But my real question is say if I did end up going would my parents have the right to bring me back home
@Moonlightsun IDK but you need to know.
My friend’s daughter is a Freshman at an out of state private and there are tons of permission forms that need to be signed by parents for housing, recreational activities, trips, health services, volunteering etc. It’s been a month and the young lady (who is 17) is still needing her mom to sign off on different forms.
On the other hand, you probably don’t actually know what an out of state school will cost because you don’t have an award letter to know. If you can get into the OOS you want and it ends up being cheaper than the in state maybe the parents will be more open to you going OOS. Is there an OOS near extended family or close family friends that you would be interested in attending? I know I felt better when my kids wanted to apply to schools and I knew people nearby that I would be able to count on if there was an emergency.
BuckeyeMWDSG I will probably end up going to a school that is 3 hours away and in my state, but my parents still don’t agree on it and won’t let me go I tried to talk to them but they will bot listen
Gearman and yeah I really need to know
Your parents won’t agree on sending you to a school that’s 3 hours away BECAUSE you’re 17? Very few parents are actually that unreasonable, is there something you’re not telling us? Maybe some sort of pre existing condition or maybe your parents are super religious/possessive or something like that?
I started at university the week after I turned 17. I don’t recommend it. I think that you probably will be better off taking a gap year and starting at 18 when you are the same age as the other students. The academics wasn’t a problem at all. It was everything else that was the problem.
Also, you will be much better off working with your parents rather than against them. Unless I missed it we don’t know what state you are in, but there are a lot of very good in-state universities in the US.
I know of cases of students from Massachusetts who didn’t want to go to university in Massachusetts because it was too close so are at the University of Vermont (UVM), and I also know of at least one student from Vermont who didn’t want to go to UVM because it was too close and so is at the University of Massachusetts. With merit aid in each case they are each paying about twice what it would cost to stay in-state. With what you said about your financial status paying twice as much does not sound like a good idea. If you live on-campus at a university which is 5 miles from your parents house it will still feel as if you are in an entirely different world.
You can talk to a social worker at your school or a lawyer at a legal aid office about the question “Can the cops make you go home when you are 17?” the answer varies by jurisdiction.
The bigger problem is when you are not 18, you usually can not enroll yourself in a school, sign housing contracts, and employment options are limited. A portion of the financial aid my friend’s kid received was work study, but most of those on campus jobs have a minimum age of 18. So far, she hasn’t been able to get one. Even outside of work study there are a lot of jobs that will require a person to be 18. It is very hard to be self sufficient at 17 or even 18.
@Moonlightsun, the simply answer is no, you cannot attend a college as a minor without your parents’ permission. They’re your legal guardians until you’re 18. Beyond that, there would be no way for you to pay for college without your parents’ support, unless you have resources you haven’t indicated. You don’t have a job and your sister is in college herself, so she wouldn’t be able to take out loans for you. I know you don’t want to hear this and you keep disregarding advice, but you clearly have no understanding of how all this works. I again suggest you sit down with a guidance counselor so you can be clear on the process. And yes, another year of growing up and maturing might be a very good thing.
Philbegas nothing I’m not telling just really strict parents
TTdd16 I completely understand where your coming from, I respect your opinion, I said I have relatives who would help pay for college. Also my sister went through the same process as me last year so I kinda know what happens, but the difference is she said home but I kinda don’t want to
Talk to your guidance counselor. It’s interesting your parent’s would allow you to graduate early, but then want to restrict your college choices. Especially assuming you have the academic talent to get through hs quickly merit aid opportunities might be lost by not casting a wide net this year.
BuckeyeMWDSG completly understand just that I’m homrschooled
Oh they homeschooled you? That sucks man, I understand now
Honestly, I would bide my time for a year. Maybe even start locally and then transfer. You are a minor. Some 17 year olds are not ready to be on their own yet and kids still change a lot at that age.
If you are homeschool your parents must submit all your documentation to the colleges you apply to. If you parents are not supportive of your college choice there is nothing you can do no matter your age.
Yeah it does completly suck lol ik I’m ready for college, and there not supportive of the college I wanna go to. Even if I I’d a year then transfered I can bet all they would not let me go even if I’m 18. Strict parents man lemme tell ya
If I were you I would attend the college they choose for you and are willing to pay for at least until I was 18. Once you are at that college you will have access to an adult support system that can help you find out what your options are to transfer and come up with a plan. Talk to your Financial Aid Officer, academic advisor, and utilize all of the student services resources available, most will have counselors for you to talk to.
@3scoutsmom Seriously? Wow that’s BS. So unless they submit to every whim and preference of the parents, they could end up getting screwed. Could they go take a GED?
BuckeyeMWDSG the thing is my parents are not gonna pay anything for my college even if I do go close to home, were a low income family lol