@ClarinetDad16 - Thinking from the perspective of “outcomes” is not a bad approach. Sure, if my son’s interested in the “outcome” of being employed at Google, then Stanford or Carnegie Mellon would probably be a better bet than Harvard. If my son’s interested in being the Joshua Bell type of solo violin artist as an “outcome,” Harvard isn’t probably the most ideal place to be, although someone like Yo Yo Ma has done just fine. If my son’s into composing, on the other hand, I wouldn’t mind at all having him apply to Harvard.
I suppose the key is a good matchmaking between the individual aspiration and the most appropriate place for the person to thrive in. I know that certain type of plants or trees just don’t grow well in the desert terrain of Arizona whereas those do remarkably well in, say, Washington. Essentially, that’s what I’m trying to help my son with.
So far, after having read everyone’s input very carefully, and knowing my son’s personality, musical/academic level, his likes and dislikes, etc., we have come up with the working plan of applying to:
BA or BS at: Harvard, Yale, Princeton, Columbia, Brown, Stanford, UChicago, Williams, Amherst, etc. with music involvement on the side
BM at Large University setting: Northwestern/Bienen, Johns Hopkins/Peabody, Rice/Shepherd, IU/Jacobs, Vanderbilt/Blair, with pre-med course prerequisites in case of moving on to a med school
BM at Conservatory: NEC, perhaps for Harvard/NEC dual degree program
Again, this is just a working plan. Things can change and will keep my mind open to suggestions.