<p>I'm a freshman and I commute to a nearby college. Basically I go to school and then come home do my homework and then I'm bored out of my mind. My college isn't a place where you make a bunch of friends, everyone seems to be there strictly for school and the campus is also shared with one other university and the community college. So there's a pretty large older crowd.
I talk to a few people in my classes but there's no one that I would interact with outside of class. I've looked into the clubs at the school to get more involved and try to meet new people but nothing really interests me and I also am not up to the 30-40 minute commute.
All my friends live 2+hours away and I have literally no one to hang out with after school. I visited my closest friends a few times and I really regret not being able to experience the dorm life like them. I am actually really jealous of them being able to make new friends and being with people our own age.
I guess I'm just really fed up with doing everything by myself, and although my family is supporting me, I'm not a fan of never doing anything on the weekends and not being able to be around people my own age. I don't know if anyone has gone through this or has any suggestions. I need something to keep me same until I can transfer next fall.</p>
<p>Where do you go to school? If it is in a city, have you tried looking for fun things to do in the city?</p>
<p>NP</p>
<p>The campus itself is downtown, but there isn’t much to do other than some night life activities which I wouldn’t be comfortable wandering around by myself. And the city I live in doesn’t have much to do either.</p>
<p>Try ■■■■■■■■■■. You will be able to meet people who themselves are frustrated at not having friends who share their interests. </p>
<p>Also, I don’t understand how your friends live 2+ hours from school. They actually commute that far? That’s crazy!</p>
<p>Also, I assume you are a girl, so it may be much harder to just do things without having someone to guide you I can understand that completely and don’t mean that in a sexist way. But don’t let it prevent you from doing what you enjoy. If you are shy, overcome it, step by step.</p>
<p>I go to a commuter school as well but I myself do not commute as I have an apartment that is a short walk from the school. Like at your school, everyone is busy with work without much time for much else. Personally, I don’t face the problem you are facing since I don’t have time anyway to do much else other than work… but if you find yourself with free time and no one to spend it with, and are bored of spending it alone, it is important you get out of your shell and find like-minded folks to hang around with. </p>
<p>There must be people in your school who are in your situation. Maybe you don’t see it because they are quiet and don’t speak about it? Some people become much more friendly once you get to know them, so make an attempt. Get to know everyone at your school, just introduce yourself, if you’re shy around boys, at least introduce yourself to all the girls. Ask them how they spend their time. Some will have hobbies similar to your own. Suggest a time when you can do those things together. If things go bad, don’t take it personally, and always have hope. </p>
<p>Let us know how things work out.</p>
<p>NP</p>