<p>so first and foremost i understand this is a board about highschool and stuff but im having a problem. so last friday there was a dance at my school. this guy i like is single and was just chilling out. i (fresh off an old relationship) was thinking about like dancing w/ him and stuff but was being shy and backed off. i didnt think he would get asked out That night anyway. so then i hear that he wants to dance w/ one of my best friends (who was like passed out from mental drunkness on the couch) so i went and told her he wanted to dance w./ her and she was like well i dont want to but i told her she should so she finally did. at this point i didnt like him that much but was thinking my friend wouldnt even dance with him. so they dance and dance and he asked her to the movies on saturday night. i didnt really care, he didnt mean that much to me. but since saturday morning, i cant stop thinking about him. i dont know why but hes always in my head. i know my friend who danced w/ him and being the girl she is she will probably dump him in a week...i know she wouldnt care if i dated him after they broke up, but what if they dont? i realllly reallly really like him and i just cant keep him out of my head. i know this sounds shallow, but im really regretting pursuading her to dance w/ him. is that bad of me?</p>
<p>Boys are stupid.</p>
<p>If you didn't like him much before your friends started hanging out woth him, you really don't like him much. You just want to like him/someone. I'm sure there are hotter boys around.</p>
<p>hmmmm, what grade are you in, prepchick...</p>
<p>but yeah, boys are stupid and you definitely don't want your friend's leftovers.</p>
<p>Haha this sounds like middle school to me.</p>
<p>I don't have a problem with dating a friend's ex. Everyone does it at my school.</p>
<p>i thought so too, blumuffin...</p>
<p>i agree with lablondie; you probably don't really like him that much and could easily get over him if you try distracting yourself.</p>
<p>on the other hand, if you really really want to do something with him, how close are you with your friend -- enough to talk to her about him?</p>
<p>Why are people blaming the guy for this. The answer is obvious:</p>
<p>Girls are jealous by nature. If a girl's friend has a boyfriend, he immediately become more appealing to her, especially if she is single at the moment. Its just the way that girls work.</p>
<p>Guys, however, react differently. If one of our friends has a girlfriend that we like, we think "I have to get a girl like her."</p>
<p>A girl's reaction is more along the lines of"
"I have to get him."</p>
<p>This is true, and will always be true.</p>
<p>Junior, no one is blaming the guy. oh okay. i see where you're coming from. the "boys are stupid" thing is just a way of trying to make someone feel better. everyone does it.. at least once, havent you irrationally blamed something, calling it stupid, just because you didn't understand it?</p>
<p>and i dont believer your explanation on girls being jealous helps solve the problem in any way, whatsoever. </p>
<p>in addition, stereotpying rarely works; not all girls are like that, and not all guys are as decent as you make them out to be...</p>
<p>let's not turn this thread into a gender-bashing one.</p>
<p>that made me laugh. Probably true though.</p>
<p>Facts aren't stereotypes. </p>
<p>Can you give me a better explanation as to why she went from "I don't really care about him" to "I gotta have him" as soon as he started dating her friend?</p>
<p>Boys are stupid is a general comment I make whenever the topic comes up. Quite often it goes like this though, "Boys are stupid, but I still like them."</p>
<p>Actually, junior89 is right with the whole jealous thing. I mean, obviously it's a huge generalization, but it holds some truth.</p>
<p>Girl thinks boys is <em>kind of</em> cute. Girl's friend gets boy. Girl gets a bit jealous that he likes girl's friend instead of girl. Girl finds cuter boy. Girl gets over it.</p>
<p>i agree, this is strait out of middle school. Who asks to dance with a girl at a dance? Not round here</p>
<p>to Junior: prepchick did go from "i liked him but didn't really care too much" to "he became a LOT more appealing once he asked her out." </p>
<p>i'm thinking it's sorta like this: at first, it's some random guy that girl doesn't think is going to ask anyone/be asked by anyone, so it's okay.. girl doesn't care too much..
then the guy starts talking to her best friend... that sorta makes the guy a lot closer, if you know what i mean, and therefore makes the wish more tangible to the girl.
then the girl realizes it's her friend the guy is after, so she gets a little jealous. and yes, i agree that PEOPLE -- not just girls and not just over guys, but everyone over everything -- tend to covet things they aren't allowed. so yes, it is partially jealousy, and it is partially the fact that the guy is closer. </p>
<p>if i'm making any sense, Junior, i agree that what you said about hte jealousy is half the reason, and it is a fact, but generalizing it to all girls will not help win an argument.</p>
<p>prepchick, i hope your question has been answered somwhoe.. do ask again if it hasn't, for i doubt the topic will ever return to merely that.</p>
<p>i also agree with junior...</p>
<p>i think a guy is infinitely more hot if he is off limits (i.e. he has a girlfriend). but i think the same goes for guys. i know a lot of guys who go after girls with boyfriends.</p>
<p>No Amy, you are citing the wrong cause even though your reasoning is essentially correct. Guys like girls who are smoking hot and more often than not, these kind of high-quality girls aren't single and therefore you have the fallacious perception that guys are after girls who are taken.</p>
<p>Girls want...sensitivity, responsibility, maturity, intelligence, etc...in guys.</p>
<p>Guys want...a loaded rack and a nice piece of ass...in girls.</p>
<p>hmmm, interesting perspective, evil...</p>
<p>evil, stop watching TV.</p>
<p>girls and guys want the same stuff: good physical attributes, confidence, social ability, and a reasonable personality.</p>
<p>Yeah, but I'm not one of those kind of guys I prommmmissse.;)</p>