<p>Lbr6's tale brings me to post on an issue I have been wondering about since S1 just completed first term freshman year. </p>
<p>These kids go off to school and the party situation in the dorms is remarkably enticing. I'm sure this is not true for all kids, but I'm sure it is true for most of them. This was an acknowledged part of Lbr6's son's problems, and it is a major challenge, perhaps the major challenge, that I see amongst the post-first term youngsters I have talked with (or whose parents I have talked with). </p>
<p>Where the kids have struggled to pass classes, the exhaustion and escape created by the party scene are essential elements in the struggle. The work itself is extremely tough compared to high school, and when you're in a coma (Curmudgeon, that's a great way to put it! I'm so glad you recoverd =) it's tough to rise to the academic challenge.</p>
<p>Here is my question for you wise CC'ers: do you have some ideas, recommendations, etc. for discussion, about how colleges can reel in some of the wilding under way in the dorms? Here we are in the realm of FERPA and thou-shalt-not-helicopter and the main dorm discipline comes from some Sophomore or Junior living on your d/s's hall. Sometimes it feels to me like the realm of the ridiculous.</p>
<p>There was a post recently about U.Maine sending under cover cops in to try to control dorm drinking. That's one idea, I guess. I don't love it - it seems like there is lots that could be done before inviting undercover police into your dorm.</p>
<p>Here are some of my possibilities:</p>
<p>1) Recognize that first term freshmen will require more oversight than sink or swim. If a student is continually missing class, the dorm staff should be alerted and asked to meet regularly with the student. If the student is too exhausted to get to classes, the dorm staff should be watching for illness, partying issues, roommate problems, in short, life problems. The dorm staff should be watching closely and meeting regularly with any student who is missing classes. </p>
<p>2) Have professional dorm staff on duty all night long in every dorm. If an RA can not bring a floor under control, or chooses not to (common from what I've heard amongst my friends with kids in college), the dorm staffperson should have the responsibility to do so before it leads to a student's excessively missing class and academic failure or a police issue.</p>
<p>3) Have activities in the dorms every night from 10 'till 12 (movies, meetings, themed get togethers) for far longer than the first week of school. These kids are in major, major transition, and many who were calm and shy in HS "blossom socially" (a.k.a. party hearty) when loosed in the dorms (ahhh those coed dorms). A kid who transitions (a.k.a. party's hearty) for the first six weeks of college can have a giant hole to climb out of. I think some of these kids get on the substance/drinking boat to self medicate through a truly difficult social transition. I think the way we have dorms set up now (coed and no lights out / doors shut policy) adds to the difficulty of that social transition. I think more could be done to control the transition period with in-dorm activities, and enforced lights out policies.</p>
<p>4) Requirements to be in your room by x o'clock. Will sound extreme, I guess, but it's only been one generation since this was required. And now we have campuses with all kinds of party problems.</p>
<p>Those are some of my suggestions. </p>
<p>I suppose this will all sound extreme to some folks since such controls have been out of favor for the past, ohhh, 30 years, but I must say I'm not a big fan of the current sink or swim system. </p>
<p>I guess I am asking for some ideas about how to bring back some of the old fashioned dorm parent type activity. I'm just old enough to recall that right before I went to school in the mid-70's, the fashion was signing in and out of dorms, limited visitors, same sex dorms, full time overnight dorm staff, etc. Society has tried an experiment over the last few decades and I think some review and adjustment might be in order. Do you?</p>