Class 9601 here. NNPTC at Orlando and prototype at Ballston Spa. When I went through, there were incredibly bright people in Naval Nuclear Power. Resilient, too. That program can be incredibly brutal.
I have been shocked a the prevalence of this view in the area I live in. Parents who wash their hands of any responsibility the minute the clock hits 18 years of age. Referencing the OP, we get that kind of response more than anything else when people find out that we pay for our daughter to go to college. “Not me, told her/him they were on their own”.
I get different strokes for different folks but man, do some of these kids struggle. One I know, the kid has damn neared killed himself working two jobs to pay his way through CC, was accepted at a great 4 year, and Mom balked at even helping him with a 200 deposit until his next pay check. I will never get that view.