2 have stayed at my university. I keep in touch with one and have no idea what happened to the other one, I just know he still attends my university.</p>
<p>I don’t regularly hang out with any of the people that I spent most of my time with my freshman year. I just made new friends that fit me better, and I grew a lot as a person, while these friends did not, so just based on that we kind of had to drift apart because we they were no longer inline with my personality and priorities. </p>
<p>It’s kind of tough because I was pretty much the leader of the group freshman year, and they kind of look up to me in a way, as the guy to make their night or whatever. So I have to turn down hanging out with them a lot for my own personal happiness, although I still hang with them from time to time, but it’s never anywhere close to as satisfying as hanging out with my new friends who fit me better.</p>
<p>yeah I’m at a medium sized college (15,000 or so) so if we aren’t living in the same area or taking similar classes or doing similar activities anymore, it’s tough to find something in common and to continue hanging out.</p>