<p>I posted a thread about this individual earlier in the year, and basically by now, he has "left" our group of friends. Though before he used to sit at our table at lunch, still hang out with us, now the only connection he has with our group is in class...almost as acquaintances. I know that high school friendships can be very ephemeral things (we actually have all been friends since middle school), so I dont know if its worth it to continue to be "warm" to him.</p>
<p>Like I said before, he no longer sits at our table, which has pretty much been a constant for the past 6 years. One example comes to mind: as I got my lunch and talked with him, I was going to go sit down. I asked if he would like to join me and continue the discussion, but he said "maybe not." 2 mins later, after not finding his new friends, he came back and said "maybe can continue that discussion." When we invite him to hang out, he makes excuses/lies, which I feel is much worse than just telling us the truth. I personally don't care if hes found a new group of friends, but lying to the old ones/using us as his second-tier is disconcerting. Most likely by senior year, he will return to us, but by then, is it worth it to "accept him." What do you all think about continuing to remain nice even when its clear that he is using us?</p>
<p>Drop him like 3rd period French and run like heck in the other direction. Seriously...if he's come to the point of lying, he is so not worth your time anymore.</p>
<p>Why don't you tell him what he's doing? He may not be aware of it. Don't accuse him of anything, just tell him what kind of impression you are getting.</p>
<p>sounds like hes tryin to avoid u guys and just hanging out with u wen he doesn't wanna feel like a loner. pretty much what pple above said but dont like be a jackass yourself. just dont look for him to be part of your "first clique" anymore.</p>
<p>I'm going through this with a friend as well, except I've caught her lying and she knows she's been caught.</p>
<p>Such as ignoring our friends invitation to go out to lunch, saying she was much too busy and had to study, only to be seen coming out of someone else's car with a deer in the headlights look and a quick turn of the head.</p>
<p>We went from best friends to occasionally waving upon passing each other in the hall in less than a semester.</p>
<p>i was in a kinda similar situation.. this girl started hangin out with our group of friends bc her friends kicked her out of their group.. because they are extremely cliquey and they're really popular.. so we hung out with her for a few months, like every weekend.. we invited her to everything.. then just one day she wrote us a note and was like i don't like any of you. and i'm going back to my old friends. and now she's with them again.. but me and my friends pretty much said to her ok, but you know they're gonna be jerks to you again.. and when they do, you aren't coming back to us..<br>
so yes i agree with everyone else, ignore him.. but if he talks to you, i wouldn't be really rude either.</p>
<p>Omg, seriously man, who cares? Their is no ''group''. If he hangs out with you guys, then just normally talk to him and whatnot. If he hangs out with somebody else, who cares? Hes just making more friends and widening his perspective in sense. Don't be an a-hole and ignore him just cause hes hanging out with other people, in college your going to make ''new'' friends again, and start all over.</p>
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Omg, seriously man, who cares? Their is no ''group''. If he hangs out with you guys, then just normally talk to him and whatnot. If he hangs out with somebody else, who cares? Hes just making more friends and widening his perspective in sense. Don't be an a-hole and ignore him just cause hes hanging out with other people, in college your going to make ''new'' friends again, and start all over.
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<p>yeah dude but that kid is lying. like hes trying to hang out with "cooler" kids.</p>
<p>A similar thing happened with me. I had a friend and I thought we were close. Now they found new friends. And they barely talk with me anymore. And we are in so many things together. But w/e I don't care about that friendship anymore.</p>
<p>''Cooler''? I think its people who just suit him better, similiar interests, similiar hobbys. Hanging out with the ''cool'' kids was sooo middle school.</p>