<p>how strict are college rules about having people of the opposite sex sleep over, given that the roommates are okay with it and aren't disturbed? does anyone have an past experience with relationships and college dorms?</p>
<p>im pretty sure it depends on the college. some don't allow it at all, some dont care.</p>
<p>as far as I know, most colleges don't care with the exception of a few very conservative campuses. I know my college and my friend's colleges don't have any rules on that; they consider you like adults in that regard.</p>
<p>It usually depends on the school. Chances are, if you go to a Christian college of some sort, they probably don't allow it. Big state schools, on the other hand, usually do.</p>
<p>Check the school's housing website, if they have one. If they gave you a rulebook, check that. If you still can't find an answer, ask your RA. </p>
<p>Also make sure your roommate is FINE with it, and that if he/she is gone if ANYTHING sexual is going to happen.</p>
<p>Not like it really matters what your college thinks, unless they're going to conduct door to door checks nightly to make sure you're not breaking guest/occupant rules :\ My school technically requires you to sign in overnight guests with the CAs (RAs). One of my CA friends said that he didn't even know where the form for signing in overnight guests is; one time, a resident asked to sign in an overnight guest and all the CAs there just kind of stared at him dumbfounded.</p>
<p>All that matters is what your roommates think.</p>
<p>technically in our dorms, you weren't allowed to have opposite sex guests (unless they were related to you) after midnight. But we frequently got around those by sneaking in the back doors after midnight, signing your guest out at 12 and then letting them back in the side door 5 minutes later, signing them in as guests of the male residents in the dorm, etc.
Despite that my college is a public state university, they were pretty strict about these rules. If you had an opposite sex guest signed in, the RA who worked the desk til midnight would go up to your room to tell them to leave if you didn't bring them down to sign out by then.
But people would sneak guests in all the time, no problem. It's only a problem if you got caught.</p>
<p>I go to a normal-sized private university, and you can just bring guests over to your dorm. It's not like you have to sign people into the building or that the proctors check or anything, but I think there may be some rules about overnight guests. I don't think there's any distinguishing between related/unrelated male/female guests.</p>
<p>Basically you'd just have to make sure your roomie was ok with it if they were staying overnight and/or anything sexual was going to happen. Definitely no strict university policies against sex or anything. I'd say people here are pretty chill about stuff like sex and drinking as long as you keep it discreet.</p>
<p>Though technically during certain periods like finals periods you're not allowed to have overnight guests, when my roomie went on vacation bc she was done with her finals I let a guy stay over one night and no one noticed.</p>
<p>yes, if you go somewhere like ND you're screwed lol</p>
<p>Everyone already said it, that it depends on the school, but speaking from experience from being the roommate whose girlfriend isn't the one sleeping over, you can't really say no without it being awkward. Just be sure to not make a habit of her sleeping over more than once or twice a week.</p>