<p>So, I know this guy who is in 4/5 of my classes this semester, which means that I see him everyday. He's very obviously into me, but he seems to have no clue how to get me interested without being strange. He constantly stares at me, he tries to start up conversations (he'll ask me questions, etc, that he really doesn't need to ask me about.) The trouble is that I usually don't have much to say about what he talks about, so the conversations don't last very long. Haha a couple of times he has started saying something, but I haven't heard what he's said, and I didn't want to ask, so I just ended up giving him a weird look and walking off. God I feel like such a *****... I once even overheard one of his friends telling him to go sit by me (he ended up just weirdly standing behind me, which freaked me out and made me start laughing.) The rest of the time, he just ends up doing weird little elementary school interactions (I was sitting on the floor once, with my head in my lap, and he walked behind me and kicked me in the butt, and then pretended like he didn't do anything, or he'll pull my hair, put things in it, etc.) The thing is, I am completely open to something with him... he is attractive, a talented artist, smart, he has good choice in friends, but every time I try to help him out a little, he doesn't take the bait. His friends can talk to me, make me laugh, etc, but he is just strange and makes me feel uncomfortable. What should I do?</p>
<p>Talk to him.</p>
<p>yeah he seems confused... i'm sure he'd appreciate it if you just made the first move. it IS legal you know.</p>
<p>Shame on you for knowing this guy is interested and has tried to make moves , yet you haven't done anything to facilitate the relationship. The last thing this guy needs is for his potential girlfriend to be just as insecure as him. It's time for you to f(u)cking do something about it; ask him out.</p>
<p>I know I should do something, but it's not that simple. I don't know if I actually want something... I don't know his personality or sense of humor. Plus I like someone else (who unfortunately has a girlfriend), and so I don't want to do anything that would potentially ruin (the other guy's and my) flirting relationship unless I know that I like him.</p>
<p>"he just ends up doing weird little elementary school interactions (I was sitting on the floor once, with my head in my lap, and he walked behind me and kicked me in the butt, and then pretended like he didn't do anything, or he'll pull my hair, put things in it, etc.)"
Umm... he is making the moves but you're not doing anything about it! That is not "elementary school interactions", it's called flirting. You're the one who's making it difficult for it to go anywhere.</p>
<p>he might not be right for you.. let things go naturally and dont force him to act like somebody's he not.. Some guys like girls who are more open and dominant than themselves, especially those passive good looking ones. also, if they are very good looking he might be too stuck up to want to initiate and might just wait for the girl to do it.</p>
<p>Yeah Im a guy and I hate those guys</p>
<p>you could approach HIM instead.....it's legal I checked</p>
<p>worried student, i don't think it is flirting if you don't know the person and/or never talk to them... it's just strange. I think that I will try to meet up with him at a party or something and let things happen...</p>
<p>You could ask the guy to explain something from class, even if you understand the thing.</p>
<p>This young man has obviously not learned the laws of attraction. I'm sure you have friends that are alpha males and do understand the laws of attraction. Have one of them sit down with him and teach him how to create that magical feeling that we call attraction. Face it, most guys just dont get girls and if you really want to be something with him and you want it the right way, then he needs help.</p>
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Umm... he is making the moves but you're not doing anything about it! That is not "elementary school interactions", it's called flirting. You're the one who's making it difficult for it to go anywhere.
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<p>What? You don't **** with people when they are trying to relax, especially someone you don't know. It would be different if he had rapport with her, but this guy can't even talk to her.</p>
<p>honestly OP, if he doesn't improve, forget him. If he cant have a normal conversation why the hell do you wanna date him? Find someone that's not going to be a puss.</p>
<p>Ask him to come over and study with you one night, and if he still acts awkwardly and does not make a move, he is probably gay and the situation is hopeless.</p>
<p>One word: Confidence</p>
<p>He's attractive to you, yet he makes you feel uncomfortable at the same time?</p>
<p>Get a damn grip and make up your mind.</p>
<p>I second post #13, but when he's at your place...stroke his arm with your hands and smile...he'll probably respond in kind.</p>
<p>He's just shy! You should make it more obvious that you are interested as well, but only if you want to take things further.</p>
<p>Don't just leave him behind because he's too pussy. Maybe he's just inexperienced.</p>
<p>Or too German. Not to be stereotypical here, but I am German descent and definitely am NOT into body language/affection (and I know a lot of other Germans like this including my family). It's rare to get a hug from me, but that's just my nature.</p>
<p>Just send him a nice little note or something. Maybe write him an e-mail showing that you care. Or if you really want to be good, hand-write it and send it to his mailbox.</p>
<p>Why people object when I say girls are too self-entitled these days is beyond me. [sigh]</p>
<p>Hahahahaha.</p>