Boy/Girl Advice Thread

<p>I began to think so after she broke up with me because it made me realize how much she meant to me. I guess I took her for granted, I didn’t the she would break up with me. I didn’t see it coming either. She didn’t talk to me about it at all before breaking up with me, which upset me the most because A.) I want to try to deal with it, if it means making changes so what, that’s what people do in relationships and B.) If there’s nothing I can do, I at least want to know what was going through her mind leading up to that decision. I feel kind of like that’s only fair</p>

<p>First, how did you know about that? But I thought about that, and it’s different. That was a really gradual thing where we just grew apart, and we still talk and all. We’re just not as close as we used to be. This was so sudden, at the same moment I lost girlfriend and best friend, went from talking every day to not at all.</p>

<p>Yeah I know.
It’s pretty rude to break up with somebody without letting them know no matter if you’re in a relationship/friendship with them.
Let her know…?</p>

<p>I did talk to her about it, and got no more information than the original conversation…I heard from someone else what the issue was, and if it’s true it’s not a problem at all. I’m so willing to make changes about it, I just couldn’t get her to say it, so I can’t tell her that I don’t care about it and I can get better</p>

<p>I mean ultimately she’s more important to me than my ego, which is what I think it boils down to for her</p>

<p>I may seem a little nosy, but can I know what was the issue assumed by someone different? :P</p>

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<p>That’s why I said. “slightly”. Hmm not really. I don’t see why it “has to be that way”. That seems kind of silly to me. I guess a guy should be superior in some senses…but not completely.</p>

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<p>Eh, I’d kinda rather not tell. It just has to do with her having certain preferences and not telling me (I think) so she doesn’t hurt my feelings. It wasn’t anything dirty either if that’s where your mind is going haha. </p>

<p>and Meadow, I’m assuming you’re a girl so you may not understand. It has its roots in the whole “men are the stronger gender” but (for most guys I know) it matters. I don’t have anything against girls who are smarter than me, a lot of my best friends would fall into that category. But I just wouldn’t want to date any of them because it makes me feel less important</p>

<p>I’m fine with dating a girl smarter than me… As long if it’s not way too much/she always acts that way. It’s better if she’s smarter in a different subject/category.
Also, if they’re not, always pretend they are lol.</p>

<p>As for my own problems… I’m not sure I want to share. Some of my friends have already figured out who I am on this forum.
I’ll just say it’s a Friend Zone sort of thing</p>

<p>I’d rather date a guy who’s more intelligent than me. xD</p>

<p>I’ve found that any dating preferences you might list will offend someone. Apparently I’m shallow.</p>

<p>I don’t know what the situation is between this guy and me. But we’ve only been going at it/hanging out for about 2 weeks.</p>

<p>But I must say, he is QUITE intriguing. I used to think that I should like a guy who has the same taste in film, music and hobbies as I do. But this guy doesn’t share anything of those things in common with me. It keeps me learning new stuff every time we hang out. My last relationship grew REALLY boring, perhaps because we were too similar. </p>

<p>I feel like as long as your temperaments are about the same, things should go pretty smoothly.</p>

<p>I wish I could add something to that.</p>

<p>“We all have those issues: does he/she like me, should I break up with my bf/gf, what on Earth do I do for Valentine’s day, how do you get rid of a stalker, you know. Well, here’s the place to post all of your questions, problems, comments, and advice.”</p>

<p>I have zero of these problems. =]</p>

<p>"Valentine’s day. Today is a holiday invented by greeting card companies to make people feel like crap. "</p>

<p>Brownie points for whoever names the movie.</p>

<p>^ Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind?</p>

<p>And as for the intelligence factor, I think I would like to have someone who is about as smart as I am. I wouldn’t put too much of an emphasis on grades, but rather how the boy acted and how well he could carry a conversation.</p>

<p>haha did you^ google it too?</p>

<p>Clearly, you googled it if you put a question mark.</p>

<p>I’m sad you guys haven’t seen it. It’s not like it’s an obscure movie.</p>

<p>What’s it called? I’ll watch it</p>

<p>No, I didn’t Google it. It sounded familiar, but I wasn’t sure.
It was between that and (500) Days of Summer, but I was leaning towards Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.</p>

<p>It’s one of my favorite movies.</p>