Calling all teeenagers...

Pre-College Issues High School Life
1

<p>What do you look for in a gurlfriend, or a boyfriend?? Is it their personailty, their looks,intellect,their moeny?? I mean if there was a perfect gurl, or guy out there for you what would he or she be like? For me, I have alot issues with boys , I dont trust half of them. But my ideal guy would be just understanding, its not all about looks. Some who understands me, and wants to actually know what I am really about...I haven't found him yet, there have been close ones but I am still searching. </p>

<p>Second questions do high school relationships work? Is there such thing as "being in love" with someone at such an age?? For me, I think teens just want to experiment and stuff, but I dont believe that you truly love someone. For me love is a big word, and I think people abuse it these days. Because it is a word that describes how you feel about someone. I think people just use it to use it. Your thoughts...</p>

2

<p>I think "love" in hs is possible, but it's such a rare thing, most of us won't even see others experience it, much less experience it ourselves. I think a few, very rare individuals will experience true love, but it's a minute number. In HS, and to a degree in college, we look at things that are physical, not on an emotioal level.</p>

<p>I've never really had a boyfriend, but the things I like are intelligence. Not necesarily book-smarts, but actually being smart. I like someone who can hold their own in a debate with me, a very difficult task indeed. I like someone who sticks to what they believe in, even if it's not something I agree about. I'm a bit paranoid, so I want someone I can trust. Really, really trust. I don't want to worry about what he's doing when we're not around. I prefer someone I find physically attractive, but a lot of times a guy can just be sweet and nice, and that makes him attractive to me.</p>

3

<p>wow, this doesn't have anything to do with the topic but firefox completely changed my text...</p>

4

<p>I like nice conservative girls with a fun, outgoing personalities. Of course you want them to be smart and attractive too. Being rich is always good too, they always dress better that way.</p>

5

<p>OK, I do believe in love at a high school age - as I am in high school and I can truely say I love my boyfriend (we've been dating for almost a year - 31st!). Although, I know people who say they love someone and two weeks later have a. already cheated b. already broken up. I don't know - it's a really deep, overwhelming feeling. I started crying when it hit me that I loved him.</p>

<p>As for what I look for in a guy is honesty since I have trust issues too - I was straight forward and told my guy before we started dating. Since he knew he didn't expect too much and just did little things to gain my trust. Also, I want to be able to have arguments with them in a good natured way. They can't take things too seriously and have to be able to have fun. Of course, the funny, caring sweet thing. I'm stubborn and argue for the hell of it - and won't let go, so fights flare from that. I definitely needed a guy who would fight with me and then somewhere along the way we'd stop, talk things over to fix them, and then we're fine. I also need to be able to have serious conversations and talk about politics or philosophy - being well-read never hurts. Of course, they need that special quality that just makes you fall for them. I also like to feel safe when I'm with them. As far as physical aspects, I just like a guy to be taller than me, lanky, with long hair. Definitely not a tall order. ;)</p>

6

<p>I believe in love at an upperclassmen age highschool age (juniors/seniors) because I've experienced it myself. I think personality/intelligence is the number one thing I'm looking in a girl. I want a cute, attractive looking girl as well, but in most cases I find that the "hawt!!!" girls aren't really into what I am, but yet there are a lot of cute girls with whom I have a ton in common with. She has to be fun and outgoing, but not overly so, as I'm not a mega partier or anything. She would most likely have to be progressive in thinking, though the girl I was in love with was pretty conservative (I knew I was in love because I could never see myself being with a conservatively minded person but love had other thoughts :) )</p>

7

<p>just for clarification, when said i like conservative girls, i mean not wild partyers and such. In Dress also, nobody wants a girl who dresses like a skank. Politically it doens't really matter (although preferrably not a pot smoking/tree hugging hippee)</p>

8

<p>I think love could happen in HS. </p>

<p>Ideal girl for me... Someone I could marry. She should be plenty mature, and very fun... Someone I can take home to my parents, and someone who wouldn't mind watching a movie with them, just for the sake of getting to know them better. Someone who would go out with me at two in the morning, ride for an hour to the beach, and lay out in the sand, staring at the stars, and eventually watch the sun rise. Someone who wouldn't care if not a single word was spoken in the aforementioned situation. Someone I could talk to as easily as I talk to my best friends.</p>

<p>I guess moderate would be a good word. I don't want her to be too extreme about anything, be it politicts, religion, or something else. Basically someone who has an affinity for life in general, and wants to spend it deeply in love with me.</p>

<p>I'm a hopeless romantic, aren't I? :P</p>

9

<p>"I'm a hopeless romantic, aren't I?"</p>

<p>I think you're very sweet.</p>

10

<p>the guy i fall in love with.... will be my best friend. </p>

<p>and he will be spontaneous. i need someone to keep me surprised. he would also be intellectual, someone with whom i can spend hours drinking coffee and talking endlessly with. he should also be a good dancer. (and i can't help it.. im a sucker for guitar players and accents!) </p>

