You are off track, Snowdog. No one here has suggested “why don’t I get help too?” What I have said is that the rest of us (i.e. those of us without sundry diagnoses) also have needs. We also need food, sleep, space and time to de-stress, yada, yada. Do you dispute that or do I need a battery of tests and a 15-page report to determine that I need food? To downplay the needs of others and make it seem like one kid is the only one who “needs” anything doesn’t help draw them to one’s cause.
The OP, for example, might think that a single should be made available for her D, even if it means taking one away from someone else who doesn’t have ADHD because that must mean she doesn’t “need” it. If that view gets carried to her D the resentment will be between the D and the 3 girls in the single rooms of her suite.