<p>i don't know if you can fall in love in highschool, many of my friends claim they have, but i think you can come pretty close to falling in love.</p>

11

<p>i agree w/ flipchick. it's good to know there are guys out there who are also hopeless romantics!</p>

12

<p>I think that, people THINK they're in love in high school, but then you actually fall in love and figure out you weren't really in love back then.</p>

13

<p>I think it's possible to fall in love in high school, but I'm not sure if people are really mature enough to handle a very serious relationship during high school even if they are in love.</p>

14

<p>I think love in high school might be possible but it most likely won't last. Both poele still have a lot of maturing/changing to do before they should settle down</p>

15

<p>What do I look for in a girl? Cute, fun, unique- just someone who you always look forward to seeing, someone who always puts a smile on your face. A real friend.</p>

<p>I think Bob Dylan is quite fitting right here.</p>

<p>All I Really Want To Do
I ain't lookin' to compete with you,
Beat or cheat or mistreat you,
Simplify you, classify you,
Deny, defy or crucify you.
All I really want to do
Is, baby, be friends with you.</p>

<p>No, and I ain't lookin' to fight with you,
Frighten you or tighten you,
Drag you down or drain you down,
Chain you down or bring you down.
All I really want to do
Is, baby, be friends with you.</p>

<p>I ain't lookin' to block you up
Shock or knock or lock you up,
Analyze you, categorize you,
Finalize you or advertise you.
All I really want to do
Is, baby, be friends with you.</p>

<p>I don't want to straight-face you,
Race or chase you, track or trace you,
Or disgrace you or displace you,
Or define you or confine you.
All I really want to do
Is, baby, be friends with you.</p>

<p>I don't want to meet your kin,
Make you spin or do you in,
Or select you or dissect you,
Or inspect you or reject you.
All I really want to do
Is, baby, be friends with you.</p>

<p>I don't want to fake you out,
Take or shake or forsake you out,
I ain't lookin' for you to feel like me,
See like me or be like me.
All I really want to do
Is, baby, be friends with you.</p>

16

<p>money, I won't go out with a girl unless she buys me a car</p>

<p>just kidding.....</p>

<p>a sense of humor and a sense of adventure</p>

<p>And there doesn't seem to be much room in the world left for us romantics.</p>

17

<p>depends on what he looks for in me =p</p>

18

<p>See, I have to fight for the love in high school thing, haha.</p>

<p>Stereotypical teenagers I don't believe are capable of love. But each one is different, with different experiences, and different ways they handle those situations. People always think I'm older than I am because I'm insanely mature and real world most of the time. As one of my friends says, "young body, old soul." So, I really think it's on an individual basis. </p>

<p>Visirale: Being a hopeless romantic is never a bad thing. I go completely gooey for that sort of stuff. haha</p>

19

<p>the short answer: i don't look. they just happen.</p>

<p>i appreciate, most of all, an absence of awkwardness. we'd need to be comfortable -- not embarrassed, not trying to impress each other. to me that's the most important thing.</p>

<p>it's possible to fall in love when you're a teenager. i know, because i have. but there are different types of love, and first love isn't comparable to true love. it's like comparing a thunderstorm to a summer rain. </p>

<p>a disclaimer before i rant: i don't mean to generalize, and i'll be glad to hear any opposing perspectives.</p>

<p>first love is beautiful, intense, and devastating. it sweeps you away and leaves you defenseless. you've never felt anything like it before, and you're convinced that this is it -- this is your life. even as it drags you down you cling to it, because it doesn't seem believable that this isn't your only chance. as for me -- at the time i could visualize myself at thirty married to this guy.</p>

<p>as it were, he wasn't worth the trouble. i knew this because when i told him i loved him after thirteen months of pining he said "in other news, william shatner has decided to go to space" and showed me an article he'd found. to his credit he apologized -- he said "sorry, i didn't know what to say, so i figured we should move on with the conversation".</p>

<p>i was wrong, but that doesn't make my feelings at the time any less valid. if anything, they told me what true love shouldn't be like. i think first love is important: you get through it, and you come out with a sense of perspective that'll be useful later on. you notice that you're fine. and you'll keep being fine, and when love -- in the traditional sense -- shows up you'll be prepared for it.</p>

<p>it's like any other rite of passage. you can't know everything perfectly the first time you try. as for love, the first time you're still too much of an idealist.</p>

<p>that's enough sentimental drivel from me.</p>

20

<p>You folks are wrong.</p>

<p>There's no such thing as true love, underlyingly all we really want is a good ****.</p>